In every woman's heart, she once longed to enter a beautiful marriage like a fairy tale - to marry the ideal Prince Charming and live the ideal life.
Although reality ruthlessly extinguishes the flame of dreams like cold water, some women still burn the pursuit of love in their hearts, expecting their hearts to marry love, burning endlessly.
In their eyes, marrying love seems to be something to be proud of, full of romance, and feel amazing.
However, is this really the case? Can marrying love bring happiness? Is a marriage without love really as unbearable as inferior?
A good marriage does not always need love, because love may bring pain, and marriage needs to avoid all the destructive factors.
If you want to have a comfortable and comfortable married life, the following points must be understood:
Married to love is not a necessity.
Love is beautiful, but it is also full of dangers.
It is like a double-sided sword that can bring endless joy or deep pain.
Especially when you have not yet grasped the true meaning and measurement of love, you may be greatly harmed.
For example, possessiveness and jealousy are born by love, and once these negative emotions erupt, they will be extremely depleted of the relationship between the two people.
After several years of married life, you will find that marrying love is beautiful, but if you don't marry love, you don't need to feel inferior or unwilling.
Because the quality of married life does not have much to do with whether or not you have great love.
Married life does not necessarily require great love, I am afraid that as long as you don't get tired of each other, it is enough to pass the door.
A marriage full of love may not bring happiness, but may lead to disappointment in married life because of high expectations for a better life and low tolerance for trivial daily life.
This is why those campus couples who were once in love, after entering the city of marriage, felt not happiness, but the pain of loss, and asked why the original love suddenly disappeared.
On the other hand, those partners who are married and bonded on a blind date have a more pragmatic view of marriage, and there are not too many unrealistic illusions about their married life, they can live their lives well, calm and satisfied.
Try to avoid "lethal" factors in marriage.
Knowledgeable women must know how to avoid the "lethal" problems brought about by love after marriage.
Such as unreasonable expectations, endless quarrels, unnecessary jealousy and distrust.
Marriage is an institution, like a contract, a cooperation, and it has little to do with love.
Therefore, taking a love full of "sensuality" and diving headlong into a cold "rational" marriage is like a comical farce.
Love, it has nothing to do with real estate, furniture, money, it is only about beauty, family affection, and the pleasure of both sexes.
Marriage, on the other hand, contains elements of property, possession, hegemony and strife.
Finally, 70% of people's troubles in marriage are due to people's emotions, and 30% are problems.
Because of this, the real sicknesses are not temporary physical discomforts, but those that lurk in the depths of human nature—greed, anger, stupidity, arrogance, and doubt, which are the soul-destroying diseases.
Everyone's understanding and expectation of love and marriage are different, and in order to have a good married life, it is important to find a lifestyle that suits you, and a partner who can grow and progress with you.
What is best for you is the best.