Text: Zhou Peng. Marriage is like a flower, if you don't take care of it, it will wither.
Every relationship comes to an end, and there are clear signs.
The divorce rate is getting higher and higher, marriage is like playing at home, and the lack of awareness and understanding of feelings will eventually harm yourself and make the emotional world particularly fragile.
Some marriages come to an end as they walk.
Zhang Ailing said: "Love seems to be romantic and innocent, but in the end, the reality is cruel, because she can't stand the cooking of oil, salt, sauce and vinegar. ”Marriage, if it is inseparable, will leave the following signs, I hope you will not occupy any of them.
My brother and sister-in-law are divorced.
My sister-in-law lives in suspicion every day, and the first thing my brother does when she comes back from work is to get close and smell him to see if he smells of a woman's perfume, and she will carefully check his clothes for long hair or lipstick marks.
Seeing that he and his female colleagues say a word more, or smile more, they will say sour things and ask his brother not to associate with others anymore.
There can be no contact information of the opposite sex in the mobile phone, and even female customers can't do business.
My brother endured it for more than a year, and he also tried to communicate well with his sister-in-law, reporting his itinerary every day when he went out, promising not to betray his marriage.
But my sister-in-law just didn't believe it, and quarreled with him every day about this.
Both of them got tired of arguing, and it ended in tragedy.
Between husband and wife, without trust, they can't go together.
"Trust is the most important trait shared by two people in a marriage relationship, and it is indispensable for building a happy, growing relationship," says Nina O'Neill. ”Between two people, once the most basic trust is lacking, it will put the other party under a lot of pressure, unable to work hard, and quarrel every day because of suspicion.
Without trust, blind suspicion, and unreasonable trouble, in the end, it will only consume feelings quickly.
Such a marriage cannot be continued well, and the divorce rate is very high.
Xu Wenchang and Zhang Chengcheng in "An Home" came up with the idea of a fake divorce because they wanted to buy an extra house.
However, Zhang Chengcheng fell in love with Xiao Tiantian and did not keep his heart.
Xu Wenchang broke the fact that his wife betrayed him, and his heart was so dead that he couldn't forgive her.
No matter how much Zhang Chengcheng begged for forgiveness, he didn't want to look back.
Later, he met Fang Bijin, and fell in love with her for a long time, and the two of them rented a house, Xu Wenchang had new expectations for love, and his marriage with Zhang Chengcheng became a thing of the past.
Some couples, although living under the same roof, have a new life for themselves.
In each other's future, there is no other existence.
Both husband and wife have lost hope in running a marriage and have a new relationship with each other, so there is no point in the existence of marriage.
Two people are separated and have no sense of responsibility for each other, and they will eventually go to the road of divorce.
Not that all two people who enter marriage have an emotional foundation.
Some people feel that they have reached the age of marriage and meet someone they don't hate so much, so they talk about marriage.
For marriage, it is too hasty, and the understanding of each other is very shallow. After entering the marriage, I found that there were contradictions and conflicts between each other that could never be dealt with.
Sigmund Freud said, "At the beginning of a marriage, two parties cannot love each other with body and heart, and once it breaks down, it will be faster than anything else." ”People who have no emotional foundation, when they encounter a little test, it will be easy to question their marriage and their lover's heart.
The two are either noisy or in a cold war.
Even, often separated, can't stand the other party walking around in their own world, nagging endlessly.
Even if we meet every day, we maintain "zero communication".
Marriage is full of helplessness and embarrassment, and two people have no communication together, just like having "aphasia".
Under the same roof, but there is no sense of intimacy. Yes, there is only a heart that treats each other indifferently.
Over time, the husband and wife will live like enemies, and eventually become strangers.
When entering marriage, you must be cautious, you must meet someone who loves each other, and you must go both ways willingly.
Don't take feelings as child's play, once you enter a marriage, no matter how many problems you encounter, don't choose to quit easily.
Marriage needs two people to maintain together, you have me, I have you, and this relationship will be stronger.
February** Dynamic Incentive Program
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About the author: Zhou Peng, an emotional writer, takes dreams as horses and words for a living. Carefully build Zhou Peng's meditation classroom, committed to cultivating the mind, improving cognition, and surpassing oneself. Grow together along the way.