"The friendship of gentlemen is as light as water, and the friendship of villains is sweet. This sentence comes from "Zhuangzi Shanmu" means that the interaction between gentlemen is as pure, transparent, and free of impurities as water, and the interaction between villains is as delicious as sweet wine, which is intoxicating, and often this kind of interaction is mixed with material and interests, and once the interests disappear, the relationship will also disintegrate.
Life in the world, a thousand gold is easy to get, a confidant is hard to find, if there are three or five friends, nothing to talk about, know the cold and know the hot, it can be described as a great blessing.
In ancient times, there was a sub-period of Boya, the mountains and rivers were looking for bosom friends, Boya was good at playing, and the sub-period was good at appreciating, every time the repertoire played by Boya, the sub-period could experience the artistic conception of its playing, and then the sub-period died of illness, Boya was heartbroken, and broke the most precious piano with his own hands, leaving the world with the famous Boya Absolute String Story, the sub-period passed away, and there was no one in the world who could understand the sound of his piano. Their friendship is so pure, it has nothing to do with any money or interests, just because of the affection of the soulmate. "True friendship is a wordless tacit understanding, a warmth of mutual understanding, which can be felt without words, just a look. ”
There is a confidant in the sea, and if the end of the world is next to each other", as long as there are confidant friends, even at the ends of the earth, it feels like a close neighbor. In this era of fierce competition, everyone is constantly working hard for their own ideals and pursuits, many people have to leave their hometowns for the sake of their careers, from their familiar places to a strange environment, must be lonely and helpless, but true friendship will not be broken because of the separation of the relationship between the two places, a pass**, no need for more flowery words, just a simple greeting, care, can make you no longer lonely, just like the warm sun in winter, expel the cold, warm the body and mind.
In the vast sea of people, meeting is fate, and becoming friends is even more difficult to find. People are always attracted to all kinds of things, and friends are the same, "Those who fall behind are difficult to get together and inseparable; Those who are thriving are easy to kiss and easy to disperse; It means that people who seem to be lonely and don't like to deal with people, although it is difficult to be friends with them, but really becoming friends, it can be worth deep friendship, and it is generally not easy to break off friendships, and people who seem to be very good with everyone, although it is easy to get close, but after getting closer, you will find that it is difficult to walk into them, and it is often easy to break off friendship.
Each of us is an independent individual from birth, there are commonalities between people, and they are all unique existences, we can't force everyone to be the same, we must know how to seek common ground while reserving differences. Everyone's different growth environment has created a variety of personalities, there is no perfect person, everyone has their own advantages and disadvantages.
Confucius said: "The gentleman is harmonious but different, and the villain is the same but not harmonious." This means that a gentleman is able to get along well with others, but at the same time he can stand up for himself, maintain his independence, and not blindly disagree with the crowd. The villain only pursues consistency with others, has no principles of his own, and agrees on the surface, but actually does not get along well with others. The same is true in real life, when encountering different points of view, everyone has different views and opinions, which is a normal thing, and friends have different views, but it will not affect the normal relationship between the two, which is harmony and difference. Villains get along with each other, the pursuit of a community of interests, for their own interests, as long as the views expressed by others are beneficial to themselves, regardless of right or wrong, they will respond with their voices, because this can meet their own interests, but when the process is the problem, and this will have an impact on their own interests, the harmonious relationship between them will also collapse instantly, this is the villain with discord. True friendship is for the sake of the other person, regardless of personal gains and losses.
As the saying goes: "It's easy to put the icing on the cake, it's hard to send charcoal in the snow, and it's hard to know loyalty in adversity." "In real life, when you are beautiful, there will be a lot of people around you to share your joy, some people are really happy for you, some people just want to make profits from it, there are always ups and downs in life, when you fade away, deep in the quagmire, when you need help, still by your side, pull you a hand, is the friend we should cherish.
There is a sentence in Sanmao's "Friends": "Knowing and making friends is the norm in life, and being able to talk occasionally and still be gentle in your heart is a good friend." ”
The handling of interpersonal relationships is an art, we need to continue to learn and practice, only in the process of continuous exploration and practice, we can master the true meaning of this art, interpersonal relationships are also very important in our lives, and the choice of friends will affect our growth and development, we will be active and passive every day, and different people for interpersonal communication, in the process of communication, how to make people feel comfortable, this is also a science, and the sense of proportion is very important in the process of communication, No sense of proportion is a taboo in interpersonal communication, and the most comfortable way to get along with each other is to have a degree of intimacy. Similarly, between friends, a sense of proportion is also essential, no matter how close the relationship is, it must be measured, keep an appropriate distance, and never exceed the norm.
In real life, there are many people who used to be close and later went their separate ways. It is because of not grasping the proportion, everyone has their own points or things that they care about, and they don't want to be touched by others, real friends will respect him, even if the relationship is good, they will not cross this bottom line, and even more will help friends to protect the most sensitive and fragile corner of the heart, and stand by your side without hesitation when you need help, this is a real friend. There is also a kind of "friend" who is attracted by your strengths, but after discovering your shortcomings, they feel unacceptable, so they are disgusted, gradually magnified, and finally break up unhappily, or worse, they will fall into the well. This is also a "friend", but such a friend will not last long, and will only accompany you for a while, and when you encounter a fork in the road, everyone wants to go to a different place, and they will part ways. We don't have to feel sorry for this, the road knows the horsepower, and the people will see it over time.
Some people don't have to be forced, some relationships don't have to be forced, we have to learn to accept anyone's drifting away, and we have to learn to accept anyone's parting of ways. Life doesn't have to be forced, you can't drive it away, and you can't keep it if you don't keep it.
True friendship is plain and sincere, it can stand the test of time, not necessarily meet from time to time, often contact, but each other's hearts are concerned, when each other needs it, as long as I turn around, I will be behind you, open arms to embrace you.
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