It is difficult for a young girl to marry, and it is difficult to choose a mate.
The pressure on marriage and love for post-90s women is increasing. Not just because of the fierce competition, but also because of some unexpected reasons. For example, the number of post-00s women marrying is five times that of men, and four-fifths of post-00s women choose to marry older post-90s or post-80s than them.
This means that most of the post-90s men who were supposed to be paired with post-90s women were snatched away by the little sisters of the post-00s. Such a phenomenon is not uncommon in reality.
The daughter of a colleague of Wang is an example of this. She is a post-90s generation who worked hard in Beijing with male classmates after graduating from university, and many people think that they will come together.
However, after seven years of their relationship, the boy returned to his hometown of Chengdu and chose a girl six years younger than him to marry. Wang's colleague's daughter has not found a new partner since the breakup, although some friends have introduced her to a partner during this period, but they have not been successful.
For post-90s women, the pressure of marriage and love is increasing. They not only need to face the pressure from work and life, but also need to face the reality of marriage and love.
Therefore, we should give more support and understanding to post-90s women to help them find their own happiness.
In the show hosted by Tu Lei, there is a girl who falls in love with a boy, insists on pursuing him for three years, and ends up living with the boy in a rented house. However, whenever a girl proposes to get married, the boy always avoids the topic.
The girl's persistence touched the audience and the presenters of the show, who constantly demanded that the boy appear on the TV show, admit his problems and promise to consider marrying the girl when he met the conditions for marriage.
However, the boy said that he could not give the girl the house, car and life she wanted, so he could not get married now, but he promised to work hard and consider getting married to the girl when he was ready.
Although the boy's promise made the girl a little disappointed, she insisted, "All I need is you." In the end, the boy was moved by the girl's persistence and agreed to her request, and the two hugged and cried at the scene, which was a touching scene.
When choosing a partner, women tend to choose men who are older, more educated, have more income, and have a good family background. However, as time goes on, their range of mates becomes narrower and narrower.
For example, the daughter of a colleague Wang is twenty-nine years old, and the men she likes meet her criteria, but they are generally not selected, because these men prefer to choose younger women.
It's like a lone wild goose, and it's hard to fit in with the group. Therefore, when choosing a mate, women should not only consider the other party's conditions, but also consider their own age and competitive environment.
When it comes to choosing a mate, women need to be clear about their resources and needs. Age is a woman's greatest resource, and once missed, it cannot be recovered. Therefore, women should choose their spouses wisely and not miss out on their youth for the sake of useless love runs.
Like the smart girl in Tu Lei's show, it is also a feasible choice to use TV shows to meet her marriage requirements. Men, on the other hand, are more pragmatic in choosing a mate, and they choose a mate based on their needs and goals.
The structural contradiction between men and women in the choice of mate requires women to be clear about their own needs, and at the same time, to understand and respect men's choices.
When women reach the age of 30, it becomes more difficult to choose a mate. It's not just the young little sister who will steal your love, but the man you like may not choose you, which is undoubtedly embarrassing.
People often say that older leftover women are the "three high" people, that is, they have high education, high income, and high appearance, but this statement is not accurate. In fact, the reason why older leftover women are left behind is often because they miss the best age to choose a mate for various reasons, just like the daughter of a colleague Wang.
For women, age is an important reference factor, especially in a relationship. We can't ignore the age red line, and the relationship time can't be too long, preferably no more than three years.
If this time is exceeded, we should decisively choose to give up, which is responsible for ourselves. Just like the daughter of a colleague Wang, although she has been in love for seven years and has lived together for seven years, she has no actual marriage, and once external forces appear, women will face greater risks.
This warns us that women must have a clear understanding and decision-making in love, and cannot be carried away by feelings. Age is harsh for women, it's a reality that can't be changed, and we have to accept and face it.