Soong Ching Ling's will will not be buried with Sun Yat-sen, but with the nanny
On May 17, 1981, Song Qingling, whose condition was deteriorating, slowly woke up surrounded by medical staff. She stared at the dazzling array of medical equipment at the bedside, knowing that this illness might be hopeless.
She muttered to herself weakly, "I'm afraid, I really can't do it." ”
Song Qingling looked extremely weak on the hospital bed, his face was more haggard than before, and his voice was hoarse, as if he had been squeezed out of his throat. Her pain and weakness made everyone present feel sad along with her.
And outside her room, two people were more upset than anyone else, silently wiping tears from their eyes. These two are Song Qingling's nannies, Zhong Xingbao and Gu Jinfeng.
They are the two people Song Qingling trusted the most in her later years, not only taking care of her seriously ill for a long time, but also accompanying her through the last period of her life. On May 29, 1981, Zhong Xingbao and Gu Jinfeng heard an emergency call in Song Qingling's bedroom, and they rushed upstairs when they heard the sound, only to find that Song Qingling's pulse was weak, and all the medical staff tried their best to save her life, but in the end they were unsuccessful.
At 20:18, Song Qingling said goodbye to the world. In the last moments of her life, Zhong Xingbao and Gu Jinfeng followed her last wish and raced against time to groom.
She insisted on walking neatly and decently, without the slightest mess. When we recall her determined and sad expression at that time, our hearts are also full of sorrow. This photo of Zhong Xingbao and Gu Jinfeng taking care of Song Qingling became the last precious photo of her life.
Outside of **, they silently pay for their beloved chief. They patiently combed the chief's hair, carefully traced his eyebrows with eyebrow pencils, changed the chief's clothes, and even tearfully put a small handkerchief embroidered with a small orchid into the chief's hand.
This is a handkerchief sewn for her by Zhong Xingbao, Song Qingling's second nanny, and the orchid pattern on it is Song Qingling's favorite flower. Zhong Xingbao has followed Song Qingling for 27 years, taking care of her daily life, and knows her likes and dislikes very well.
Zhong Xingbao, a woman who became Soong Ching Ling's nanny in 1952. When she was young, she lost her husband and had to raise a son and a daughter on her own, so she worked as a farm worker and embroiderer, eventually becoming a childcare worker.
During her time working in the nursery, she often met Song Qingling who came to visit the children, and she felt both respect and awe for her as a special wife. Therefore, when he was introduced to Song Qingling, Zhong Xingbao was so nervous that he didn't dare to look up at her at all.
However, Song Qingling did not have the kind of dignity she imagined, she walked to Zhong Xingbao affectionately, took the initiative to greet her, held her hand tightly, and said gently: "From now on, we are a family, you have to treat this place as your home." ”
Zhong Xingbao listened to Song Qingling's words, both moved and surprised, on the one hand, she felt unbelievable that Song Qingling was so kind, on the other hand, in the years of going out to work, she had long forgotten what the warmth of home was, Song Qingling's behavior undoubtedly opened the door of her heart that had been closed for life.
She nodded excitedly to Song Qingling and shook her hand back.
Since then, Zhong Xingbao has become Song Qingling's personal care, although her identity is a nanny, Song Qingling has never regarded her as a servant. In addition to taking care of Song Qingling's daily life and appearance, Song Qingling is willing to take Zhong Xingbao with her no matter where she goes, and the relationship between them has gradually deepened and they trust each other.
Since then, Zhong Xingbao has begun to sew some handmade small items for Song Qingling, such as clothes and shoes and socks in daily life. Many of Song Qingling's intimate clothes were sewn by Zhong Xingbao herself, and Song Qingling often praised her for the high comfort of the clothes and the right size of shoes.
Zhong Xingbao sewed clothes for Song Qingling, she deeply felt his hard work, and would always use her own money to give him some compensation. Not only that, all of Song Qingling's nanny salaries are paid out of her own pocket, she regards nannies as homemakers, and often buys them gifts, and even personally sends cotton clothes to Zhong Xingbao's children when it is cold in winter.
Once, Zhong Xingbao's son Shunfu was worried about the clothes to be worn in the school parade, and when he and Zhong Xingbao discussed asking for money to buy clothes, the conversation between the two was overheard by Song Qingling.
When Zhong Xingbao could not afford to buy parade clothes for her son, Soong Ching Ling ordered her secretary to choose a suitable set of clothes for Shunfu. Song Qingling took the brand-new clothes and said to Zhong Xingbao: "Coincidentally, I have a brand new set of clothes here, you can take it to your son to try it on." ”
After Zhong Xingbao went home to try it on, he found that this set of clothes fit very well, this is not a dress that happened to be worn at all, but it was clearly specially purchased.
Zhong Xingbao often sighed: "It's a great blessing to meet my wife, she has never regarded me as a servant." Not only is he considerate of me, but he also cares for my children, and he is a very good person. ”
Even when her own financial situation was stretched, she did not want to let the staff around her suffer, and never underpaid their wages and living expenses. To make sure of this, she even pawned her former mink coat in exchange for money to pay her people on time.
