I'm bald.
As an operations director, the last project I successfully submitted at the end of the year was to make a reverse marriage reminder plan for the Spring Festival (out of selfishness, it was used for the catastrophe, after all, when I was 24 days away from the countdown to go home, my mother had already made a detailed blind date itinerary for me for 5 consecutive days).
But I never expected that as soon as this report came out, colleagues from 40+ to 20+ all looked at me with fine eyes, looking like they won my heart.
Then, the topic was chosen and passed without any suspense.
Originally, the plan was intended to be broken through a large number of analysis of parents' classic operations.
But after looking at the "father's marriage urging plan" experienced by the brothers and sisters over the years, I think this "reverse plan" may not work.
The following content is slightly polished, but they are all from the real experience of netizens from all walks of life:
Netizen 001:"In order to get me married soon, my mother actually cast a spell on me! I was watching TV in the living room, and I vaguely felt that my mother had to keep an eye on me, babbling in her mouth, she said today that she was going to tell me about the marriage, and I now suspect that she was 'chanting' at me at this time. ”
Netizen 002 replied:"Brother, don't doubt it, the same world, the same mother. I also experienced it, and I thought that the mantra would be so profound, but when I got closer, I realized that it was 'Daughter-in-law come, daughter-in-law come.' ’”
Netizen 003:"My mom knew that I couldn't get out of the mess with my ex-boyfriend, so she found me a blind date with someone who was eighty percent similar to my ex-boyfriend. ”
Netizen 004 replied:"In my mother's last life, I was afraid that it was not the Tianyan system speaker. "
Netizen 005:"Can you imagine that when you go back to your hometown, the bed in your room is a double bed, or the kind of big bed, with pairs of pillows and slippers, all of which are more festive red, and the toiletries are put on women's supplies, and the wardrobe is hung with women's pajamas, and there is an extra pair of dishes and chopsticks when eating, which is ......I wonder if I've ever been married, and my wife has just gone back to her parents' house. ”
Netizen 006 replied:"Brother, tell our mother that she still took a detour, I really didn't give red envelopes or gold when I went home last year, and I gave my mother a maternity bag and a stroller to express my heart. ”
Netizen 007:"Other people's mother's blind date corner helps me find a partner, and my mother's blind date corner gives me a marriage partner.
My mother said that I have to give an explanation to the family, it is better to leave than not to finish, and don't let other people's families think that our family has an abnormal son. The woman and I agreed because we were busy. I will go home for the Chinese New Year this year and leave in a few years. ”
Netizen 008:"I found a blind date for me and I didn't see it, my dad sent me my mom's hair loss every day, and I couldn't sleep in the middle of the night, and then I simply sent me my mom's vomiting blood, hospitalization drip**, I ran thousands of kilometers home, only to know that the blood was a prop blood bag bought by my almighty dad a certain treasure. ”
Netizen 009:"When I came home last year, I slept well in the middle of the night and was beaten up by my mother. In a severe pain, I heard my mother crying and chirping by the bedside, 'It's been more than 30 years, and I'm embarrassed to come back alone, and I can't even get a daughter-in-law back, I'm really angry and angry, and the more I think about it, the more angry I become. ‘”
Seeing the complete online marriage urging **, I can't help but feel creepy when I am about to go to the battlefield.
But! As long as the mind does not slip, there are always more ways than difficulties! Even with goosebumps, I still bred up and completed my reverse marriage urging plan
Overview:
As a serious plan, never do nonsense, nonsense.
This reverse marriage urging SOP focuses on a process of helping contemporary young people to realize the basic aspects of three aunts and six mothers-in-law, uncles and cousins to the inner circle of their own parents through scientific implementation methods, and peacefully infiltrate the new marriage concept of non-marriage, slow marriage, and excellent marriage.
The method is mainly divided into 5 core processes:
Step 1 Clarify the vision of marrying a wife, and pull together the family group's cognition of the individual's willingness to marry
The purpose of this phase of the mission is to gain trust.
With the family online public domain and the family group as the core touchpoint, the state of one's resistance to marriage has been changed, and the awareness of family members on their marriage vision has been repeatedly strengthened.
As for whether the intention to marry is in line with my current mood, I will not consider it for the time being.
The focus of this process is to obtain a wider range of communication opportunities and win the maximum support for the value output of unmarried, excellent and slow marriage in the later stage.
Because the five-star general General MacArthur once said: soldiers, how treacherous. The underlying logic of effective communication is that the steps should not be too big, and if you want to influence the people, you must penetrate the people.
You can show your determination to get married this year in advance in the way of greeting everyone in the early years, and actively pass through (@) The high-activity users in the group actively participate in the submission of this non-award blind date, and at the same time refine the granularity of the marriage requirements.
The threshold for marriage is 10% of the height that is beyond the ability of the three aunts and six mothers-in-law.
Too high seems pretentious and difficult for everyone, and too low seems to be false and confusing. At this height, it is necessary to leave a legitimate opportunity for the three aunts and six wives of the CPU behind to do their ineffective work.
Step 2 Aggressive: Quantify the KPIs submitted by family activists and blind dates
The goal of the mission at this stage is: to preemptively block the mouths of the three aunts and six mothers-in-law.
