For relatives who leave for the New Year, I think you may be the same as me, loving and afraid.
I loved it when I was a child, but I was afraid when I grew up.
What I love is the excitement, but what I am afraid of is how embarrassing it is.
The New Year's festival is the most lively time for ordinary people's homes, especially in rural areas.
It's just that what makes people speechless is that from small to large,There is always a group of people who will surround you when you visit relatives, long and short, ask this and that.
Asking you straight is like sitting on pins and needles, and you can't wait to find a crack in the ground to get into.
Those people who always ask questions at the New Year's party are daunting).
So here comes the question:Of these relatives, who is closer?
Uncle and uncle, why are the homophones in these two titles different? Can they be used universally?
Today we are going to talk about the traditional culture in the title of relatives.
Most of the names we use are handed down from our ancestors, and they represent the intricacies of human relationships.
Especially those names between relatives, which are accidentally confused.
In layman's terms,A relative is a person who is related to each other.
It has a very wide range, as long as it is a little kinship, it is called a relative.
But in ancient times,It consists of two parts, "pro" and "relative"."Relative" refers to a relative of the grandfather or father; "Qi" refers to a relative of the maternal ancestor or mother.
The relatives of the paternal side belong to the clan, the blood relationship is relatively close, so it is more valued;
The clan relatives of the world are one family).
Therefore, the collateral relatives who are addressed to the father's side are called "tang", such as: cousin, cousin, cousin, cousin, etc., belong to cousins. The cousin and father are the same surname and are more closely related by blood.
WhileA relative on the mother's side is an in-lawBlood relations are relatively distant.
Collateral relatives who are addressed to the mother's side are crowned with "cousin", such as: cousin, cousin, cousin, cousin, etc., belong to cousins.
The cousin and the mother have the same surname, and they are slightly further related to their own blood relationship.
However, my aunt's children are an exception.
BecauseMy aunt's child has the father's last name, and he is not a person with the same surname, so the blood relationship is also far away,Like the children of aunts and uncles, they are also called "tables".
There is a folk proverb that saysThe relationship between the cousins is very strong, which can keep in constant contact for hundreds of years; Cousins, on the other hand, are thousands of miles apart. It can be seen that the kinship of the ancients had a strict difference between intimacy and alienation.
Although the family of my parents is related to me by blood, butThe father's family belongs to the clan, and the mother's family belongs to the maternal relative, the clan relationship is more intimate than the foreign relationship.
Diagram of the Qin State kinship of the Chinese).
Clan culture has a long history.
In ancient times, it belonged to the monarch and minister system, the imperial power was high, and everyone wanted to be the emperor, which led to the change of dynasties and constant wars.
In the era of war and chaos,In order to survive better, people unite with their brothers and sisters of the same clan, together to face the threat of war, so the formation of clan forces.
The ancients had a strong sense of clan, and would often gather in the ancestral hall to discuss some big and small things, and punish those who were at fault among their descendants. Sometimes the patriarch of the large family will be moved out to make decisions and judgments, and those who betray the family are even more disallowed by the family.
The rise of clan power has given birth to China's unique ancestral cultureTo this day, there are still many people who often worship their ancestors in the ancestral hall, hold banquets, hold meetings, etc.
The ancestral hall, with its unique architectural style, magnificent and gorgeous appearance, and solemn and mysterious atmosphere, has become a unique cultural landscape, engraved with the history and memory of the family.
The ancestral hall of the clan is a unique and mysterious landscape).
The concept of clan made the ancients very close to everyone in the clanEven if the relationship has been extended for many generations, or if there is no blood relationship, it will still be commensurate with kinship, such as cousins, cousins, cousins, cousins, etc.
And people outside the clan, even if they are very close, are somewhat emotionally and psychologically estranged.
Of course, this is all caused by historical reasons, and it is also a concept imposed on people by feudal etiquette.
History is always advancing, and human ideas are constantly changing and updating.
Now "relatives" have long become a common interpersonal relationshipSeven aunts, eight aunts, seven uncles and eight uncles can be included in the ranks of relatives.
When everyone moves around a lot, they will naturally become closer to each other. It can be said that in addition to family members, relatives are the people closest to us, and they are also people who deserve to be treated and cherished by us.
Visiting relatives is a unique social experience for us Chinese).
In addition to the difference between relatives and relatives, there is also an order of respect and inferiority in the title of relatives.
The same relatives, there are also seniority, the higher the seniority, the more respected.
Relatives who are older than their own generation are respected, such as grandparents, parents, maternal grandparents, aunts, uncles and their spouses, etc.
