In the 46 years of China's economic boom and pains, the family concept of the Chinese, who had been stable for thousands of years, was affected by the devastating impact of socialism and the commodity economy, and the contradictions between the three generations in many large families have reached a state of discord or are close to tearing apart. Although the primary school students can recite the "** Rules" in full, the harmonious family has become more rare.
How the Americans, who have the most developed commodity economy, treat their parents and children with affection for their children is undoubtedly an important reference for today's Chinese society. Some universal values are a good solution to the current conflict of family values in China.
The 69 essays in the book are nothing more than two kinds of things: either to praise the selfless love of parents for their children, or to praise the beauty of their children's character. The 69 articles were all unremarkable, but there were more than 10 articles that moved me to tears. The core idea of these essays is to warn readers to cherish and cherish these beautiful things between parents and children, so as to avoid the pain that comes with their loss.
1. Ways to consolidate the good family relationship between parents and children
After reading this book, I feel that I have learned a way to strengthen the beautiful relationship between parents and children: sharpen our nerves so that we can capture and appreciate the hidden love in time, and learn to integrate our love into the details of our daily activities. There are no rushing rivers at home, only a trickle of water. We need to improve our perception of trickles!
According to this theory, although the theme ideas of the following two articles are very incisively expressed, they are both unsound and even harmful, and it is not enough to have the following two realms, but to be able to keenly perceive the existence of love is the master of life.
if life is a quilt, then love should be a thread. it can hardly been seen anywhere or anytime. but it is really there. love is inside.
real beauty lies not in the physical appearance, but in the heart. real love lies not in what is done and know, but in what is done but not known
The correct way to strengthen the good relationship between parents and children is also mentioned in this book, and I also inadvertently practiced this theory 40 years ago:
circumstances or people can take away your material possessions, they can take away your money, and they can take away your health. but no one can ever take away your precious memories. so, do not forget to make time and take the opportunities to make memories every day.
I have a few hard drives with nearly 500,000 digital images from nearly 25 years of my life**, and I'm the most photographed person I know. Why are you so willing to record your life experiences? It may have something to do with an incident when I was a sophomore in high school 40 years ago. My grandmother had cancer at the time, she was still in good health in the early days of her illness, and during a long conversation with my uncle who was visiting from Jiamusi, I quietly pressed down the tape recorder, and later this tape became a precious thing in our family, and I was praised by my mother many times.
Only by recording beautiful moments, appreciating beautiful moments, creating beautiful moments, and making family harmony and warmth permanent!
IIThe Praying Hand
The Praying Hand is a pen sketch by Albrecht Dürer, a German printmaker, painter and the finest artist of the Northern Renaissance, painted in white and black ink on precious homemade blue paper, now in the Albertina Museum in Vienna. The painting is a close-up of two male apostles' hands together in prayer, as well as partially rolled up sleeves.
There are three versions of the story behind the painting. The most touching version is as described in the book, and although the story is extremely moving, it can also be used as one of the appropriate backstories for the painting.
Dürer had 18 brothers and sisters. One of his older brothers shared his dream of becoming an artist. At the time, both brothers were studying painting with painters near Nuremberg. However, due to the family's financial difficulties, the brothers had to work and study part-time to make ends meet. Since they can't fully focus on painting, they progress slowly. One day, my brother suggested that one person should work first, and the other should concentrate on learning to paint, and then let the second person learn when the painting could be sold for money. Both brothers wanted to give each other the opportunity to learn, so they argued, and finally decided by throwing copper plates. As a result, Dürer won and entered the Academy of Arts.
Four years later, Dürer returned from his studies and hoped to support his brother in realizing his dream at the art academy, but his brother was no longer able to learn to paint because he had been working in the mines, and his joints were stiff. One day, the elder brother knelt on the ground and put together his rough hands and prayed, "Lord! My hands no longer allow me to realize my dream of becoming an artist, and I hope you will double my talent and ability to my brother Albrecht. When Dürer saw this scene, he emotionally took out his paintbrush and sketched his brother's hands with tears in his eyes.
It's a pity that this touching story is made up.
The second version is:
Durer completed this drawing as a preparatory study for his heller altarpiece in Frankfort, which has long been the most widely accepted claim as an altarpiece in a church in Frankfort.
The third version is:
in recent years a new opinion, formed from considerable research, is that it was in fact part of a campaign by the artist to promote his technical talents to potential suitors. the detail delivered in this drawing is extraordinary.It turned out to be a poster for Dür to show off his drawing skills!
IIISneeringWorker's dadWhyIt has become a typical example of "will love his son".
the man had done nothing during all that time but denigrates his son, belittling him for wanting to lift weights, for wanting to read his father’s news***for every thing he did and said.” you are not smart enough”, he told the boy disparagingly and there was another peal of mocking laughter.
Pudgy and Bald, dressed in a mechanic's uniform, the father, according to the standard of "good parent" as we know it, is to erase the child's nature in the real way! But after the scene that the author saw in harmony with his son, he changed his opinion of this sneering worker's father, and this glimpse of the author slapped the author in the face and hurt the reader's face. It turns out that encouragement and protection for children are not the most important thing! This seems to explain why parents who praise their children to the sky and praise them to the extreme often spoil their children!
to my surprise, the father had his arm around his son’s shoulder, and in contradiction to the harshness of his laugh, he smiled at the boy. his son smiled up at him self-deprecatingly. the love between them was obvious.
It turns out that when the father ruthlessly and unabashedly denies his son's request many times, he can still make the child feel strong love and affection! This is the great way of fatherhood! After laughing and exercising, the strong affection between father and son makes the child feel only the love that comes from his father's playmate, and under the hypnosis of this love, it is sweet to be criticized and denied! The most important thing is to let children feel the true love of their parents! Parenting skills should not be completely superstitious!
Nearly 100 original articles include five categories: English Reflections, World War II in Europe, Photography, Modern Chinese History, and Real Estate Investment. Typical Articles:
World War II in Europe: The hideout and resting place of the most famous Jewish girl.
Remnants of World War II in Europe - Nuremberg, Germany.
Remnants of World War II in Europe - Hamburg and Hanover.
Hitler's marriage certificate and burial place.
World War II in Europe: A beer hall that almost twice changed the history of World War II.