A parent, 38 points crying?There are heartwarming replies in the comments
As the bell rings across the country during the winter vacation, parents' moods are also up and down like a roller coaster. One of the paragraphs has attracted widespread attention, and a father's heartfelt words about his son's final score of only 38 in mathematics have touched the hearts of countless parents.
After dreaming of their children becoming pillars of the country, they gradually lowered their expectations for their children to go to college and grow up healthy"。
Nowadays, as long as you don't get lost"。
Their words reveal a deep sense of powerlessness about homeschooling and expectations.
In the face of this anxious father, parents have shared their children's exam experiences in the comment area to show sympathy and comfort.
Henan parents said that their son scored 18 points in mathematics and balanced his emotions, while other Henan parents said that the two children scored 0 and 8 points respectivelyThe parents of the post-90s generation in Shandong explained that their son's score did not exceed his age, and the Guangxi mother calmly said that her daughter only scored 15 points in the first year of junior high school, so she did not cry.
Reversing adversity, tuition is expensive].
Many parents also shared their own experiences, the make-up fee is very expensive, but the effect is little, such as Henan netizens spent more than 10,000 yuan to tutor older children individually, and only scored 1 point in mathematics;Inner Mongolia parents spend 150,000 yuan for make-up classes, and the results of physics and chemistry continue to decline;Parents in Shaanxi spent 480 yuan an hour on individual tutoring, and their children's test scores stopped at 59 pointsParents in Gansu have taken their children's math tests from 50 to 19 pointsIt makes people sigh that it is better not to set too high expectations for children. Parents in Gansu took their children's math from 50 to 19It's better not to set expectations too high. "Individual counseling", the child's test score stopped at 59 points;Parents in Gansu took their children's math from 50 to 19
The sea of problems is difficult to navigate].
Many netizens believe that today's test questions are becoming more and more difficult, and some of them are complicated even for adults. They recalled the simple addition, subtraction, multiplication, and division they learned in elementary school, and they couldn't help but be moved by the test questions that require deep thinking now. This has sparked a debate about whether current teaching methods and assessment standards are too harsh.
Causal analysis: Why do parents pay so much attention to their children's academic performance?］
In the current social context, parents' high concern about their children's academic performance is the result of a combination of factors. First of all,"Cult of academic qualifications"As a result, grades are seen as access to quality educational resources and good career prospects for the future"Stepping stones"。
Second, the traditional notion of success has led many parents to believe that excellent academic performance is an important measure of their child's success.
In addition, the competitive nature of home education exacerbates parents' anxiety about their children's performance, and they worry that their children who lag behind other families will be disadvantaged in the fierce social competition.
How can you change the practice of overemphasizing notes? ]
1.Changing the mindset of education.
When educating children, parents must realize that the well-rounded and balanced development of their children is more important than mere grades. Special attention should be paid to nurturing a child's creativity, teamwork skills, and sense of social responsibility, intangible but vital qualities that will help children gain a foothold and continue to develop in the society of the future.
2.A new model of home-school cooperative education.
In view of the indispensable role of parents in school education programs, schools should work with parents to guide parents to establish scientific and progressive educational concepts through regular family education seminars and parent-child interaction programs. In this process, it is especially necessary to inspire parents to understand and accept the diversified evaluation mechanism, so as to create a comprehensive and inclusive educational environment for their children's growth.
3.Reform of the evaluation mechanism.
As part of the education reform process, education authorities should steadily move forward with a shift away from a purely test-score-centred assessment system to a more in-depth application of the teaching quality assessment system. The competent departments of education should encourage the adoption of diversified comprehensive evaluation strategies to truly and accurately grasp and reflect the comprehensive quality of students.
4.Strengthen mental health education.
While we are concerned about our children's academic progress, we cannot ignore their mental health. It is important that we guide children to develop a positive outlook on learning, while honing their ability to withstand stress and cope with difficulties, so that they can make steady progress along the path of well-being and achieve a real leap in growth.
Author's Note] The shared experiences of parents reveal the pressures and confusion that prevail in the current education system. Family anxiety caused by excessive attention to scores not only affects children's mental health, but also brings a huge psychological burden to parents. It is urgent to re-examine the purpose of education and the evaluation mechanism, and find a more comprehensive, scientific and humane education path.
Whether it's worry or humor, parents are coping with educational stress in their own way. We must recognize and accept that every child is different. After all, grades aren't the only measure of success. The essence of education should be to guide children to discover themselves and cultivate their interests and abilities, rather than blindly chasing scores.
Thematic Debate: In this day and age, how to help children effectively cope with the pressure of learning through play, and at the same time allow parents to find new ways to learn through play?