As the New Year approaches, the traditional custom of returning to hometown to visit relatives has once again become a hot topic. However, for many young people, this is no longer an easy task. Many of them said they felt embarrassed and uncomfortable with their relatives, and even had thoughts of "breaking off". What are the social and psychological reasons behind this?
First of all, we have to mention the dramatic changes in the structure of society. According to the National Bureau of Statistics, more than 300 million people have migrated from rural to urban areas in the past 22 years, traditional family structures have been disrupted, and young people have lived very differently from their parents. This change has led to a gap between young people and their relatives in the countryside, making them feel uncomfortable when they return to their hometowns, resulting in the phenomenon of "disconnection".
However, this "severance" is not really a severance of relations, but a psychological alienation. Young people are no longer as easily acknowledged as they used to be in their relationship with authority and ethics. They resent hypocrisy in the name of "for your own good", such as excessive concern for personal privacy, comparing themselves to others, and falling into the trap when they fail. These actions make them feel violated and disrespected.
In addition, the comparison between relatives is also one of the important reasons for young people's disgust. On issues such as demolition, loans, and property inheritance, the mentality of relatives is unbalanced, so that the conflict of interest exceeds the proportion of interest links. The comparison between them not only wears out the family affection, but also makes the child a tool for comparing with each other. This kind of "open and covert fighting" makes young people more resistant to visiting relatives and friends.
Hu Xiaowu, a professor at the Department of Sociology at Nanjing University, pointed out in his research that this kind of mentality imbalance and conflict of interest reflects some deep-seated problems in the current society. With the acceleration of urbanization and the intensification of social competition, people are facing increasing pressure and challenges. In this context, comparisons and conflicts in kinship become more pronounced and acute.
So, how to alleviate this phenomenon of "family severance"? First, we need to understand the psychological needs and values of young people. They crave respect and understanding, and don't want to be overly interfered with and compared. Therefore, relatives should respect the privacy and choices of young people and avoid interfering too much in their lives. At the same time, we should also look at each other's differences and successes with an equal and inclusive attitude.
Second, we need to strengthen family education and family communication. By cultivating a good family atmosphere and communication skills, relatives can better understand each other's lives and psychological needs. When encountering difficulties, you can support and help each other instead of blaming and comparing.
In this regard, we also need to pay attention to the improvement of the social environment. By strengthening social security and promoting educational equity, we can reduce the pressure and challenges faced by people in life, thereby reducing conflicts of interest and comparison between relatives.
In short, the phenomenon of "severance of relatives" reflects profound changes in social structure and psychological needs. We need to strengthen communication and understanding between families, societies and individuals at multiple levels to create a harmonious and inclusive social environment.
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