1. Cultivate yourself.
Tong Liya and Chen Sicheng had a son after marriage, and netizens saw that Tong Liya was very humble and Chen Sicheng was macho on various occasions after marriage.
Netizens said that Tong Liya's appearance in marriage was too humble, and scolded Chen Sicheng for being a scumbag, and later they divorced!
Later, in an interview, Tong Liya said: Her original family is very lacking in love, and she has always felt that she is not beautiful enough, so after marriage, she has always felt that Chen Sicheng can take a fancy to herself, which is her blessing, and she will definitely cherish it and worship Chen Sicheng with full eyes.
And it is this kind of full-eyed worship that, at the beginning, makes men full of psychological superiority, but after a long time, they can't arouse interest.
When Tong Liya chose to enter marriage, she lacked love and was not confident. For men, there is a great emotional attachment complex. Over-beautify the other party, and then the other party is not as good as you imagined, so you start to lose and be disappointed, until you finally give up.
Therefore, before choosing a partner, we should cultivate ourselves first, be strong enough inside, relatively independent, and enter marriage with more "confidence".
2. Choose a suitable object.
When getting along, understand the person's original family, whether it is happy, or hard, growth experience, and what things have happened.
How to deal with it, what kind of impact has it had on his three views, including the person's values, marriage outlook, etc., and whether he can accept it.
Understand each other's character and values in all aspects.
In the process of getting along, feel whether the other party likes themselves, loves themselves, and values themselves.
At the same time, whether the other party cherishes and agrees with the efforts you make in this process, and fully feels whether the two people get along comfortably and happily.
Only when people choose the right can they have the confidence to operate.
3. Marriage management.
If you cultivate well enough, you have chosen the right person, but two people have lived together for a long time, and there will inevitably be conflicts in life, with the deepening of marriage, two people have been together for a long time, it is inevitable that there will be times when there are different opinions, and as you grow older, people's needs will also change.
Therefore, the communication between two people is very important, two people only keep communicating for a long time, pour out their true thoughts, share their own thoughts, will let the other party know themselves very well, they know each other better, the love of two people is getting heavier and heavier, if there are differences and inconsistencies, you can also solve them through communication.
In communication, two people understand each other and support each other, people can't do what they want, they need to compromise with each other and give each other in marriage.
In addition to this, two people need to constantly communicate about a common goal, confirm that it is what both people want, and that it is mutually beneficial.
If there are disagreements and controversies in any place, you can also communicate on a case-by-case basis, respect each other, please each other, feel that you have taken advantage of each other, and you are also very satisfied with what the other party provides.
The essence of marriage is a cooperation, cultivate yourself, choose the right partner, operate together, and believe that the marriage will be happy.