There is a hot topic on Zhihu:
As a lawyer, what is the most bizarre divorce case you have encountered?
More than 400 lawyers have shared their real-life cases on this topic, some of which are divorced because of extramarital affairs, and some are divorced because of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law conflicts, disagreements between three views, and sexless marriages.
Although unhappy marriages are different, but the bottom line of marriages is often similar, today I would like to share with you a few typical cases, I hope to get some gains from them:
Zhihu users, reunion mothers.
I want to say one, it's not very weird, it's just very embarrassing.
Initially, the woman and the man came together for divorce consultation. The woman was in business before, she was fair-looking, gentle and able to make money, but unfortunately she was unladylike and married a scumbag in her early years.
The scumbag has a gambling habit, because both parties have a daughter, so the woman just endured it at first, and then as she couldn't cope with the increasing gambling debts, she had no choice but to divorce.
After the divorce, he met her current husband, not only did he not dislike her, but also sympathized with her experience, and the two came together.
After she successfully had her first child with the current one, it was a daughter, and her in-laws urged them to have a second child, and at this time the husband and wife could only confess to their in-laws that she had a daughter before.
My in-laws immediately changed their faces and forced their son to go to the court to sue for divorce, and the two didn't want to divorce at first, so I told them that as long as they informed the judge of the situation, the judge would not leave, and they left my office.
Later, a year later, the woman came to me alone, saying that after telling the judge last time, the judge ruled that the divorce was not allowed, but now that it has been more than half a year, my in-laws have begun to force my son to continue to sue, what can I do to protect my marriage, I told her to try the old way again, and she left again.
After another half a year, the woman came again, and I was a little shocked to see her this time, because she was no longer the delicate and delicate makeup I had seen before, but instead had fluffy hair, dirty makeup, and embarrassment everywhere.
And at the beginning, she wants to sue for divorce, how to ensure that the benefits are maximized. It turned out that the man gradually treated her badly before and after the second divorce, no longer looked at his daughter, and did not give her child support.
Not only the man himself, but his family also took turns to send text messages to curse and humiliate the woman, and the words that were typed were unsightly, and the woman's dowry was unwilling to return.
Doing cases, scumbags and scumbags, I have seen a lot, seeing a pair of intimate lovers become enemies, I have mixed feelings in my heart, I believe that his original love was not a lie.
Zhihu Anonymous user.
The background is that the man is the eldest and the woman is eight years old, and after the woman graduated from college, the man got married, and he became a full-time wife at home. At the time of the divorce, the child was six years old, and the woman was in her early thirties, had no job, and had a foreign household registration.
The man suspected that he had a new love and sued for divorce. The trial was debated over custody of the child.
The man said that I have a higher education than you, which is conducive to the education of children; I have an income, you don't, you haven't worked for many years, out of society; I have a local household registration, and my child is about to go to primary school; If you have a foreign household registration, you will probably have to return to your hometown after the divorce, and it is impossible for the children to go with you, and changing the growth environment is not good for the children; I have a house, you don't have (pre-marital property) Balabala listed more than a dozen reasons.
The woman bowed her head and said nothing, and the judge asked the woman if she had any arguments.
The woman whispered"It's my birthday today, can you be a little affectionate when you speak? ”
I picked up a copy of the woman's ID card and looked at it, and sure enough, it was her birthday.
It was a bit of a mixed mood for a moment. Years of husband and wife, what to leave behind? She is thirty+, has no work experience, no money, no house, and no children.
Zhihu user, Lu Nini.
There was a divorce case where the parties were a young couple. People get married very early. The man was 22 years old and the woman was 20 years old, so she became pregnant and got her certificate.
After getting married, I quarreled every day. When the child was one and a half years old, the two went to court. In divorce court, neither of the two wanted children. The judge did not dismiss him on the spot.
After the end, they ran to ride their battery bikes as if they were racing, and wanted to leave the courthouse, for fear that those who were left behind would have to take their children.
The men are gone, and the women are gone.
Leaving the 1-year-old child behind, he kept chasing his parents' electric car ......
Everyone present cried.
In a hundred years of life, it cannot be smooth sailing, there will always be ups and downs. There will be good things and bad things will happen, and just like Murphy's Law, the more you fear something, the more it will happen.
At first, we all entered the marriage because we were full of love for each other, but the trivialities in the marriage, firewood, rice, oil, salt, sauce, vinegar and tea turned the two people who loved each other into vicious words and even came to the step of divorce, I hope you can learn the following lessons:
1. Don't be a stay-at-home mother
Women who are full-time wives in China will not end well if they meet non-people.
Marriage is indeed more demanding for women, requiring you to teach your husband and children, requiring you to honor your in-laws, requiring you to be financially independent, and requiring you to be beautiful like a flower.
What he said about raising you before marriage will become a bad word that I raised you after marriage, so it's best to have your own business, so that you can be thereWhen the marriage comes to the last step, there is also a kind of confidence that leaves you, and the old lady still raises children.
2. Be cautious when approaching flash marriages
It is undeniable that flash marriages are also happy, but I have met many divorced couples, all of whom got married after not knowing each other for a long time, or even married with their sons.
To be honest, you've only known this person for a few months, and you don't know how he gets along with his family, what kind of people his parents are, and what kind of person he is in private?
Don't easily believe the way the other person shows when you start getting along, it's disguised, and it's made to make a good impression on each other.
It's best to get to know each other deeply and touch each other's souls when you get to know each other for a year or two. Marriage is to find someone who will spend the rest of your life with you, and it's always right to spend more time investigating.
3. Divorce must fight for property
One of the biggest mistakes that many women make when they get divorced is, I don't want money, I just want children and he doesn't leave me. Come on, we've come to the step of divorce, and my mind hasn't cleared up yet.
The other party is sure that he doesn't want to continue with you, and he is still snickering in his heart if you say this, look at how charming I am, I can't bear to be at this time.
Do you think that if you give up your possessions, the other party will stay because you love him so much that he can't help himself? He won't, he'll just sneak away and laugh at you idiot.
Even if you have a child, when fighting for custody, don't say that you will leave the house for the custody of the child. The future growth of a child is not only about companionship, but also about creating a good environment for him with money.
Therefore, for the sake of yourself and your children, you must strive for the greatest interests.
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