Parents who are opposed by their family background and how to deal with their feelings with their girlfriends
I can understand the dilemma and confusion you are facing. Family background issues can indeed have an impact on a relationship, but the final decision rests with you and your girlfriend. I can give you some advice on this issue, but you should make the final decision with full consideration of your emotional and family situation.
First, try to understand the position of the parents. Their opposition may stem from concern and concern for your future. They want you to have a stable and happy life and may think that your girlfriend's family background may bring uncertainty to your future. Therefore, the opposition of the parents is not necessarily directed against the girlfriend herself, but is a concern about the financial and caregiving difficulties that may arise in the future.
You can try to have an open and honest conversation with your parents. Tell them how much you love and support your girlfriend and show them your propensity to support each other and work together. If you can demonstrate that your decision was well thought out and that you have a plan for the difficulties that may arise, it will help to reassure your parents about your relationship.
In this complicated world, love is always full of sweetness and bitterness. I've also been experiencing some emotional distress lately and would like to confide in you here and ask for some advice.
I was working in Guangzhou and met a girl with a gentle and understanding personality, and we have been together for three years. She and I are both from Henan, but her family environment is more special. She has a younger brother who is in high school, and her father is diabetic and has been bedridden at home. She also had some problems with her lungs, and her mother didn't go for a check-up to save money. The burden of the family fell mainly on her shoulders.
Not long after we met, she told me about her family. I understood her concerns and wanted to help her in any way I could. In fact, I had fallen deeply in love with her, and I began to think about the future of our lives. However, there was always a huge question mark in my mind as to whether my parents would approve of us being together.
With this question in mind, I decided to take her to meet my parents. To my relief, my parents liked her very much. However, after learning about her family background, my mother expressed her disapproval of our continued development. My father didn't make it clear, he just let me decide.
Actually, I discussed this with my girlfriend before meeting my parents. She was worried that her family would be a drag on me, and she wanted me to think it through. Every time I talk about it, I try to avoid it because I really can't bear to let her down.
Right now, I'm feeling very lost. On the one hand, I am deeply in love with my girlfriend and I hope to be able to spend the rest of my life with her. On the other hand, I also understand the concerns of my parents, who want me to have a better life. I don't really know how to do it, and I'd like to hear from everyone.
On this issue, I need everyone's advice. Should I stick to my love, or should I follow my parents' advice? How do I deal with this? I'd love to hear what you think.
I know that there is no absolute right answer to this question. Everyone's situation is different, and everyone's choices are different. However, I would like to hear your advice. Whether you support me or oppose me, I will be grateful for your voice. Because I know that you are all out of concern and love for me.
Love is always full of sweetness and bitterness. I hope that I will be able to find my answer. I hope that I will be able to make my choice. Whatever the outcome, I will be grateful for your support.
Finally, I would like to conclude my article with a Latin sentence: "Amor Omnibus IDEM" (Love, the same for all). No matter what our identity, status, or family background is, we all have the right to pursue love and enjoy the sweetness of love. I hope I can do that. I hope you can do that. Whatever decision you make, remember that your happiness and family harmony are paramount. Whatever you choose, you want to make sure that you and your girlfriend can live happily and face the challenges ahead together. Good luck!