Vinny Sha Tu Nisha
Faced with the choice of divorce, sometimes we may not really want to end the marriage, but need some time and space to revisit and repair the relationship.
If you're at such a crossroads, take a look at the following five tips that may help you stabilize your footing for a while and give each other a chance to start over.
1. The "cold treatment" tactic calms down both sides
When there is a crack in a marriage, many people's first reaction is to make a fuss, but this often only makes things worse. At this point, you might as well try the "cold treatment" tactic to give each other a cooling-off period.
Mr. Wang and Ms. Li had a big quarrel over trivial matters, and both parties were so angry that divorce seemed to be the only option. But at the suggestion of a friend, they decided to calm down for a month first, during which they did not contact or see each other. After a month, both calmed down, re-examined their relationship, and finally decided to get back together.
2. "Memory Killing" offensive to relive the good times
Everyone has good memories, especially in marriage. When there is a problem in the relationship, you might as well relive those good times together and use "memory killing" to awaken each other's deep emotions.
Miss Wang and Mr. Ma have been married for many years, and their relationship has gradually faded. By chance, they looked at the **and** when they got married, and those happy moments made both of them emotional. Reminiscing about the good old days, they decide to put back on the relationship.
3. A "third party" intervenes to seek professional help
Sometimes, we may not be able to solve the problems in our marriage on our own, and this is when we need to seek professional help. Marriage and love counseling experts, psychologists, etc. can all become our "third party" support.
Liu Li and Zhao Qiang encountered a bottleneck in their marriage, and neither party could convince the other. With a friend's introduction, they found a marriage and love emotional counseling expert for counseling. After several times of communication and **, both of them got to the root of the problem and learned how to get along better.
Fourth, the "child card" strategy, for the sake of the child to work hard again
If there are children, then children are undoubtedly the most important bond in marriage. When there is a problem in the relationship, you may wish to try again for the sake of the child.
Xiaojuan and Feng Gang divorced because of their incompatible personalities, but they both loved their children together. Under the child's pleading, the two decided to try again for the sake of the child. They began to try to communicate and understand each other, and slowly, the relationship was repaired.
5. "Self-improvement" plan to become a better version of yourself
Many times, it is not only the other person's problem that has problems in marriage, but also our own shortcomings. At this time, you may want to create a "self-improvement" plan and strive to become a better version of yourself.
Xiaoxia found that her husband was becoming more and more cold to herself, and after reflection, she realized that she was too dependent on each other in her marriage and lost herself.
So, she decided to start a "self-improvement" program to learn new skills, develop new hobbies, expand her social circle, and ......Slowly, she became more independent and confident, and her husband looked at her again.
In short, delaying the divorce is not the goal, but to give each other a chance to start over. Of course, if you've tried all these things and you can't save your marriage, then maybe it's time to let go. Remember, love and cherish yourself whenever, wherever, and under all circumstances!