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Every happy family has similarities. Every unhappy family has its own misfortunes. Human personalities are diverse, and it is very difficult to sympathize with and understand each other between different personalities.
One student shared his experience after returning home, which was very depressed, incomprehensible, angry, but there was nothing he could do。It also resonated with many netizens, and bluntly said that you are not alone.
The beginning of the matter is very simple, the relationship between the student and the family is not very good. During the winter vacation, I worked outside to make money, and it was almost the New Year, so I went home.
I thought that there could be a happy atmosphere, after all, it was the New Year, but it didn't。When the students went home for dinner, there was an egg yolk left.
She didn't like to eat egg yolks, so she was left in the bowl。Dad asked her to eat it, and she didn't want to eat it. Dad didn't say anything, after watching the TV series, he suddenly became angry, knocked on the edge of the bowl, and ordered her to eat.
The mother felt sorry for the child and reached out to take away the egg yolk。The student didn't want his mother to be wronged, so he swallowed the egg yolk into his stomach with a big bowl of soup.
Seeing that the student ate the egg yolk, the father smiled contentedly, and showed off that you see, children just can't get used to it。The father is complacent, the mother is distressing the child, and the resentment in the child's heart is increasing.
The original expectations for the family, under such persecution, were disappointed again. But Dad didn't think there was anything wrong with what he was doing, he enjoyed the feeling that he could command success.
This is also a type of domestic violence, and it has a strong sense of command. There are many forms of manifestation, some are forced to study, and some are forced to eat things that they don't like to eat.
Some of them can't talk back, and some of them must obey all kinds of commands, work, even the time to sleep and play with mobile phones, and watch TV, must be strictly planned, and once exceeded, you will be punished.
Punishment can be yelling, scolding, denying food, humiliation, etc. In short, this type of parent enjoys a sense of superiority and authority.
Often, parents with this kind of problem are not successful when they put aside their parental identity and go out to the outside, and perhaps even in the eyes of the world, a failure.
Family education is the foundation of children's character development. When I was a child, because of the relationship in my family, it would have a great impact on my personality, so that when I grew up, it became a problem that I couldn't get rid of, or a knot that I couldn't untie.
This knot will not be opened with the passage of time, and it will not even become non-existent after becoming famous. At most, it will be pressed down, but it can't be mentioned, it's always a scar.
Children who have been oppressed like this since childhood, the most direct reaction when they grow up is that they dare not fight for themselves, obviously it belongs to himself, but he didn't dare to resist, and he felt that it was useless to resist, so he silently endured this grievance.
Some children will show low self-esteem, and when they get along with others, they will unconsciously lower their position。These are the children that are coercively oppressed by parents and will be raised.
A male student said that he graduated from 211 University. In the eyes of many parents, it is a very good child. But when I was a child, I grew up under oppression, which led to my low self-esteem.
This inferiority complex is still there until work. It didn't get easier because I grew up. The students said that the feeling was very hard, that they were not happy at all, and that they could not find the happiness they wanted.
Parents, children are used for love, and family education is for companionship, communication, and guidance。All the mandatory things can be exchanged for the parents' own psychological satisfaction and comfort, which is not beneficial to the growth of children.
Some parents may not mean it, but they just don't know how to educate their children。It doesn't matter, from now on, being aware of your problems and trying to correct them will bring unexpected gains.
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