She understands that her team members have families and children of their own, and if she doesn't pay her wages on time, there will be many hungry and wearing thin clothes.
She takes great care of every staff member. However, although Zhong Xingbao and Song Qingling's relationship has become closer over time, and their tacit understanding and trust have grown, the two have also had some interesting skirmishes.
For example, once Song Qingling visited abroad, due to special reasons, she could not bring Zhong Xingbao with her, so she was asked to stay in Beijing and did not go with her.
Zhong Xingbao had long been accustomed to going out hand in hand with Song Qingling, and the sudden decision to stay at home made him feel a little regretful. Song Qingling noticed the little emotions in his heart, although she didn't explain at the time, but after arriving at the foreign hotel, she immediately prepared a postcard and sent it to Zhong Xingbao, and wrote a sentence on the postcard to make him happy: "Xingbao, do you recognize this person?" ”
The front of the postcard happens to be a sketch portrait of Soong Ching Ling himself. Zhong Xingbao was relieved the moment he saw the postcard.
She felt Song Qingling's meticulous care and concern, and Song Qingling's warmth followed her like a shadow. What's even more touching is that Song Qingling often brings small surprises to Zhong Xingbao, especially when she is depressed, Song Qingling can always detect and comfort her in time.
Once, Zhong Xingbao was in a heavy mood because the house in the countryside was rebuilt at will, so Song Qingling gave her a beautiful painting of a small building, and said kindly: "Xingbao, I will give you a whole home!" ”
Zhong Xingbao picked up the painting and found that it was the building on the fourth road of Song Qingling's house, which she was familiar with, but because of the policy change, the building has become state-owned.
Song Qingling's intention to give her this painting, she immediately understood: it was to make her happy and let her spirit have some sustenance. This painting not only improved her mental state, but also cherished it forever.
However, unfortunately, in 1973, Zhong Xingbao was old and his health gradually declined. Suffering from illness, she sometimes had a seizure and could only stay in bed and could no longer work.
Eventually, after discussing with her children, she decided to go back to her hometown to recuperate.
Song Qingling was very worried about Zhong Xingbao's physical condition, she not only gave her 1,000 yuan for treatment, but also asked her son Shunfu to take good care of her.
However, for Song Qingling, who has been taking care of him for nearly 20 years, Zhong Xingbao is also at ease. So, she personally looked for a new nanny for Song Qingling, that is, Gu Jinfeng, who later became Song Qingling's third nanny.
For the selection of personal staff, Song Qingling has her own criteria, the first one is that it must be a woman.
Soong Ching Ling prefers to hire widowed women from Jiangnan as nannies because she believes that these women are ingenious, delicate, and able to devote themselves to their work without family drag.
When interviewing a nanny, she pays attention to three details: whether her hands and feet are heavy, whether her mouth is greedy, and whether her hands and feet are clean. Gu Jinfeng, as the personal nanny who succeeded Zhong Xingbao, also accepted Song Qingling's "three-step look".
Song Qingling personally interviewed Gu Jinfeng and found that she was a person from a hard background because she did farm work all year round, and she was very careful in her work and did housework handy.
1.Diligent hands and feet and careful work are the key factors that determine whether a nanny is qualified or not. Gu Jinfeng's performance in this regard made Song Qingling very satisfied, and she successfully passed the inspection.
2.It is also easy to understand whether the mouth is addicted or not. Soong Ching Ling's house often has guests visiting, so there are many snacks prepared at home, but these snacks are mainly for entertaining guests, if you can't restrain your appetite, it is easy to make a fool of yourself in front of guests.
Gu Jinfeng is a sincere person, she is not only hardworking and willing to work, but also self-disciplined, after cleaning up the table and coffee table, not only is she not moved by the snacks placed on it, but she doesn't even look at it, this performance makes Song Qingling appreciate it very much.
When Ms. Soong Ching Ling quit smoking after her illness, in order to find alternative items, she would put some snacks in a convenient place for her. During the investigation of Gu Jinfeng, the location of these snacks has hardly changed.
In the final examination of Gu Jinfeng, Ms. Soong Ching Ling mainly focused on her character, especially her attitude towards money. Ms. Soong Ching Ling occasionally puts some change on the bedside table and the coffee table in the living room, which is actually her habit, because she often gives the change to the children of the staff around her.
Although Gu Jinfeng only has a salary of 30 yuan a month, her character makes Ms. Song Qingling trust, she will never take Song Qingling's change, and when Song Qingling can't find the change, she will help her pick it up and give it to her, and she has never hidden it privately.
With her sincerity and wisdom, Gu Jinfeng successfully passed Song Qingling's"Look at it in three steps"assessment and became her third nanny. This"Look at it in three steps"It seems simple, but it actually requires a lot of care and patience.
Although Zhong Xingbao returned to his hometown, someone introduced a nanny to Song Qingling, but they couldn't pass here"Look at it in three steps"Dismissed. And Gu Jinfeng's stay not only had a significant impact on her smooth care of Song Qingling's side, but also showed her respect and understanding of Song Qingling's identity.
Although she came from the countryside and never went to the city, she never read a book or a newspaper, but her simplicity and sincerity won Song Qingling's recognition and trust.
