The in-laws gave their grandson 100,000 red envelopes, and the daughter-in-law opened it at night and changed the child's surname the next day
Having a child should be a happy event for the family, especially for the elderly, because they have upgraded to grandparents or grandparents, and have the opportunity to meet their relatives of the next generation. Nan Nan recently gave birth to a baby, which should have been a happy moment for the family, but when she was doing the full moon wine, she was angry because of an incident by her in-laws, and even decided to change the child's surname the next day. What's going on? Let's listen to Nan Nan's story.
My name is Nan Nan, I am an only daughter in my family, I am 24 years old this year, my husband is 25 years old, and I have a younger sister. The conditions of my family are relatively better than that of my husband's family, and when I got married, my family did not ask for a bride price, and my parents gave me a car worth 200,000 yuan. As for buying a house, my family also paid half of the down payment. It stands to reason that my in-laws should be happy, but it seems that because of the self-esteem of the man's family, they always speak sarcastically to my parents.
For example, my parents gave me a 200,000 yuan car, and my father-in-law said, "This car is not very good, I feel a little dizzy after sitting once." My husband quickly explained: "My dad means that this is a new car, and you need to get used to it for a while, otherwise it will smell bad and you will get dizzy when you sit." "I know that my father-in-law thinks that the car delivered by my family is not good, which makes the man's family lose face. Moreover, when we bought the house, my parents made half of the down payment, and they didn't appreciate it, but they were picky with my parents.
Later, when I gave birth to a child, my parents gave the baby a 20,000 yuan meeting gift, and my in-laws gave 6,000 yuan, but their attitude immediately changed and they felt that they were being crushed. There's no way, I don't want to argue, I'll give more if I have, forget it, I don't care.
However, my in-laws always had a bad attitude and always showed dissatisfaction with my parents. For example, before the full moon wine, my mother-in-law asked me how many gifts my parents would give their children, and I casually replied: "80,000, they think this number is auspicious." This is their first grandson, and they are so happy that I can't refuse to give so much. I don't have a son in my family, and my parents' money will be left to me and my grandson in the future, so they can give it if they want. The mother-in-law's face changed greatly when she heard this, and she muttered in a low voice: "It's really rich to burn." ”
As a result, on the day of the banquet, my parents gave a gift of 80,000 yuan, and then it was the turn of my in-laws, who announced in a high-profile manner: "This is the first eldest grandson of our old grandson's family, and we gave our grandson a big red envelope of 100,000 yuan." "I don't feel good in my heart, although it is a good thing for my in-laws to give red envelopes, but there is no need to emphasize the "old grandson" and "eldest grandson", and also look at my parents. Because they know that I am an only child, and my parents also regard this child as their first grandson, the old people on both sides are precious and should be cherished, so why deliberately highlight the differences?
When I came home in the evening, I asked my husband to come over to see what his parents were doing, and he was speechless. 
He called his parents ** and expressed his dissatisfaction, but his father-in-law said: "I deliberately suppressed Nan Nan's father, he gave 80,000, I gave 100,000, and we will not pay back the remaining 90,000 for the time being, and then slowly supply the grandson later!" The children of our old Sun family can't be snatched away by their old Wang family! ”
This made him angry. He thought that this child was born to him, and it flowed in the blood of both of their families. His in-laws often deliberately confronted his parents in this way, which made him very disgusted.
So, the next day, he decided to change the child's surname. Anyway, it's time to get an account. They decided to have the surname "Wang", after all, this is the child born to him, and it is natural to have his surname!
That way, his in-laws don't have to worry about his parents snatching their grandchildren. Because this grandson is now surnamed "Wang" instead of "Sun"!
He knew that doing so would make them uncomfortable, but the discomfort was only temporary. In this way, you will not have to fight everywhere in the future. Because his parents will always exist, he is an only child, and his parents will inevitably rely on him for their old age. They can't tolerate his parents, and there will be more conflicts in the future.
He decided to let the child take his family name once and for all. His parents have a clear conscience and will not deliberately alienate their children from them and prevent them from becoming grandparents. However, his in-laws will educate the children to be close to their grandparents, not their grandparents.
He knew that doing so would definitely cause displeasure among his in-laws, but he didn't want to see them make trouble so often. He wondered whether he had done the right thing and wished to receive some advice.
In the end, he wrote: Nan Nan's approach is indeed a bit extreme. I don't know if it can be done once and for all, but it will definitely make the in-laws very angry. However, it is really wrong for the in-laws to always ostracize his parents, implying that they are not popular.
Nowadays, more and more families are only children, and the children have to provide for their parents. Both parents are the elders of the children, so there is no need to deliberately distinguish clearly. If Nan Nan's in-laws can be more tolerant and let their grandson get close to their grandparents, it will be a good thing for them and their grandson. After all, isn't it good to have two more people who love their grandson and help their son?