The dilemma of the father after remarriage: responsibility and helplessness.
I'm Zhang Jiaxing, 41 years old, I've been single and working at a foreign language training institution in Beijing. Although I have never been married, my sister is 38 years old and married with two children. She and her brother-in-law settled in Beijing. Let me share with you a story about family, responsibility, and helplessness.
I was born in a small mountain village in the northeast, and my parents were farmers. They were born out of the hard days of that era, so the family has always lived a very simple life. My mother was even more frugal to the extreme, not buying a new dress for several years, and she always smiled and said, "Save money for two children to go to college." ”
As time passed, my father found a job in a mining factory, and the family's fortunes gradually improved. My sister and I got good grades and got into college. After graduating, I chose to stay in Dalian to work, and through my own efforts, I was able to purchase a house with a down payment. A few years later, due to my excellent performance, I was sent to Beijing by the company. This was also the starting point for my sister and I to settle down in Beijing.
Her mother has always been the support of the family, and she has not even bought new clothes for many years in order to save money. My father worked in the mine and worked hard, but my mother always took on the housework silently so that my father could have a good rest. Although I persuaded her to take it easy, my mother always laughed it off, and her persistence stemmed from a deep love for her children.
After the death of our mother, we fell into endless grief. My father married a new love in a short period of time, which was difficult for my sister and I to accept. He left the county, sold his property, and handed over all his savings, all to his new wife's daughter. Our opposition was to no avail, and my father seemed to be deluded.
After my father remarried, the connection gradually broke down. One day, he suddenly appeared in Beijing and asked to stay at my home. When I was embarrassed, I learned that his life had changed, his salary was in control, his property was sold, and he was in trouble. He offered 3,000 yuan a month for living expenses, otherwise he would have nowhere to go.
I felt conflicted and helpless, after all, this was my biological father. I promised to provide 1,000 yuan a month and send him back to his hometown temporarily. However, I'm not sure if he'll ever come back and ask for more. At this troubled moment, I felt a deep sense of helplessness and responsibility.
It's a story full of ups and downs, a complex entanglement of family relationships and responsibilities. Perhaps, we need to face the reality rationally while maintaining family affection. I was caught in a conflict between my father's pleas and predicament, but hopefully a better solution could be found in the future.
Everyone has different perspectives and experiences when it comes to problems in the family. What do you think about my father's plea and my predicament? Do you have a similar experience or advice? Feel free to share your thoughts in the comments and let's work together on this topic full of emotion and responsibility.