As the saying goes, If you want your family to prosper, burying your father is better than burying

This proverbial saying, "If you want your family to prosper, it is better to bury your father than to bury your mother", has its profound meaning. It does not mean to devalue the status of the father, but to emphasize the status and role of the mother in the family. Traditionally, mothers play an important role in the family, and they take on the responsibility of caring for the family, children, and are the mainstay of the family. Therefore, the place where the mother is buried is more likely to bless the family to prosper. To a certain extent, this concept reflects the respect and cherishing of motherhood.

In fact, this proverb is closely related to the way of life of ancient people. The ancients believed that the mother's grave was more beneficial to the development of offspring than the father's grave. Because mothers are usually more concerned about taking care of their children, the ancients believed that after the death of the mother, she could still protect her children and grandchildren in the underworld.

In ancient times, women's responsibilities were mainly to have children and pass them on to the next generation. Therefore, choosing a cemetery with good feng shui for the mother will also help the family to prosper and strengthen the family's power.

The same is true from the point of view of emotional intimacy. In traditional families, women are responsible for taking care of the family, and the child is the meat that falls from the mother's body, usually taken care of by the mother, so the mother-child relationship is more intimate. The father, on the other hand, is often busy with his career and has the possibility of remarrying and having children, and the relationship with his children is not so close. As the saying goes: "I'd rather follow the begging mother than the official father."

Therefore, when a parent dies, children are more inclined to find a cemetery with better feng shui for their closer mother, which also explains the saying that "it is better to bury the father than to bury the mother". The choice of the location of the mother's grave is not up to the children themselves, but requires the consent of the mother's family. "Bury your father casually, bury your mother's uncle's family has the final say" means that when burying the mother, the uncle will come to see if the location is suitable and whether the mother is treated with due respect.

Therefore, in order to maintain the relationship between relatives, it is a sign of filial piety to find a good place for my mother to be buried.

Although the ancients were very particular about patriarchy, when it comes to dealing with the aftermath, it is different. In addition to what I just said, there is a saying in the countryside, "Go to the church to worship your grandfather, and enter the mountain to worship your grandmother."

In other words, male ancestors are generally worshiped in the ancestral hall of the family, while female ancestors have to go to the mountains to worship. This also shows that burying female ancestors must choose a place with good feng shui, so that the family can prosper.

Although these sayings are a bit of an ancient superstition, they can be regarded as a custom, after all, they are the crystallization of the wisdom of the ancients.