My cousin was admitted to 985, and after graduation, she picked up her parents as soon as she graduated and blocked all her relatives
I am 27 years old, married, and on the day of the Mid-Autumn Festival, my husband and I returned to my parents' house to spend the festive season with our parents.
At home, we were enjoying a moment of well-fed and enjoyable meals, when suddenly, my mother's cell phone rang. She glanced at the caller ID and then picked it up and activated the hands-free function because she wasn't very hard of hearing.
* My brother-in-law's anxious voice came from the other end: "Second sister, can you contact the second brother?" ”
My mother was stunned for a moment, not understanding what my uncle meant. The uncle's voice was a little impatient: "Xiaojiong is going to hold a wedding the day after tomorrow, I sent an invitation to relatives and friends before, so that everyone can come to congratulate them, everyone agreed, but the second brother did not move." I looked for them and knocked on the door for a long time, but no one answered. Neighbors told me that He Mei took them away two months ago, and the house had been put up for sale. ”
The brother-in-law dialed the second uncle's **, but no one answered. He tried to contact his second uncle's wife and daughter, He Mei, but there was no response. After asking other relatives and friends, I found that no one could get in touch with them, and even the eldest cousin said that he was blocked by the second uncle's family.
My mother thought it was incredible, but she still hung up on my brother-in-law's **, and began to look for my second uncle's *** She tried to call her second uncle**, but she still couldn't get through. I tried to send a WeChat message to my second uncle instead, but all I saw was a big exclamation mark.
I glanced at the family group and found that the news had piled up to 99+, and relatives and friends were condemning the second uncle's family.
Among the many negative voices, I saw a message that stood out from the rest, which was sent by my cousin: "If it were my ** family, I would also block you." When they were down and in trouble, not only did you not lend a hand, but you also sneered and bullied them, and even your own parents and siblings looked down on him. Now that his daughter has a chance, but you want to continue to be relatives, so that you can find someone to help borrow money in the future, is this feasible? ”
My cousin's words were quickly drowned out by the information condemning the second uncle's family, and no one dared to reply, because everyone knew that what my cousin said was true and that we were unfair to the second uncle.
I found my cousin's *** and told her about the situation in the family group. My cousin's reaction was very flat, and she told me, "Sister, I have long expected their reactions, and I know that their attitude towards our family has changed since I was admitted to university. I'm not an easy person to calculate. ”
What they did to me before, how they hurt my dad, my dad may not care, but I can't. For my dad, the biggest hurt is not to be depressed and achieve nothing for a lifetime, but to be looked down upon by those who are close to him. ”
Even my parents, brothers and sisters are dismissive of my dad, can you understand how hurtful it is? ”
I was silent, thinking back to some things in the past, although I was only a junior and had not had much contact with my second uncle's family, but I had also heard from my mother that my second uncle was wrong.
My grandparents had five children, three sons and two daughters, and my mother had an older brother, an older sister and two younger brothers. Due to the different rankings of men and women, my mother was called the second sister.
In the eyes of my grandparents, my uncle was very favored, my brother-in-law was highly valued, and my two daughters were treated well, but they were not very satisfied with my second uncle, who was silent, not smart, and didn't talk much.
They spent a lot of energy on sending their uncle to school, making him a well-respected people's teacher; They opened a restaurant for his brother-in-law, which made him live a prosperous life in the county town; However, for the second uncle, they did not leave a penny for him, so much so that the second uncle did not have his own family until he was 28 years old.
The second uncle has been farming all his life, has no pension, and the family of three has been living in a dilapidated old house and living a poor life. My cousin said that when she was a child, her family could not even afford new clothes, and her parents had to go to relatives and friends to pick up old clothes to wear, and they were ridiculed.
Relatives looked down on my second uncle's family, and even my grandparents were dissatisfied with them. They think that the eldest uncle is their pride, the younger uncle is their pistachio, and the two daughters are the treasures that are cared for, but the second uncle has become their shame.
My mother also sneered at my second uncle's family, believing that they were not conducive to the glory of the family, and never got close to them. My mother didn't even go to my second uncle's house to greet the New Year, and she never greeted my second uncle's family on the way, let alone helped them when they were in trouble.
My cousin mentioned a very important thing, that is, when she was in high school, her second uncle borrowed money from all over the place to make up for tuition.
Sister, I still vividly remember the scene when my father took me to go from house to house to borrow money with hope, and I remember how those relatives and friends laughed at us. ”
I also remember this incident clearly, when the second uncle's family also came to borrow money from us, but my mother not only did not give a penny, but also blamed the second uncle, I felt very unbearable, and secretly stuffed my half month's living expenses into my cousin's hands while no one was paying attention.
My cousin still remembers this, and it is precisely because of the warmth she received from relatives and friends this time that she deeply remembers it. She said to me, "Sister, thank you. This is one of the few warmth we get from our relatives and friends. I will keep in mind that in the future, whatever help you need, you can ask me and I will do my best to help you. As for the others, if they want to take advantage of me, it is absolutely impossible. I'm narrow-minded and forgetful, but what's the matter? Either don't do anything wrong, or be brave enough to bear the consequences. Want to pretend to be confused? That's just daydreaming! ”
The second uncle's family was proud four years ago, when my cousin was admitted to 985 University with excellent grades and became the most outstanding person in our generation.
After the results of the college entrance examination were announced, the courtyard of the second uncle's family was surrounded by relatives and friends, and they came to congratulate them. Everyone showed joy and encouragement to the second uncle's family, and even my grandfather praised it again and again: "He Mei is worthy of being the granddaughter of my family, and she inherited my excellent genes to achieve such good results." ”
At that time, many relatives wanted my second uncle to hold a celebration, and my parents also discussed the matter of gift-giving, planning to give more gifts to my second uncle's family, expressing their affirmation of my cousin and hoping to get my cousin's help in the future.
My cousin clearly understood everyone's intentions, so after graduation, she made a decision as soon as she graduated, took over her second uncle's family, and blocked all relatives and friends except me.
I can only send my blessings, wishing her and her second uncle's family a happy life, and at the same time, I also hope that everyone will grow wise and stop doing things that hurt their relatives. Once the human heart is cooled, it is difficult to rekindle it.