After the last round of information transmission in the group, we and our family members basically reached that we must complete the ** life event 1 this year0 is the consensus that the marriage version is online. From this process backwards, if you want to get the certificate in Q4, the object must be discussed before Q3.
A 3-month love cycle isn't too much.
According to the person from the person to the meeting to the marriage 0With a 000000001% funnel conversion rate, none of the three aunts and six wives will have to complete the task of helping each person find 100 blind dates per month.
The responsibility is to dismantle the task, uncles, aunts, uncles and cousins complete the task of 20 people in Q1, 30 people in Q2, and 50 people in Q4, which is a real project progress requirement.
Of course, in order to ensure that the data is sincere and just right, you can formulate specific requirements for the number of people according to your actual situation.
Step 3 Gradually penetrate the milestones of the project and review them on time; CPU three aunts and six mothers-in-law, uncles and cousins.
Next, it is to follow everyone's ass and repeat the cue process, so that the active and passive are compatible.
For example, when you are a little idle and worried that no one is leaving, you can quietly click on the dialog box with the third aunt and gently greet "The third aunt (bared teeth), how did the object help me find it", which is active.
For example, when your aunt asks you about what day of holiday you have this year, you can immediately turn the conversation and tell the third aunt, "There is no blind date, what am I going to do when I go back." "It's passive.
Active and passive, aiming at no matter who it is and what kind of topic you provoke, it must be up to you to preemptively find and make up for "can't find someone to go on a blind date, it's annoying, woo woo woo", in order to highlight one, outside, positive attitude, really want to find; Internally, if you want not to be 'grinded to death' by others, you must first 'grind to death' others.
In this way, continuous urging, repeated cue, as short as 1 month, as long as 3 months, in the future, the three aunts and six mothers-in-law will most likely hide away when they see you.
Because according to the principle of social animals, quantitative KPIs with clear DDL will definitely drive everyone crazy equally.
Then you're in the comfort zone of being a leader like never before. Just sporadically yin and yang, "The third aunt really doesn't treat me sincerely, otherwise how could she be so ineffective?" ”
Step 4 Peel back the cocoon and refine the portrait of parents urging marriage
Once you have a good grasp of the fundamentals of the family group, you can get rid of your parents without distractions.
The portraits of parents urging marriage can be roughly divided into 2 categories:
1) I can't help but say, one crying, two troubles, three hangings, and the flower work gradually becomes charming and the eyes are charming.
2) Be reasonable, put the facts, chatter endlessly, grind people, grind time, and labor "grind" the paradigm.
For the first type of parents, your core method can be to fight poison with poison, and it is not a big deal to be embarrassed.
Suppose your parents cast a spell, you ask the master to draw a charm;
If your parents give you a happy post, you can rent a pregnant girlfriend to go home for the New Year and ask for a bride price, and then do a paternity test after the negotiation is completed, and show the results to your parents. Xingshi mobilizes the crowd + bamboo basket to draw water, anyone will be tired, **
For the second type of parents, then you have to make a big effort.
If parents just focus on one ear root grinding cocoon, there is no rational basis. Then let's immediately transform into a flower job and gradually become charming eyes.
We want to let our parents know that although we are not good at marriage, we have always strived to be sincere. The work is so hard that the parents can't open that mouth.
If parents focus on grinding cocoons + reasoning, then our core audience will come.
They are a group of anti-water comrades that we better pull into the camp. Many times they urge marriage, not necessarily trapped in social constraints and other people's eyes, but like us, they want to maximize our probability of a happy life.
Step 5 Deeply cultivate the portraits of parents urging marriage, and continue to output unmarried, slow marriage, and excellent marriage
The parents of the current marriage generation are generally the 60s and 70s generation, and the background of the era in which they live is the early stage of reform and opening up, the end of collectivized management, and many people still live a big pot of collective life.
The economic and collective factors of the times made most of them naturally inherit the law of life of marriage and childbirth.
Their outlook on life and marriage is not challenged by their values. Relying on the proposition of marriage's life question about companionship, emotional comfort, pension methods, and economic pros and cons, it is the first time that our generation has gotten it, and it is an unresolved problem.
In our society, there are not enough cases of late marriage and non-marriage, and parents lack the material for imagination and do not know what kind of life problems unmarried people will face in the future.
Even if the society is gradually deriving some program conclusions, such as a new type of pension, such as the insurance system.
But for society, for parents, it is all theories, even hypotheticals, and this fear of the unknown without reference is difficult to support them to become champions of new lifestyles.
As far as we are concerned, don't we wonder at some point whether we will regret facing an irreversible single life in the future if we choose not to marry, whether we have the courage to face loneliness and helplessness, and whether there will be a life dilemma that cannot be solved?
In fact, in essence, in the face of unknown panic, we do not have absolute firmness.
In fact, we have all experienced in-depth communication with our parents.
Regarding many marriage-centered solutions to life problems, most parents are not inadequate, and we are not emotionally indifferent.
So I don't know if you understand what I'm trying to say, that is, there are thousands of answers to life, but our parents and elders only see one for the time being. If you want to improve, you must first be gentle in your attitude and strive for opportunities for communication. Secondly, there is the soil for joint exploration of new lifestyles.
And everyone should feel that the parents' generation is becoming more and more tolerant of their children's marital and emotional problems.
Author |Hengma.