Happy families are all alike, and unhappy families have their own misfortunes.
Whenever there are various festivals, I can't help but feel a little envious when I see those happy people. If you still have this emotion, it means that you are still young.
In a news a few days ago, a pregnant woman went to give birth alone, and no one from her husband and mother-in-law appeared. According to the report, the lady also filed for divorce, but received a reply from the man's aunt's family: she had to take care of the children. It's hard to imagine what kind of family this is? It is said that love is a matter of two people, and marriage is a matter of two families. So if a couple has a problem, do they want someone else to intervene in it?
This kind of family where even the aunt can preach and meddle shows that the man basically doesn't care. He may not be able to earn money to support his family, and he still needs to gnaw at the old; He may not be responsible and does not want to be responsible for the family; He may be a pampered mom boy, who has never suffered hardships, and will only call his parents when he has a problem. In short, such a man basically has no responsibility, and if something goes wrong, he will always blame the other party, and unite his family to blame his daughter-in-law, and expect her to sober up from the scolding again and again, admit that it is his own fault, that he is unreasonable, and that he is in the blessing and does not know the blessing.
Fortunately, it is now a new era, and there is no inseparable marriage.
In recent years, with the increase in the divorce rate, the state has introduced various policies to save marriages, such as the cooling-off period for divorce. What do you think about this policy? First of all, I am personally more supportive. First, people tend to make decisions under impulse, and when they look back, nothing outrageous happened, just a momentary emotional situation. Second, a one-month cooling-off period is not too long, and this time can be used to fix or deal with problems that were not mentioned during the impulse divorce. Such as real estate, children, etc. Some people in the process of dealing with these family matters, they will see each other's contributions, in the process can also ease the emotions of both parties and the situation of things, since the decision to get married, it must be the choice of the person who is responsible for the family. This part of the people will basically be reconciled, and this is a repairable marriage.
There are also irreparable, maybe in this month, more problems will be found on the other party, more with the quarrel of the house and children, which will continue until the end, and go to court, you can basically declare the end of the relationship. Of course, this is time-consuming and laborious, but in fact, divorce is really not a simple matter.
I have had two divorce cases, one who became a single mother and one boy who had a stepmother. My friend said: When you become a single mother, you understand what is your armor and what is your weakness. She said that I am willing to give all the hard work, as long as the child can live in a loving environment, of course, this love may not be worthless, because the life of a single mother is not all rich. Another boy has a stepmother, this situation is more special, the stepmother is very good to him, but his own mother ignores him. In fact, most women are unwilling to give up their children after becoming mothers, even if they live in hardship and financial difficulties, they will live with their children, unless the man is strong and he is unable to keep the children. On the contrary, dads often only consider one factor in their selection.
Would you agree that it is the mother or the father who will take care of the children after the divorce?
Finally, I want to say that love can be talked about no matter how you want, and marriage must be the right one. We must investigate each other's family and each other's growth experience, which not only refers to the material foundation, but also knowledge, vision and three views. People who don't share values can't even quarrel. Because the beliefs and ideas you hold on to are very different from his growth and cognition.
There are risks associated with any choice, and the same goes for marriage. If you are unfortunate enough to make the wrong choice, please flee as soon as possible to free yourself so that your life can become better.