Children's psychology will change as they grow up, and different psychological characteristics will appear in different periods. Parents only need to read their children's psychological code, understand their children's growth characteristics, and use the right communication methods to enter their children's hearts and help them grow better.
1.First year of junior high school
Entering middle school is a leap for children. On the one hand, facing the new environment, teachers, and classmates, the speed of adaptation to the "new" will have a great impact on the first year of junior high school students, who are both unfamiliar and curious about everything, and their mentality is more relaxed. On the other hand, the number of subjects to be studied has increased, and the difficulty of knowledge has also been greatly improved compared with primary school, and the allocation of learning time is also a problem that needs to be paid attention to.
At this stage, the psychological characteristics of the child are manifested in the following three aspects:
The first is the unity of maturity and childishness. In adolescence, the physical form changes significantly, the physical functions are gradually improved, and the psychology also changes accordingly. The first year of junior high school students has just entered the adolescent stage, and the development of rational thinking is still limited, and the characteristics of primary school students are still retained in terms of physical development, knowledge and experience, and psychological quality.
The second is the unity of independence and dependence. It is manifested in the reluctance to let parents take care of it, but when they encounter specific difficulties in study and life, they hope to get help from teachers and parents.
The third is the unity of freshness and tension. Feel fresh and curious about the new environment, the new discipline. However, as the number of subjects increased, the complexity increased, and the teaching and learning methods were different from those of elementary school, they slowly became nervous.
Fourth, the unity of upwardness and blindness. Self-awareness began to develop, with a certain ability to evaluate, began to pay attention to shaping their own image, hoping to be recognized by teachers and classmates, but the independence and criticality of thinking are still in the embryonic stage, the nervous system is poor and easy to be affected by the outside world, blind complacency when things go well, blind inferiority and discouragement when encountering setbacks, and herd mentality.
Li Jingxin, a teacher from the research center, said that for this age, parents should pay attention to the communication between parents and children
First, focus on adaptability. From primary school students to middle school students, they need to adapt to the surrounding environment, teaching methods, and the rhythm of life, and the speed of adaptation largely determines the students' grades in the first year of junior high school and even the entire junior high school stage, so one of the most important things in the first year of junior high school is to help children adapt to the new life as soon as possible.
Secondly, we should attach importance to "cultivation education", develop good study habits, thinking habits, and correct learning methods, and successful cultivation education is an important guarantee for students' excellent academic performance in junior high school.
2.Second year of junior high school
At this stage, the child has entered puberty, and his independence has developed greatly, and his self-esteem has increased. The psychological characteristics are: on the surface, they don't care about anything, but in fact, the herd mentality is very heavy, and they want to be different and worry about breaking away from the collective.
As a result, some children have unhealthy psychology such as nervousness, anxiety, and low self-esteem, and due to the serious imbalance between psychological development and physical development, there will be different degrees of antagonistic emotions, avoidance, lying, violence and other bad behaviors. is more rebellious, and the communication with parents is gradually decreasing, and he is very resistant to blind preaching.
Therefore, during this time, parents must communicate more with their children, keep abreast of their children's psychological changes, and give their children the psychological counseling and guidance they need in a timely manner, so as to ensure that their children develop on a healthy psychological track.
**Pointed out: Not only the second year of junior high school, but also the second year of high school, is in a critical period of learning. Learning tasks and pressure are very high, children should improve their learning efficiency, master their own learning methods, and develop good study habits.
Parents need to pay close attention to and prepare in advance, and encourage children to preview in advance and be ready to meet challenges.
3.Third year of junior high school
At this stage, the child's independence has been greatly developed, and the learning ability has been greatly improved. The "sense of **" of junior high school students is more obvious, and their self-esteem is significantly enhanced, and they are more eager for the respect and understanding of teachers and parents than students in junior high school and junior high school students. The child's psychological development is rapid and begins to become stereotyped. Educators should seize all favorable opportunities to promote children's psychological maturity and do a good job in cultivating their psychological quality for future study and life.
At the same time, it is necessary to continue to educate students on the purpose and attitude of learning, so that children have a strong sense of urgency to go on to higher education, and attach importance to the work of "making up for the difference". For this age stage, parents should make full use of the characteristics of this stage to cultivate and develop their ability to learn and live independently, and understand the current learning situation and status with their children.
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