If you are in the terminal stage of cancer, you will choose to actively fight cancer, even if your family owes a large amount of debt, you will continue to fight, do not give up the slightest opportunity to fight the disease, and survive bravely; Or do you choose to give up after it doesn't work and go with the flow, in order to save money, leave a sum of money for your family and children, and at the same time spend the last stages of your life with more comfort and dignity?
Yan Hongwei chose not to give up no matter what, actively face the physical and psychological pressure brought by cancer and its **, and strive to fight against the disease of cancer.
During her illness, she always patiently comforted her, ran for her, and was willing to bear a large amount of debts and be determined to sell her house to the United States for treatment, but because of a passage posted on the Internet, it aroused the anger of netizens across the country, what is the outcome of this doctor who spent 170,000 yuan to fight cancer in the United States? What did her husband say?
On the Internet, we can hear from time to time that the husband and wife are the same forest birds, and they fly separately when disaster comes, but today's story is a little different, Yan Hongwei's husband would rather take on debt, but also try to see if he can save her, but in the end, it is a pity that he failed to do so and took on a debt.
After reading the above story, do you think this relationship is stronger than Jin? However, only a year after his wife's death, he unexpectedly married a new love.
Let's start with the beginning of everything.
In 1984, in Jinzhong, Shanxi, a small city girl named Yan Hongwei fell to the ground. She has a happy family since she was a child, and her parents love her. There were no twists and turns, she has always had good academic performance, and she was successfully admitted to Nanjing University of Science and Technology in 2004, so she left her hometown in Shanxi, that small county.
It was at Nanjing University of Science and Technology that she met her future husband, Wu Zaibin.
There is a year difference between the two, and Yan Hongwei is Wu Zaibin's senior sister. When Yan Hongwei was a sophomore, Wu Zaibin was just a freshman. The two are not only alumni, but also the same club. They met because of a theatrical gala, in which they performed a show together.
After the show, Wu Zaibin already had a lot of good feelings for this senior sister, and what surprised him even more was that it didn't take long for him to find out that this senior sister turned out to be the organizer of this party, which planted a seed of worship in the heart of Wu Zaibin, who has always been introverted and introverted.
In this way, the two gradually got to know each other, and finally fell in love.
To this day, Wu Zaibin still firmly believes that it is a blessing for him to know Yan Hongwei and fall in love with Yan Hongwei. Yan Hongwei, who is cheerful, outgoing, and has leadership, has actually subtly changed him as an introvert through getting along with lovers in life.
After graduating from university, Wu Zaibin joined a company as an engineer. Yan Hongwei, who was one year older than Wu Zaibin, did not choose employment, but continued his studies and continued his master's and doctoral studies. In 2011, Dr. Yan Hongwei graduated and entered Shanghai University of Engineering Science as a teacher of Marx after passing interviews.
There is always a legend of breaking up after graduation in campus love, but Wu Zaibin and Yan Hongwei are different, the two of them have achieved positive results and walked from campus to home. On December 12, 2012, the two got married. Subsequently, the two set their small home in Shanghai and bought a house.
Two years later, on the day of the second wedding anniversary and the tenth anniversary of their relationship, that is, on December 12, 2014, Yan Hongwei gave birth to the crystallization of their love, the baby daughter Wu Siyan.
In 2017, Yan Hongwei participated in a physical examination. It was this physical examination that revealed the lesions that had been hidden in her body and opened the arduous road of fighting cancer since then.
The results of the physical examination showed that she had triple negative breast cancer. The so-called three negatives mean that ER, PR, and HER-2 in the pathological examination are all negative, what does this mean, the simplest way to say, that is, for this kind of cancer, the smallest and most effective method for cancer, targeting ** and endocrine ** are not working, and the only way to ** this cancer is to carry out chemotherapy.
And you must know that cancer itself is already terrible, this kind of breast cancer is also the type with the worst prognosis and the shortest survival time among many types of breast cancer, and it can be said that it is the most dangerous type of breast cancer, and the condition is easy to deteriorate and **. On January 16, 2015, at the age of 33, Yao Beina, who died of triple negative breast cancer, although she was detected at an early stage, but her cancer was cured again, and finally died.
