In the process of growing up the child.
They have their own rhythm and pace.
Many times, when we push our children, we are actually asking them to behave at our rhythm and order, rather than respecting their own laws of development.
This kind of urging may make children feel stressed and anxious, affecting their growth and development.
Urging a child is actually a kind of "killing a thousand enemies and losing eight hundred", because although we want our children to be able to complete the task faster, this kind of urging often has negative consequences. Although sometimes we have to rush our children, it does not mean that we can use this method at will.
We need to distinguish between situations where we should not urge our children and those situations where we can use some "routines" to urge our children. We should try to avoid urging our children in these situations:
Does the child love to rub? At these two times, don't "Cui Wa".
When the child is focusing on something he enjoys.
Children need time to explore their interests and hobbies, and if they are always pushed, they may lose their enthusiasm and interest in things.
When children are immersed in what they love, that's when their minds are free.
At this time, they are exploring the world in their own way, to understand the mysteries of things, to feel the unique fun. As parents or guardians, we should respect our children's focus and let them swim freely in the ocean of interests.
Our urging and interruption may become a stumbling block on the road to children's growth.
Children's hearts are sensitive and fragile, and too much interference may make them feel helpless and lost, thus losing their original enthusiasm and interest in things.
Imagine if a child develops a strong interest in drawing, but is always reminded to do other things while he is concentrating on painting, then he may gradually lose his love for painting and even develop an aversion.
For the sake of children's healthy development, we should give them enough space and time to explore their interests and hobbies.
We can give appropriate guidance and support in this process, but never overly interfere or rush. Only in this way can children maintain their enthusiasm and interest in things, and they can continue to grow and progress in their favorite fields.
When the child is trying something new.
When children try new things, we should give them enough patience and tolerance.
Growing up is a long process that requires constant experimentation and exploration. If we are too impatient, it will only make children feel stressed and helpless, which will affect their growth and learning.
Children's hearts are like a blank sheet of paper, which needs to be patiently guided and inspired.
They need time to experience, to feel, to understand new things.
In the process, they will encounter difficulties and setbacks, which is a necessary path to growth. If we are always in a hurry, or blame and criticize their attempts, then they may lose courage and confidence and stop trying new things.
As parents and educators, we should believe in the potential and strength of our children and encourage them to be brave enough to try new things. We should give them enough time and space to explore and develop freely. At the same time, we must also learn to be patient, not to rush, and let children grow and learn while trying.
When we need to rush our children, we can use some "routines".
For example, we can work with our children to create a schedule that lets them know what tasks they need to complete at what time. This can help children manage their time better, and it can also reduce the number of urgings.