Relatives who are lower than their own rank are inferior, such as children, grandchildren, nieces and nephews, nieces and nephews, etc.
Those who are of the same generation as themselves are the same generation. Such as concubines, sisters-in-law, brothers-in-law, brothers and sisters, etc.
Feudal etiquette: the generations are distinct, the young and the old are orderly).
People of different generations use very particular titles, even if they are homophones, they should not be used indiscriminately, otherwise they will be inferior to seniority and etiquette.
Just like "uncle" and "uncle".The homophones in these two titles have very different meanings and methods of use, and cannot be used universally.
In our usual cognition,Uncle and brother-in-law both refer to the husband of the auntUncle and uncle-in-law are both lovers who call auntsThere's nothing wrong with that.
But if you compare the explanations of the two words, you will find that this is not the case at all.
Father, which refers to the father, is also a general term for male elders, such as uncles, uncles, uncles, etc.
Fu, which refers to the husband, the spouse of a woman, is also a term for men of the same generation, such as brother-in-law, brother-in-law, etc.
visible", "."Uncle" is a title for an elder, and "uncle" is a title for a peer。If they are used interchangeably, they will be confused and blamed, especially when it comes to written expression.
That is to say, you should call your aunt's lover uncle, and your aunt's lover uncle, because they are all your elders;
Uncle-in-law is your father's name for your aunt's spouse. Aunt is your mother's sister, and your father calls them sisters-in-law in front of outsiders.** So their husbands are naturally called aunts and sisters-in-law.
"Uncle" and "uncle" are two different titles).
The Chinese characters are broad and profound, and the words "father" and "husband" are homophones and have very different meanings and usages.
The salutation between Chinese is not only the inheritance of ancient etiquette, but also a very important part of social interaction.
In the etiquette of the ancients, there was an almost harsh distinction between people and their titles, and once they were used wrongly, they would be hated by people: there was no respect for the elders, no big and no small.
In addition to that,Under the influence of feudal patriarchy and husband's authority, there is also an obvious order of respect and inferiority among immediate family membersFor example, the son calls the father "Jiayan" and "Jiazun", and the father calls the son "dog" and "child".
For another example, the wife calls her husband "Langjun" and "official", while the husband calls his wife "clumsy" and "cheap".
Nowadays, the title is much simpler, the elders can't call indiscriminately, and the peers are the same age, so it's okay to call them by their names.
Without so much attention, everyone will get along more naturally and comfortably.
It's just ...... now
Many people scatter as they walk; Many relatives are broken while walking.
I used to go to relatives, and I went to the beginning.
Seven and eight are not finished yet; Now go to one in the morning, one in the afternoon, and it will be done in a day or two.
It feels like it's not walking relatives, it's walking form.
As for those relatives who no longer move, except for the elders of their parents' generation, the peers and juniors behind them are afraid that they don't know each other face to face.
True to the old saying: ".The first generation is pro, the second generation is table, and the third and fourth generations are pulled down
The ancients' insights about kinship).
Relatives have become the group of people who can't see each other when they have something, don't contact them when they have nothing to do, and disappear when they meet once at the end of the year.
The word "pro" first appeared in the Zhou Dynasty, it was originally written as "pro", that is, only when you meet often. So whether to kiss or not is actually related to whether you often see each other or not.
The so-called "meeting three relatives", no matter how close the person is, no matter how deep the feeling, if they don't see each other for ten or eight years, they will gradually become alienated and indifferent.
Many people, who haven't seen each other for a long time, slowly forget what he looks like, and gradually, they don't contact him anymore.
Family affection needs to maintain enthusiasm and warmth in frequent comings and goings. When we meet and chat, our feelings settle down day by day.
This is true of family affection, as well as love and friendship.
It is better to remember each other often, than to get together often.
Common faces, chat more, and the feelings can not be weak).
Nowadays, the emergence of electronic products has made people's lives faster and more convenient, and even the New Year's greetings have been changed to ***.
Kinship is also becoming simpler, and children now don't have to worry about those names anymore.
I think that in the future, more and more names will be withdrawn from the stage of history, and people will only see them in books.
Of course, there will also be many new names in our lives that have become popular elements in our mouths.
Just like the things in our hometown are different from people, and our relatives are gradually drifting away, we will slowly accept and adapt.
The only thing that cannot be changed is the attachment to family affection and concern for relatives.
Family affection is unforgettable, it is the eternal and warm light of life).
It is an emotion engraved in the bones, which can travel through thousands of mountains and rivers, and is not afraid of the cycle of time.
It is never mentioned, but it is never forgotten.