Recently, in Jinan, Shandong, a 32-year-old woman published an article on the Internet that she was single.
She complained: "I'm so good, why doesn't anyone want it?" The woman's name was Wang Yao, and she looked at her cousin who was about to get married, and her heart was full of depression and helplessness.
Wang Yao revealed that she had been on a blind date since she was 25 years old, and she still hadn't found a good partner after 8 years. She said: "I don't like me, I don't like me. Seeing that all the Fa Xiaoquan of the same age are married, and even my cousin of 97 years will get married at the end of the year, my heart is broken! ”
Wang Yao's words revealed the bitterness and helplessness in her heart.
Wang Yao's appearance is superior, her skin is white and beautiful, she is tall, and she has the temperament of a small jasper. Working in Guangdong, with a monthly salary of more than 20,000 yuan, and strong work ability. However, these advantages did not bring her a happy married life.
Wang Yao said: "I also want to get married, but I can't get married for the sake of getting married, right?" I'm looking for someone I can spend my life with, not just someone. ”
She has high requirements for herself, hoping to find someone who shares common values and hobbies, and has to own 2 apartments, a car of more than 500,000 yuan, and a salary of about 60,000 yuan per month.
Wang Yao once lived with her boyfriend for more than a year, but was finally let down. She recalled: "I really wanted to go to the end with him, but I didn't expect him to do this to me. I really can't understand why I can't get a sincere feeling when I give so much. ”
Wang Yao's love experience made her full of fear and distrust of marriage. She fears being betrayed and hurt again, so she chooses her partner more carefully.
Wang Yao has to go on a blind date every year when she goes home, and goes back and forth on a blind date dozens of times, but she is unsuccessful. The blind date is either short or ugly, and she doesn't look down on it at all.
Once, a blind date questioned Wang Yao's age: "You don't look young!" Have you ever had a baby? This question made Wang Yao feel angry and humiliated.
Wang Yao replied: "If it's not suitable, forget it, a high-quality person like me may indeed not be worthy of you!" She couldn't stand the questioning and belittling of her.
The man turned around and walked away, muttering some disgruntled words. He muttered sarcastically: "Such a high-quality woman is still on a blind date in the countryside? It's been so many years, and he hasn't found the right person yet, so he won't reflect on himself! ”
Wang Yao lamented her bad luck, every time she was about to succeed, she fell short. The villagers said bluntly: "Your conditions are too high, who dares to climb high!" ”
As soon as Wang Yao's article was released, it immediately aroused heated discussions among netizens.
Haha, this woman is so hilarious! After 8 years of failed blind dates, he can still hold on for so long, what a perseverance emperor! Perhaps, though, she should reflect on whether she is asking too much. A netizen said.
This woman is so confident! I dare to ask so high, and I am not afraid that no one will ask for it! However, having said that, self-confidence is also a good thing, and hopefully she can find a partner who meets her requirements. It was also said.
Oops, this woman is really beyond her control! 8 years of blind date was unsuccessful, and I complained that the requirements were too high and no one wanted it! Maybe she should reflect on whether it is time to lower those unrealistic demands. Another netizen said.
Summary:
Finding a partner is also a profound art. When a person thinks highly of himself, but is always on the road of love, perhaps he should reconsider his position and not pursue perfection too much.
A modest relaxation of standards may be a crucial step towards happiness. What we need to do is not to insist on our own opinions, but to adjust our expectations in a timely manner.
Don't put too much emphasis on perfection, as perfection is often fiction rather than reality. We should pay more attention to each other's inner qualities and whether we can truly understand and accept each other.
When we let go of those unnecessary insistences and lower some requirements appropriately, we will find that fate actually comes inadvertently. Love is not a task, but a natural occurrence.
When we allow ourselves to relax and allow love to come its own way, we are often able to feel its presence more deeply.
So, for those who have been unsuccessful on blind dates repeatedly, perhaps it's time to revisit their standards.
Not to compromise, but to better welcome the person who will be able to spend the rest of our lives with us. Remember, true fate awaits us at the most unexpected moments.
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