There is an old saying in China that "men should get married, and women should get married". The meaning of this is very simple, that is, whether it is a man or a woman, when they reach the marriageable age, they should find a way to solve the marriage as soon as possible, otherwise they will invisibly bring more trouble to themselves. After all, everyone has a "time to give birth", generally at the age of 22-30 to get married and have children, if you miss this stage, not only the cost of marriage will be higher, but the risk of childbirth will also increase.
However, today's young people no longer seem to recognize the "men should marry, women should marry" handed down by their ancestors, because from the official statistics in recent years, China's marriage rate is declining year by year, and the divorce rate is getting higher and higher, which also directly leads to the lower and lower birth rate of China's population.
According to the data previously released by the civil affairs department, the number of marriage pairs in China in 2013 was 13.47 million couples, but in 2022 there will be only 6.83 million couples, and in the first three quarters of 2023, it will be 5.69 million couples. Regarding the increasing phenomenon of unmarried, some people have pointed out bluntly that this is probably a rational choice for young people.
Why, then, is it said that young people do not marry as a "rational choice"? There are three reasons for this.
The current situation of marriage that modern young people think about and face is completely different from that of the previous generation. In the past, the economic situation of ordinary people was basically the same, so it was not easy to consider family background and economic factors when getting married. But now that the times have developed, there is a gap between the rich and the poor in society, which has led most women to hope to change their lives through marriage.
But you must know, how can there be so many unmarried men with good conditions and single in this society? Especially under the influence of more men and fewer women, women's economic requirements for marriage have become more and more demanding, and many men have to give up or postpone their marriage plans in the face of practical problems such as buying a house, buying a car, and high bride price.
But having said that, it is reasonable for some women to have high requirements for their marriage partners, after all, after marriage, they have to face all kinds of firewood, rice, oil and salt, so women cannot be blamed for thinking too realistically.
Nowadays, many young people, although their income is not very high, but the working hours are not short at all. Especially at the moment when the industry is becoming more and more competitive, overtime seems to have become the "unspoken rule" of the industry, young people are already exhausted just to cope with work, and everyone is working hard for their own lives, so that they simply have no time and energy to think about marriage.
If it can be delayed, it will be postponed, and if it can not be knotted, it will naturally become the psychological state of most young people at present.
In the past, marriage was seen as the starting point for a couple to embark on a happy life, and it was very exciting. However, I don't know when it began, marriage is no longer synonymous with happiness and no longer sacrosanct in the eyes of young people, but is instead seen as a kind of "troublesome **".
Because in life, people have found that too many families have divorced or even ** caused by poor economic or relationship breakdown, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law conflicts, etc., which make young people cautious about marriage. Especially for women, they are very worried about their failed marriages, and some have developed a panic mentality.