Walking through the road of life, we all want to live the way we like, but as time goes by, we find that we are drifting away from that dream, and finally become the person we once hated the most.
In life, too much of the body is involuntarily. We all abhor hypocrisy and politeness, but the pressures of life often force us to speak against our hearts. In the drama of life, most of the time we can't be a director, a screenwriter, or a script, so in the end, we can only get some roles we don't like to perform.
Are we all living in the characters we hate? Of course not!
Lu Yao once said:"I think everyone has a period of awakening, but sooner or later the awakening determines the fate of the individual. ”
What is Awakening? When you suddenly realize your existence, your own worth, and your infinite possibilities, you wake up! True awakening is the conscious re-living oneself, reconciling with oneself, and then learning to love oneself.
In the new year, please work hard from these 3 aspects and start loving yourself!
The psychologist Carl Jung once said:"There are two human lives, the first time is to live for others to see, and the second time is to live for oneself. ”
Usually we say that a person who loves himself must know how to respect his feelings. If you encounter excessive demands from others, know how to refuse.
The interaction between people, relatives, lovers, friends, and colleagues is actually a temptation. We are all testing each other's bottom line through one thing at a time, and if we are always lowering the bottom line invisibly, in fact, the other party has also been acquiesced in and violated our principles step by step.
The most helpless thing in "Ode to Joy" is Fan Shengmei, behind her glamorous and beautiful, there are thousands of holes, and behind her smile is the shackles of family affection that she is unable to break free. In order to survive, she tried her best in Shanghai alone, but her parents would only call her ** when she was short of money, in addition to asking for money, she was begging her to help the family solve difficulties, she was the living Bodhisattva of this family.
As a senior HR, she is quite handy in handling interpersonal relationships, but she can't do anything in the face of her family's bottomless request, on the surface, she can't get rid of the shackles of her original family, in fact, it's all because she doesn't know how to refuse.
And she doesn't understand the reason behind the rejection is because she longs to be recognized, eager to enhance her sense of existence by helping her family, as a girl who grew up in a patriarchal family from childhood to adulthood, she can prove her worth by helping her family, so she would rather suffer herself than refuse.
We always think that as long as we pay a little more, we can always get a little more recognition from others, however, people who really care about you can't bear to watch you be wronged, but all hard work is forced, this kind of "good" at the expense of self is harmful. Don't be afraid to refuse to embarrass others, anyway, those who endure to embarrass us are not good people.
As Zhang Xiaoxian said:If you really can't help but love someone who doesn't love you, it's because you don't know how to love yourself. If you always try to love you by compromising and buying people, you will only get hurt in the end.
You can't change the selfishness of human nature, but you can control your attitude. In order not to become cowardly and humble, then learn to say no, love yourself more, and pay more attention to your inner feelings, rather than what others say about you.
Writer Su Cen saidYou don't have to invite everyone into your life.
Life is like a journey, and the people you meet are all kinds of people. The right people can nourish each other and make each other better people. The wrong people pull each other and consume each other.
Although we can't simply and rudely evaluate each other with good and bad people in a relationship, there are indeed some inappropriate people in this world, maybe you have been happy in that relationship, and you have indeed put him in an important position, but when you realize that you are getting worse and worse, it is time for you to leave.
In the first ten episodes of the TV series "Prosperous", Reiko's image is not pleasing, and she is nicknamed a "debt collector" by her uncle, and she is both pretentious and greedy for money. But in fact, she was the noble person of Mr. Bao, and when Ah Bao was down, she did not hesitate to lend him her "Fortune Dao" to help him become Mr. Bao from Ah Bao.
Reiko's mistake is to take kindness as love, she regards Night Tokyo as a husband-and-wife shop run with Bao, and treats Mr. Bao's rice as a tacit family banquet, however, she has never been able to wait for Mr. Bao's promise, but she has to pretend to smile and entertain Yingying Yanyan beside Mr. Bao as the proprietress of the boss. Finally, after the Pearl Earrings broke out, she completely saw Mr. Bao's sincerity, and at that moment she realized that this relationship was just her own wishful thinking.
So, when she was 40 years old, Sister Lingzi completely drew a line with Mr. Bao and wanted to return to her "luck". Since then, I don't rely on men, I redecorate Tokyo at night, and I have rediscovered my former self.
If you are with someone who inspires the goodness in you, such as being positive, optimistic, sincere, and brave, he is nourishing you. If he inspires evil in your heart, such as anger, jealousy, hatred, and greed, he is consuming you.
In the world of feelings, love is called love when it is right, and love is regret if it is wrong, if you are deeply involved in it, you will only make yourself worse, and you can withdraw in time to achieve self-redemption.
Just like Reiko's feelings for Mr. Bao, that person is indeed very good, but the process of falling in love with him did not make Reiko better, but made her constantly consume herself. True love is not limited to "washing hands and making soup" for the beloved, but becoming a better person with him.
Bacon said:There are many stupid things that people can do in their lives, but the stupidest thing is to ignore their health.
We always say that in the adult world, nothing is easy, everyone is working hard for performance, and even overdraft health.
According to statistics, the main cause of injury in top athletes is not from tripping and falling during sports, nor from collisions, but from overwork. "Death from overwork" also occurs from time to time among young people, and it is also normal to feel physically and mentally exhausted.
We always say that work is for a better life, but the truth is that we often neglect our lives because we are busy with work.
Self-Control" mentions:"Stress is the mortal enemy of willpower, and there is nothing more costly to willpower than stress. If the brain is in a state of high stress levels for a long time, the person can easily fall into neurasthenia, depression, and even lead to insomnia. ”
People are not machines, they know how to stop in order to know how to move forward, if they work late and there is still no progress, it is better to let themselves sleep well, and sometimes it is less efficient to put too much pressure on yourself.
Life is a marathon, only by knowing how to combine work and rest, let the body rest, let the mind be relaxed, will not exhaust yourself in the busy.
The reason why people feel unsatisfactory and feel that they have become what they hate is because they always like to compete with themselves.
I didn't want to go to the party, but I was afraid that others would say that you didn't fit in, so I forced myself to participate; obviously had a lot of money, but because he was afraid of refusing to hurt his friendship, he scraped together to lend money to his friends; Obviously, I didn't eat hungry for breakfast, but I saw that no one else left to eat, so I kept trying to ......
In the past year, have you always taken others very seriously, looked down on yourself, and even often embarrassed yourself for the sake of other people?
Dale Carnegie once said, "Love for yourself is the foundation of everything." ”
So, whether it's now, or every ordinary day in the future, love yourself well and live for yourself! In the new year, start with these 3 aspects and love yourself well!
end- Dynamic incentive plan for February