Children are the crystallization of family love, but some couples have obviously a bad relationship, always noisy, and even often have conflicts. Still, they will decide to have more children. Why do people with bad relationships choose to have multiple children? In this article, we will listen to the real opinions of three people who have come before and the reasons for this phenomenon.
Although the relationship between husband and wife is not ideal, divorce is still an unacceptable option for most people. As a result, they will choose to have children as a remedy in their partnership. Not having children may cause family urging, and some young couples will also have relatively strong physiological needs. However, not every couple strictly follows the safety measures, and sometimes unwanted pregnancies can occur due to a lack of protection. Especially after marriage, couples often choose to insist on giving birth to children. In this case, there are some families who may have two or three children.
Family background and cultural values also have an impact on couples' reproductive decisions. Traditionally, it is believed that having more children is a blessing, especially in rural areas, and it is widely believed that having more children is a blessing. Many older people who have gone through periods of poverty will say, "We were so difficult in the past, how good you are now, and it is not so difficult to have two or three children." "These perceptions have a big impact on the decision-making of young couples, so family expectations also become a significant pressure**.
In addition, some couples may have a lot of family stress. If the in-laws prefer to have more children and more blessings, and the husband does not support his wife, the wife is often powerless to fight against the whole family. For a long time, this pressure can cause the wife to lose herself, and she will consider listening to the advice of her elders to avoid more conflicts. Not every parent wants their child to be an only child because an only child may face some problems growing up, such as lack of sibling companionship and excessive self-centeredness. Therefore, some couples decide to have another child, hoping that they will have the company of siblings, share toys and food, and develop good habits from an early age.
The problem behind this phenomenon is the importance of the relationship between husband and wife. The relationship between husband and wife not only affects their personal well-being, but also has a profound impact on the growth of children and the stability of the family. If the husband and wife have a good relationship, they will raise children together and work together to provide a harmonious and stable environment for the children to grow up. However, if the relationship is broken, strained, or full of conflict, the dissatisfaction and stress in life can spill over into the children and the family as a whole.
I once witnessed a friend's family who had been strained as husband and wife. The two children were troubled by their parents' quarrels, and their grades were affected. Parents' attitudes towards their children's education have also changed significantly, from pampering to strictness. Eventually, the family chose to separate, but their children had already suffered too much of the negative impact.
Therefore, as a couple, we should recognize the importance of the relationship as a couple and strive to build a positive, healthy relationship. If we find ourselves facing various problems and challenges in our marriage, we should try to improve communication and find ways to solve the problems and avoid causing harm to the children and family with negative emotions.
Despite the bad relationship between husband and wife, many couples choose to have multiple children. There are many different reasons for this phenomenon. Some people get pregnant unexpectedly because of physical needs, and they are unwilling to have a child; Some people are influenced by family values and think that having more children is more blessed; There are also those who want their children to have the company of their siblings and get rid of the disadvantages of being an only child.
However, whatever the reason, we should be aware of the importance of the relationship as a couple. A healthy and harmonious relationship is essential for the stability of the family and the growth of children. As husband and wife, we should strive to improve the relationship between husband and wife and create a good family environment for our children. By working together, we can build a loving and supportive family that provides a wonderful environment for children to grow up in.