Life is in a hurry, and in the blink of an eye, you will reach middle age. In your spare time, do you imagine how you will spend your old age?
Is it to wear sneakers every day to watch the morning sunset? Or do you run to the hospital every once in a while, helplessly watching the medicine in the infusion bag slip down drop by drop?
Is it to sit around with your family and enjoy a rich, delicious meal? Or in the hospital room, accompanied by all kinds of pills, eating a monotonous and boring sick meal?
Is it a trip with your family to enjoy the beauty of the rivers and mountains? Or in a wheelchair, wandering the crowded corridors of hospitals?
The famous host Bai Yansong in "Are You Happy? There is a sentence written in the book:
Today's middle age determines the possibilities of old age. Most of the tragedies that occurred in later years were the wrong path taken when they were young.
How people treat themselves, what kind of life they will live.
Most of the misfortunes in later years are the "fruits" planted in middle age
Physical ailments do not form overnight; Most of the pain of old age is the vice of "greed" when you were young.
greedy for comfort, greedy for enjoyment, lazy for fun; Some are overworked and overdrawn.
When I see the food I like, I eat and drink it, eat and drink it, high sugar and high oil, and ignore it;
After work, instead of resting well, I swipe my mobile phone without moderation, watch **, and be satisfied with one "instant pleasure" after another, and some often stay up late, fearlessly shorten the sleep time, and lose the opportunity for body repair.
There are also people who blindly pay for their families, work day and night, constantly overdraw, and finally collapse their bodies at a young age.
Illness is formed little by little, and health is also accumulated little by little.
Mr. Liang Shuming, a master of Chinese culture, was still able to give a speech on stage at the age of 90, and his voice was as loud as a bell, which made the young people in the audience ashamed of themselves.
Sharing his experience of staying healthy, he said, "I have to do physical activity every day, I have to read and write. ”
Every morning, he would go for a walk, a boxing session in Beihai Park, and a run along the river to soothe his nerves.
The mother of the Queen of England, the secret of longevity is also revealed in the official biography "Queen Elizabeth's Mother":
It is not until you are plagued by illness in your later years that you realize the importance of not drinking, smoking, eating junk food, and doing a lot of exercise when you were younger. If you want to live a long life, don't make wishful thinking in hindsight. ”
If you want to live a long life, you need to plan your life early, abandon bad habits, and maintain self-discipline.
Keep your mouth shut, eat less sugar, less oil, and don't eat too much; Open your legs, keep exercising, and exercise every day; Manage your sleep and insist on going to bed early and waking up early; Regular physical examinations to "escort" for a good body.
Liu Guoen, a professor at Peking University, said: "Only health is the overall situation of life. ”
Start to take care of your body in middle age and plan for health as soon as possible, so that you can have the capital to withstand the storms of life in your later years.
Writer Wu Junhui said: "Many people can't make it to the climate, not because of poor ability and lack of opportunities, but because they choose comfort too early and stop running." ”
When you are young, you don't work hard and don't study well, and when you are middle-aged, your family life will be stretched, and when you are old, you will inevitably fall into the quagmire of "bleak evening" because you have no money.
When it is time to accompany and educate children, indulge in their own pleasures, blindly spoil children, ignore the growth of children, and when they are old, the child's character has problems, and in his old age, he must pay for the "account" he owes.
At the age of taking care of the family, if you don't take good care of the family, you spend all day drinking, hurting the "heart" of your family, and when you are old, you will naturally get the retribution you deserve.
A neighbor in the community spent all day drinking, not at home, and his wife couldn't stand it and divorced him.
Leave the children with their elderly grandparents.
The grandparents are old and cannot take on the responsibility of education, and the children do not study well, skipping school, fighting, and often causing trouble ......In the end, it was the father who cleaned up the "mess".
I once saw such a joke on the Internet about treating an irresponsible husband: "On a rainy day, you push him out to bask in the sun; On a snowy day, you push him out to see the snow; What he doesn't want to eat, you give him food; Give him short sleeves in winter and a padded jacket in summer. Young is not good for his wife, and he can......'t run away when he is old”
The hearts of men are mutual. For irresponsible husbands, although wives may not necessarily do this, the quality of companionship will not be so good that it will not be good.
When you get along with people, you have an emotional account, when you are young, keep recharging, and you will have a happy life in your old age.
When the child is young, educate well and cultivate the character well, even if it may not be outstanding, but the child can support himself, and we don't need to worry too much in our old age.
When your children need help, try your best to help and fully support your child's development, and when you are old, your child will naturally be filial to you and take care of you.
When you are young, treat the people next to you well, care for each other, support each other, and in your old age, you will have the warmth of each other.
As the writer Leng Ying once said: "Your kindness and kindness to others will be fulfilled by yourself in the end." ”
Mo Yan wrote in "The Herbivorous Family":
If people want to survive, they must get rid of the shackles of chains, and sorrow and pessimism are the most fundamental mortal enemies of people. ”
In life, some people are in the cage of mentality all their lives and are tortured.
Such a person is always very sensitive, and other people's words and eyes have to be speculated for a long time; As soon as something happens, he thinks wildly, tosses and turns, and complains again and again.
Pavlov said: "Sorrow, apprehension and pessimism can make a man sick; A positive, happy and strong will and optimistic mood can overcome illness and make people better and live longer. ”
Think about it from another angle, in daily complaints, even if you pay a lot, because of the constant complaints and accusations every day, your family will not be grateful, and sometimes they will stay away wisely.
When people reach middle age, it is very important to cultivate their mentality and pattern.
Guo Wanying, known as the "golden branches and jade leaves of Shanghai", is full of legends in her life.
She was born into a wealthy family, her father was a wealthy local businessman, and her mother was a young lady.
Since childhood, he has no worries about food and clothing, and he has also received a good education.
After getting married, I played the piano and raised flowers when I had time, and my life was very happy.
However, the world is impermanent, and during the special period, her house and family property were confiscated, and she could only live in a 7-square-meter dilapidated house with her two children.
Later, she was also sent to build roads, dig fish ponds, clean toilets ......
However, in the face of impermanent fate, she can still live a life with affection and fun: making cakes out of lunch boxes and baking biscuits with wire; Make tea ...... with a rice bowl
It is this peaceful and comfortable mentality that allows Guo Wanying to calmly face the ups and downs of life and live to the age of more than 90.
People's happiness lies in their inner feelings. If you are happy in your heart, you will be happy in life.
Persisting in reading will broaden your horizons, broaden your ideas for solving problems, and improve your pattern; Persistence in learning will allow you to have goals and stay in sync with society; Cultivating an optimistic attitude and looking down on external objects will make you feel happy and calm ...... heart
Health preservation focuses on nourishing the heart. Things come to conform to things, and things are peaceful, so that you can prolong your life.
Good blessings need to be fulfilled by oneself.
From now on, while busy work, lay out for the elderly in advance:
Maintain self-discipline for your own health; For the happiness of old age, constantly recharge; Stay at ease and at peace.
A little more accumulation every day, there will be more protection in old age.