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I have always firmly believed that marriage is a matter for both parties, and that the bride price is just a custom and should not be a stumbling block to marriage.
However, my parents insisted that I hand over the 200,000 bride price given to me by my in-laws, otherwise I would not come to my wedding.
This distressed me.
My husband and I met at a party and we fell in love at first sight and fell in love with each other.
In the process of getting to know each other, we found that each other's values, interests, and living habits are so similar.
When we decided to get married, my in-laws gave me a bride price of 200,000 yuan.
That's a lot of money in our country.
I was moved in my heart because of my in-laws' love and respect for me.
However, when my parents found out that I had received a bride price of 200,000 yuan, they asked me to give them the money.
In their opinion, the money should have been given to the woman's parents.
However, I don't think so.
If it's really for my parents, then why would they give it to me, and not to my parents?
What's more, after we get married, we still need a sum of money, and I think this money is the family fund that my in-laws have given to the two of us.
Although I love my parents very much, I am about to start a family, and I don't want the bride price to affect our relationship.
I try to communicate with my parents and tell them what I think and feel.
I told them that if there was no 200,000 bride price, the quality of life and happiness of both of us would be affected in the future.
I really don't want to affect the relationship between our husband and wife, and later in life, for a little money.
However, my parents didn't understand and scolded me for being unfilial.
They had to pay my bride price, or they wouldn't come to my wedding.
I felt disappointed and helpless.
I didn't want to disappoint my parents and I didn't want to go against my will.
What the hell am I doing wrong?Should I think and act like this?
When I was confused and in pain, my husband gave me the greatest comfort and support.
He said he understood what I was thinking and supported my decision.
He made me understand that love is not about money, but about sincerity and trust.
No matter what choice I make, he will always stand by my side, support me, and accompany me.
If I care about my parents' attitude, then fulfill their wishes, give them money, and then we work hard together.
After listening to my husband's words, I was very touched and warm.
I didn't misread the man, he is a person I can trust.
I strengthened my convictions.
Originally, marriage is a matter of mutual affection, and what is needed is mutual understanding, mutual support, and mutual trust.
If you delay your feelings and your future life because of the bride price, it will be too late to regret it.
For the sake of this family, I decided not to pay the bride price to my parents.
I told my parents that I was very grateful for their love and support for me, but I also wanted to think about our future.
When the parents heard this, they were really angry.
They said they wouldn't be present at our wedding.
Even though I knew this, I couldn't help but shed tears.
My husband took me in his arms and comforted me silently.
After doing this, I pulled myself together and prepared for our wedding.
Just three days before the wedding, my mom suddenly called** and said that she would be on time for the wedding.
When I heard the news, I couldn't believe it and couldn't understand why they had suddenly changed their minds.
Who doesn't want to get married with the blessing of their family?
Later, I found out that it was my husband who went to persuade my parents, and he didn't tell me what he said.
But overall, I also have a wish.
On our wedding day, we got married in full view of our family.
At that moment, I was really happy and happy.
In the future, I will face challenges and difficulties with my husband and work together to manage our marriage and family.
I firmly believe that as long as we understand each other, support each other, and trust each other, our relationship will be better and stronger.