In everyday life, chatting with people is a common thing.
But you know what?There are some topics that should not be talked about too much during the chat.
Let's take a look at some of the topics you should avoid while chatting!
1. We should try to talk about our "money" as little as possible
As the saying goes, "Wealth is not exposed." "When chatting, talking too much about your wealth or financial situation can easily attract the attention of others and may even invite unnecessary trouble.
When we young people get together, we always like to talk nonsense. But the constant mention of the word "money" when chatting is really easy to make people feel a sense of distance.
It's not that money isn't important, it's that money is too sensitive, and if you're not careful, you may touch someone else's minefield.
Imagine if you always show off in front of your friends how rich you are and what brand you have bought, not only may some people with bad intentions target you, but it is easier for your friends to think that you are showing off, thus creating a barrier.
Besides, who doesn't have a little vanity?If you keep mentioning money, it is inevitable that some people will compare, and the originally relaxed and happy chat atmosphere will suddenly become heavy.
Therefore, I think that when we young people chat, we should talk more about hobbies and other light topics in life.
True friendship is based on shared interests and hobbies. I think that makes a lot of sense.
Isn't chatting just about finding resonance and enhancing feelings?So, the next time you get together with friends, try talking less about money and more about topics that interest each other
Trust me, then your chat will definitely be more enjoyable and meaningful.
In short, when chatting with people, talk less about money and more heart-to-heart, so that we can better close the distance between each other and establish sincere friendship.
After all, in this materialistic society, it is really a very happy thing to be able to find a few like-minded friends to chat with and share happiness!
2. We should try to talk about our "plans" as little as possible
While it's nice to share your plans for the future with friends, talking too much about your plans can be stressful for others.
Because everyone's life trajectory and planning are different, your plans may not be suitable for others.
Everyone's life trajectory and plans are unique, and your future blueprint may be a blur, but others may not be able to relate to it.
Sometimes, the more you talk, the more likely it is that people will think you're showing off or putting pressure on them.
After all, who doesn't have a little vision and expectation for the future? But once these visions are compared to other people's "grand plans", it is inevitable that there will be a little bad feeling in my heart.
Besides, planning is inherently unpredictable. You swear to do this and that today, but what about tomorrow? What about the day after tomorrow? Who can guarantee that everything will turn out the way you envisioned it?
Revealing your plans too early, in case your plans change in the future, wouldn't you have to face a bunch of embarrassing "slaps in the face" moments?
So I think when chatting, let's take it easy, don't pour out all our "plans" in one go. It's all well and good to share some of your thoughts and expectations, but you don't have to be so detailed and sure about your future plans.
This will not only leave some leeway for yourself, but also avoid unnecessary pressure on others.
The future is a forest in the fog, and we can only move forward in exploration. ”
Chatting is meant to relax and enjoy the moment. Why do you have to bring all the things that are not yet visible in the future to the table?
Therefore, when chatting, we can appropriately share some of our own thoughts and expectations, but do not elaborate on our plans in too much detail so as not to put unnecessary stress on ourselves and others.
3. We should try to talk less about the "right and wrong" of others
When chatting, talking about others behind your back is not easy to cause conflicts, and may even destroy the originally harmonious interpersonal relationship.
Moreover, there is no impermeable wall in the world, and the more you speak, the more likely it is to reach the ears of the person concerned and bring unnecessary trouble to yourself.
Therefore, when talking to people, we should learn to respect others and not judge their behavior and morality easily. After all, everyone has their own way of life and principles, and we are not qualified to judge others.
If you really can't help but want to express your opinions, you should also try to be objective and fair, and not have too much personal emotion.
I was chatting with a couple of friends once, and one of them started talking about the shortcomings of another friend who wasn't there.
I wanted to say a few words along with it, but on second thought, is it really good to do this? So I interrupted the man and said let's talk about something else.
Later, the friend who was talked about found out about the incident and thanked me, saying that I had avoided embarrassment and maintained our friendship by doing so.
So I think we should still talk more about light-hearted topics when chatting, such as hobbies, life and so on.
In this way, we can not only enhance the relationship between each other, but also avoid unnecessary conflicts and troubles. After all, who doesn't love to chat with someone they have a good time with?
Therefore, when talking to people, we should learn to respect others and not easily judge their behavior and morality. If you really can't help but want to express your opinions, you should also try to be objective and fair, and not have too much personal emotion.
Remember: talk less about money, plans and right and wrong, and let our conversations be more sensible and harmonious!