In the emotional world, women often instinctively give to the man they love, but this does not mean that this selfless dedication can be exchanged for deeper love from men. Sometimes this kind of unilateral contribution makes men take it for granted, causing them to no longer cherish this contribution.
There are three things that wise women will never do in a partnership. And only women who are not wise enough will do so without thinking.
First of all, smart women don't give up their jobs and livelihood because of men.
In real life, many women face the dilemma of family and work.
But in reality, not all choices are so easy to decide.
Family is important, of course, but life is full of uncertainties, and no one can be sure what will happen in the future.
Therefore, women should maintain their professional independence and autonomy under all circumstances, rather than blindly believing that they will not be abandoned by their families.
For example, a female friend of mine, shortly after her marriage, her husband advised her to concentrate on her family and give up her job, but she didn't agree.
After some communication and hard work, she chose to return to work and have an elderly family to help take care of household chores.
She even used her husband's financial resources as a springboard to "bless" her career and successfully upgrade her social status.
This is a very wise choice.
After all, nothing is always the same in this world.
Even if a husband now promises to provide for his wife, who can say for sure what will happen in the future?
In order to prevent the risks that the unknown future may bring, every woman should always remember to maintain her financial independence.
This is quite a crucial step.
Those intelligent women, they understand that even in love, there is no need to take care of men.
In fact, over-effort is not necessary. Human nature is greedy, and once men get used to this spoiled lifestyle, they are likely to lose the will and motivation to take care of themselves.
It's like a ** circulating on the Internet, depicting a man casually discarding dirty socks and underwear at home, and the home is like a pigsty. It's disgusting to watch.
Imagine how sick your wife would feel if she had to clean up such a mess every day, and in the long run, this kind of life would be simply disgusting.
Therefore, a woman's contribution should have a degree. A man must not be given the illusion that he can be taken care of.
This kind of care is tantamount to setting a trap for the women themselves, exhausting themselves.
Knowledgeable women, even if they are willing to give, will not cultivate men into such a dependent and inert attitude.
In this complex world, each individual needs to maintain his or her own social network, even if the bonds of marriage have bound two people together. This is because good social relationships not only help us keep up with society, but also bring joy to our spiritual world.
Focusing on family and neglecting social activities can lead to a sense of isolation and mental stress in the long run.
For example, many women are immersed in family life after marriage, almost cut off from the outside world, and when friends mention her, the affairs of her husband and children always come to mind, and this monotonous state can be annoying.
Over time, these women may become isolated and their world of ideas becomes more and more narrow. Once the family has no other social support, they will find themselves with little place to turn for solace.
Therefore, women in marriage should not blindly give. Giving is not always proportional, and sometimes smart giving even means restraint and self-assertion in some way.
This is not selfishness, but a smart strategy to maintain the marriage, a necessary consideration for the long-term and stable management of a relationship.