Yesterday was the sixth day of the Lunar New Year, a day full of joy and reunion. I received my mother-in-law's niece Xiaohua at home, because my sister led her in-laws on a trip. I'm not the type of person who particularly likes to cook, so I took Xiaohua to a tea restaurant. In a relaxed and happy chat, Xiaohua couldn't help but ask me a question: "Sister, who is in charge of money in your family?" Did Brother Bin hand over your salary card? ”
I told Xiaohua that I would manage the family's finances and give Brother Bin 4,000 pocket money every month. She was envious when she heard this, but she also expressed her sense of loss because she herself did not control the family finances.
Let me introduce myself. I am Shen Xiaohua, a post-95 generation, from the suburbs of the ancient city. The place where I live is more than 30 kilometers from the provincial capital. Although I didn't go to college, I graduated from a vocational school. Although I didn't have a high academic background, I had a good appearance, tall and slim figure, so I was always called the "school flower" when I was in school.
I'm picky about personal matters. I don't want to marry someone hastily, I always want to marry someone who is capable so that I can live a comfortable life. So, despite the fact that quite a few people have pursued me, I have never found the right person and have remained single.
It wasn't until the spring of 2020 that my neighbor Huang Bo introduced his wife's nephew, Liu Qiang, to me. Liu Qiang is said to be a person with a flexible mind and ability. After we met, I found that Liu Qiang was of medium height, three years older than me, and seemed to be shrewd and capable. He runs an auto repair shop and earns a good income locally. He was also very happy with me, and we got married after a few months of dating.
Our wedding was very grand, and Liu Qiang spent more than 200,000 yuan to marry me into the door. Although he was from a rural background, he bought a house in the county seat, and we lived in the county seat, not with my in-laws. This is very satisfying because it avoids family conflicts, after all, young and old people have different living habits.
After I got married, Liu Qiang suggested that I get a job so that I wouldn't be too bored at home. So I got a job at a rookie post near the community and became a courier sorter. My salary is not high, only more than 2,000 yuan a month, but it allows me to have something to do and not get bored.
Liu Qiang runs an auto repair shop, and like me, he didn't go to college, but opened the garage after studying technology. His business is very good, with a net income of more than 20,000 yuan per month.
Despite this, I have repeatedly proposed that I want to manage my family's finances, but Liu Qiang is always hesitant and unwilling to answer positively. Although he was generous enough to spend money on me, I always felt that the money seemed to belong to him, and I had to ask him for it every time I wanted to spend it. It made me feel a bit like begging.
I only earn more than 2,000 yuan a month, which is not enough to spend. I can't bring rich red envelopes to my mother's family like before, and I have to make up various reasons to ask Liu Qiang for money every time. I was worried that he would think I was squandering, so I tried not to let him know about the money I sent to relatives and friends.
Although I am an ordinary woman who earns 2,000 yuan a month, I still have to deal with the envy of relatives and friends. However, every time I went back to my parents' house, I was in a hurry, for fear that staying there for too long would increase my expenses and cause Liu Qiang to be dissatisfied.
Sometimes I get very angry thinking about these things at home. I repeatedly proposed that I wanted to manage the family's money, but Liu Qiang always perfunctory me and told me not to be so persistent.
Xiaohua's sister told me about her troubles, she said that although her husband earned hundreds of thousands of dollars a year, he didn't let her manage the money, and even raised the idea of divorce. I think Sister Xiaohua's troubles are unfounded. After all, it is not a matter of course whether a woman will manage the family finances after marriage. A woman who earns $2,000 a month to manage the wallet of a man who earns $20,000 a month is not necessarily up to the task.
I believe that in a family, whoever is more financially capable should manage the family's financial power. Husbands and wives should respect and understand each other, rather than linking family economic issues with gender. As for who in our family manages the money? I think it depends on who is more capable and suited for the role.