After learning the result, it can be said that it was a bolt from the blue, which suddenly broke Yan Hongwei's originally happy and peaceful life, and Yan Hongwei, who had no owner, immediately called her husband Wu Zaibin and told him about it. Although Wu Zaibin is introverted and shy, he is very responsible in the face of major events, even if he is shocked, but he still calmly comforts his wife, with Wu Zaibin's reply, Yan Hongwei's heart settled.
Subsequently, Wu Zaibin, who was on a business trip, rushed back to Shanghai from other places non-stop, and took Yan Hongwei to do two more retests in different hospitals, and the sad thing is that the results were all advanced triple negative breast cancer.
After being diagnosed, Yan Hongwei and Wu Zaibin finally chose to undergo the examination at the Affiliated Cancer Hospital of Fudan University**. This hospital is one of the best cancer hospitals in Shanghai and even in China.
After being diagnosed with triple-negative breast cancer, Yan Hongwei first underwent a mastectomy and a total lymph node dissection, but even after the operation, the condition was still not controlled.
Subsequently, Yan Hongwei began her long road to fight cancer. She spent most of the year undergoing very painful chemotherapy, because chemotherapy can cause hair loss, Yan Hongwei had to cut off her lovely ponytail, and there are a lot of chemotherapy drugs Because of the medication, Yan Hongwei has become a little blessed from the original slender and delicate body, and her face is also rounded, but this is only the least affected ***, because of the medication, her stomach and intestines also have problems, and her nails are rotten and dark.
The drugs make people very painful, but Yan Hongwei is very strong, but when she talks about the development of the disease, she still can't help crying. Of Yan Hongwei's six tests, the disease in five of the test results was developing, and only one was the same as before, that is, it did not develop.
Yan Hongwei said that she often talks to her cancer cells, and her words are to the effect that if her cancer cells are smarter, don't kill her, otherwise it will be over. It's very lively, very playful, but behind it is full of bitter tears.
The strange thing is that even if the disease has progressed to an advanced stage and the lungs are full of lesions, Yan Hongwei has not felt any health problems caused by the disease in addition to the *** medication, she can still run and jump, jump around, and even cough without a sound.
In 2018, when all the drugs available in China could not be used (because it was triple-negative breast cancer), and the disease was still developing, Yan Hongwei and Wu Zaibin decided to go to the United States to see a doctor at MD Anderson Cancer Center in the United States to seek the last chance of life.
Wu Zaibin sent a circle of friends when he really had no choice, hoping to seek a new ** plan for his wife, and he was finally told by his friends that there was also a way for MD Anderson Cancer Center in the United States.
MD Anderson Cancer Center is one of the best cancer centers in the world, and a large number of cancer patients travel abroad every year. Now, Yan Hongwei and Wu Zaibin's family have also joined the team of these patients and their families who went to the United States for medical treatment.
In fact, in the process of fighting cancer, Yan Hongwei and her husband Wu Zaibin have a good mentality, and they can still laugh from time to time. In order to go to the United States this time, the couple simulated the interviews required for visas to the United States at home many times, and wanted to strive for the opportunity to pass the interview at one time and obtain a visa and go to the United States.
This time, it will cost a lot of money. In addition to medical expenses, there are also room and board costs and transportation to bear. Yan Hong was ruthless to go, she had already made up her mind, if she didn't have enough money, she would borrow, and if she couldn't do it, she would sell the house she bought in Shanghai.
This decision is not easy to make, in addition to the pressure of illness, Yan Hongwei also has to face financial pressure and psychological pressure.
Yan Hongwei's mother always couldn't help but collapse when she mentioned her daughter's illness, and began to cry silently, she cried for the strength of the child, and also cried for the tragic fate of the child, among many emotions, she even blamed herself for not being able to provide enough financial help for the child.
In short, Yan Hongwei and Wu Zaibin temporarily handed over the child to the child's grandfather, which was brought by Yan Hongwei's parents, and they borrowed a sum of money through various sources to go to the United States for medical treatment.