Although she knew that she was about to serve a woman with a good status, she did not fully understand Song Qingling's true identity. When she combed Song Qingling's hair for the first time, she planned to throw a few strands of hair scattered on the table into the trash, but was stopped by Song Qingling.
Song Qingling smiled and opened the drawer of the dresser, took out a small envelope from it, gently put her hair in, and whispered: "Jin Feng, our bodies and hair are given by our parents, and they can't be wasted easily." ”
Although Gu Jinfeng was illiterate, she learned the first lesson from Song Qingling. From then on, she carefully protected every strand of Song Qingling's hair, all of which were sealed in envelopes.
Song Qingling also taught her life skills such as making coffee and ironing clothes. Although Gu Jinfeng had never been out of the city and knew nothing about foreign things, Song Qingling never complained, patiently taught her, and taught her many principles of life.
In the process of getting along, Gu Jinfeng was deeply attracted to Song Qingling.
Song Qingling once accidentally fell down when she was helped to go to the bathroom, and Gu Jinfeng hurriedly picked her up, fearing that she would be injured again. Since then, as long as Song Qingling needs to go to the bathroom or take a bath, she will only be handed over to Gu Jinfeng alone, and she will be called "Ah Jin".
In front of "Ah Jin", Song Qingling is sometimes as innocent as a child. It may be that Gu Jinfeng's strength brings people a sense of security, as long as Gu Jinfeng is not by Song Qingling's side, she will shout to find "Ah Jin".
It is a pity that when Song Qingling participated in foreign affairs activities for the last time before his death, Gu Jinfeng could not accompany him.
Ah Jin, you watch TV at home and see how I am. Gu Jinfeng nodded worriedly. When the meeting was broadcast, she sat quietly in front of the TV, although she could not understand the content of the meeting, she could only judge Song Qingling's situation through the TV screen.
On the way back from the meeting, Song Qingling returned home safely. As soon as he saw that she was safe and sound, Gu Jinfeng breathed a sigh of relief. However, Song Qingling's first sentence asked her: "Ah Jin, do I look okay?" ”
This shows that Song Qingling cares about her image, and despite her poor physical condition, she still hopes to be able to look decent and generous in front of outsiders. Hearing Gu Jinfeng's affirmative answer, Song Qingling showed a childlike smile.
However, a smile like this was rare in her later years.
In order to take care of Song Qingling, who was seriously ill, Zhong Xingbao and Gu Jinfeng resolutely returned to her and stayed by her side day and night. Song Qingling, who is over eighty years old, no longer participates in foreign affairs activities, and rarely even goes out, and her life is almost all with Zhong Xingbao and Gu Jinfeng, two personal nannies, and the relationship between the three is very close.
Even when eating apples, Song Qingling would cut them into three parts, only one for himself, and the remaining two for Zhong Xingbao and Gu Jinfeng. Due to an accidental miscarriage in her early years, Song Qingling was unable to have children, and until her later years, she had no children of her own.
In her dealings with these two personal nannies, she has come to treat them as her own relatives and even rely on them like daughters.
Song Qingling's two most trusted and closest nannies were by her side until her death. After Song Qingling died, they sent her away together, and assisted other staff members in dealing with Song Qingling's death.
In the end, Song Qingling was buried in the Song cemetery of the Wanguo Cemetery on Hongqiao Road in the western suburbs of Shanghai, and she was buried on the east side of her parents' cemetery.
The tomb of Ms. Li Yan'e lying on the west side of Soong Ching Ling's cemetery was arranged in accordance with Soong Ching Ling's will. When Song Qingling was alive, she made a will, saying that she would bury Li Yan'e's ashes in the Song cemetery, and she would be buried by her side after her death.
These two ladies are like sisters, with deep brotherly affection, and Song Qingling treats people generously, which can be called the mother of a generation. And Zhong Xingbao kept the key to Song Qingling's will, and he didn't hand it over until the ** person came to pick it up.
Song Qingling has only used three personal nannies in her life, among which Li Yan'e, the first nanny who has accompanied her for five years, is more well-known, but the two nannies, Zhong Xingbao and Gu Jinfeng, are little known.
In that chaotic era, the emotions of the four of them have surpassed the relationship between master and servant, and even beyond family affection, and have become warm and touching in the eyes of the world. Song Qingling, although she is the chief and even the former vice chairman, her careful care for the people around her and her handling of things in life make people deeply feel the greatness of this great woman.
Her excellence is not only reflected in the fact that she is a great communist fighter, but also in the fact that she always has good intentions and treats people gently, regardless of her status. She once fought ceaselessly for the cause of the People's Republic of China and was strong and unyielding for the liberation and happiness of the Chinese people, but in addition, she was able to win the love of the people and the respect of the people around her, but also because she always exuded the brilliance of humanity, which is impossible to ignore.
Through these daily moments, we are fortunate to get a glimpse of another side of Soong Ching Ling, and they let us realize the precious emotions that transcend blood. We will always remember and cherish Soong Ching Ling, just like everyone around her will always cherish her in their hearts, remembering her kindness, her kindness, and her life's work for China.
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