As an ordinary girl with many years of emotional observation, I have always had doubts about those boys who are called "warm men". In everyone's eyes, warm men seem to be a very noble existence, they always behave gently, carefully and considerately, giving people a feeling of warmth. But I firmly believe that Nuan Nan is actually a high-level "scumbag", and this view is not untargeted.
Warm men tend to pay too much attention to their own image and like to package themselves as a warm and affectionate machismo. In public, they always go out of their way to show their personable demeanor, and they do not hesitate to spend a lot of energy and money to build their image and give people a dazzling feeling. Behind this, however, is their excessive narcissism and vanity towards themselves. They don't care about others out of genuine concern, but just a show to satisfy their own vanity.
Warm men often use some sentimental emotions in emotional interactions to induce the other party to become dependent. They accompany each other with a gentle tone, take care of each other, and listen to each other's troubles. After the other party becomes dependent, the warm man often quietly changes his ** degree and begins to exert control over the other party to achieve the purpose of satisfying his own desires. Such behavior is nothing more than an emotional desire for control and is a very unhealthy behavior.
What worries me even more is that Nuan Man seems to protect the rights and interests of women, but in fact he hides discrimination against women. They are adept at exploiting women's weakness, using love and protection as a means to win women's affection, making women think that they are their own redeemers. Behind this love is a tendency to control women and deprive them of their liberty. The warm man looks very gentle on the surface, but in fact, he inadvertently puts women in a state of passivity and dependence.
Nuan Nan often knows how to act on the spot, and knows how to use words and actions to create a pleasant atmosphere. They express their opinions in gentle language, often following the other person's meaning, making the other person mistakenly believe that they are truly understood and cared for. It's just a show they put on to get the favor of the other person. They don't have a real mind or personality, they are just catering to each other's preferences and expectations in order to gain each other's approval.
The warm man looks warm and considerate, but he is actually a high-level scumbag. What they pursue is not true love and emotional communication, but a disguise to satisfy their own vanity and desire for control. They know how to use fake care and performance to gain the attention and dependence of the other person, but ignore the real feelings and needs of the other person. We should be vigilant enough not to be fooled by these disguised boys.