Sometimes, money is a life-saving straw for the sick, and the more you do, the more you have.
In fact, everyone knows that it is unlikely that there will be any different results, and many authoritative hospitals in China have been diagnosed. But Yan Hongwei always wanted to go to the United States this time to see if there was a new turnaround and a new ** plan, but it was just a gamble.
In January 2018, Yan Hongwei and Wu Zaibin went to apply for visas to the United States, and they passed it at one time.
After the visa to the United States was approved, Yan Hongwei's family went to change the name of their daughter Wu Siyan and changed their name from Wu Siyan to Wu Yizhen. Originally, Wu Siyan's name meant that Wu Zaibin missed Yan Hongwei and took Yan's homophone, but now, Yan Hongwei's family feels that the meaning of "Siyan" is not good, and they don't need to miss it when they are alive.
Although Yan Hongwei felt that this behavior was unreliable, she still smiled bitterly and obeyed her family. Perhaps, she herself has a faint glimmer of hope in her heart.
Yan Hongwei is very lively, very good at talking with a teacher's temperament and demeanor, he can talk to people in a few words, Yan Hongwei is promoting the whole decision to go to the United States, after arriving in the United States, looking for a place to live, taking a car, selling things, all the conditions are Yan Hongwei is giving orders, Wu Zaibin followed her silently and listened to her command. But after arriving at the hospital, it was Wu Zaibin who was busy paying and taking care of Yan Hongwei.
Because of long-term chemotherapy, Yan Hongwei's blood vessels were very thin, and it took several times to insert them. It is very painful to prick needles, but Yan Hongwei has long been used to it.
The cost of medical care in the United States is very high, only one visit to the doctor costs 649 US dollars, about 4,521 yuan, and it takes many days to wait. Just a few routine cancer examinations such as blood routine have cost a lot of money, which can be said to be a heaven and earth compared to the domestic fees.
The huge inspection fee made Yan Hongwei and Wu Zaibin feel very unreasonable, but there was no way, they had to listen to other people's territory in other people's territory, after all, they had to see a doctor.
On the seventeenth day after arriving in the United States, doctors at MD Anderson Cancer Center in the United States decided to have Yan Hongwei perform lung puncture surgery. At this time, Yan Hongwei and Wu Zaibin's money was no longer enough, so they temporarily borrowed money from relatives and friends to make up for the operation fee of about 100,000 yuan required for the puncture operation.
After waiting for another nineteen days, the results of the puncture never came out. Yan Hongwei and Wu Zaibin stayed in the United States for 39 days, and the 24,000 US dollars they brought to the United States, about 170,000 yuan, have all been spent.
Yan Hongwei and Wu Zaibin left the United States, not because they were satisfied with the ** plan, but because the doctor persuaded them, saying that the child was still young and needed more companionship and was persuaded to go home.
Fortunately, before leaving, they received the results of the puncture, and the American doctor believed that Yan Hongwei's disease was not a typical triple negative breast cancer, and the puncture results showed that the lesions in her lungs were positive, and endocrine ** could be considered.
This is really good news, and it can be said that it has opened the door to Yan Hongwei's life!
After returning to China, Yan Hongwei quickly told the doctors at Fudan University Cancer Hospital the results of his trip to the United States.
Because the test results of MD Anderson Cancer Center in the United States and the test results of Chinese hospitals can be said to be diametrically opposed, and the whole thing is different, Fudan University Cancer Hospital believes that the diagnosis of MD Anderson Cancer Center in the United States may be biased, and recommends that Yan Hongwei do another examination called FESPET.
The next day, Yan Hongwei got the test results. According to the test results, Fudan University Cancer Hospital still insisted on Yan Hongwei's diagnosis, believing that she was a typical triple-negative breast cancer, and the reason why the test result was positive at MD Anderson Cancer Center in the United States was because of the heterogeneity of the tumor.
The so-called heterogeneity of tumors means that in a person's body, different lesions have different properties, negative and positive can exist at the same time, and the lesions punctured at MD Anderson Cancer Center in the United States are positive, but most of her lesions are still negative. Therefore, the best plan given by Fudan University Cancer Hospital is still chemotherapy.
Yan Hongwei, who was still relatively strong, began to cry more frequently because he saw that his condition was still hopeless.
Yan Hongwei decided that both ** plans should be launched, and the key is which one to go on first. For cancer patients, time is more precious than money, and it can be said that whether or not a person survives can directly determine whether they survive or not.
In the end, Yan Hongwei decided to take the diagnosis of MD Cancer Center in the United States first and go to Hong Kong to buy a very expensive targeted drug**.
Targeted drugs can only target cancer cells and reduce damage to normal cells, while chemotherapy is an indiscriminate attack, relatively speaking, if it is effective, it must be a good targeted drug. However, almost all targeted drugs are sky-high. The kind that Yan Hongwei bought is no exception.
The medicine Yan Hongwei bought was called palbocitinib, and one pill cost 1,400 yuan. Yan Hong smiled and said that medicine is more expensive than **.
Yan Hongwei spent a total of 90,000 yuan on this trip, and bought three boxes of palbocinib and a box of 21 pills.
* The result is a pity and failed. Although white blood cells, platelets, and hemoglobin, which are important indicators of cancer spread, were normal, the CT results showed that the tumor was still progressing, and it was developing rapidly.
After learning the result, Yan Hongwei could only smile bitterly, she said some words, and sang "Existence" again.
Who understands what life has become, how I should exist".
Yan Hongwei still hasn't given up**. Yan Hongwei started a new ** plan.
Her daughter heard that koi fish can bring good luck and painted koi in the ward every day to pray for her mother's blessings, and she also gave her own koi to others in the ward.
After that, Yan Hongwei and Wu Zaibin were ready to go to the United States again, but before they could make the trip, Yan Hongwei's illness progressed to the brain. At this point, it can be declared that there is no chance of treatment.
At 16:49 pm on March 18, 2019, Yan Hongwei passed away at the age of 35.
On March 20, Wu Zaibin posted a Weibo with the content of: "Hang your most beloved person on the wall with your own hands, all the beauty is frozen into a cold **, and the sadness gushing out from the depths of the soul cannot be suppressed at all." I told myself that Weiwei went to another parallel world, where there was no disease, and just like we used to be, we would be very happy. ”
In the end, within a year of his wife's death, Wu Zaibin got married again.
Should we kidnap him with morality and make him pursue the happiness of the rest of his life, or should we think that he should at least wait a little longer, not forget about his former wife and start a new life just after the past year? Are you supportive of his actions?
At first, Wu Zaibin often dreamed of his deceased wife, so he went to the cemetery several times a week, but now, he has gradually come out and goes to the cemetery less often than before.
On the first anniversary of Yan Hongwei's death, in March 2020, Wu Zaibin announced his new relationship on Weibo, causing an uproar.
At the beginning of 2020, Wu Zaibin's back and lumbar spine were not very comfortable, so a ** who had watched "The Second Season of the World" (Yan Hongwei and Wu Zaibin are the protagonists of the fifth episode of the documentary "The Second Season of the World" on the road to fighting cancer) contacted him through a private message on Weibo, and carefully told him some knowledge about lumbar spine maintenance and lumbar spine surgery, and the two developed feelings in the slow contact.
After confirming the relationship, Wu Zaibin felt that he had to be responsible for his new lover, instead of hanging her while being nostalgic for his former lover, so on the first anniversary of Yan Hongwei's death, in March 2020, he decided to make it public.
Fortunately, Yan Hongwei's family also supports Wu Zaibin to find another one. The only requirement is that his new partner be good to the child.
It's a pity that the relationship only lasted three months, because there are too many problems in reality that stand in the way between the two of them, first of all, the region is a problem. Wu Zaibin is in Shanghai, and Miss ** is in Beijing.
At present, Wu Zaibin is single and has children alone. In order to take care of his children, he even quit his original job and invested at home instead.
Let's wish him to meet the right person again.