Regarding love, the philosopher Russell once said this:
Love flourishes only when it is free.This quote tells usLove should be a natural emotion of love, and only by not restraining love and leaving a space for love to develop, can the love relationship develop healthily. The ideal love should be the mutual understanding and communication of two hearts, it should be without any conditions, a pair of men and women are willing to selflessly pay for each other and accompany each other only because they love each other.
But in real life, this kind of completely idealized love does not seem to exist, and love will be more or less mixed with some practical considerations, after all, no one can live in an ideal state.
In the face of ordinary and trivial life, most people will give up their pursuit of ideal love and choose a more peaceful and comfortable lifestyle, but there are some people with paranoid painting dreams, but they will yearn for ideal love while pursuing art.
In Maugham's "The Moon and Sixpence", the hero Strickland is a talented painter, although he is temporarily willing to live an ordinary life, engage in decent work in the secular sense, have a beautiful and pragmatic wife, and lovely children, but all this does not satisfy Strickland.
Until one morning, Strickland's artistic dream suddenly awakened, and he gave up his current job, his happy family, and even his decent life, and went to a different place alone to pursue his painting ideals.
It was only at this time that Strickland understood that the love he longed for was not love in the secular sense, but the kind of simple love without any conditions and requirements.
When pursuing love, people usually fall into a choice, they will judge whether the other person is suitable for them and whether they have the potential to become their lover according to their own needs and the conditions of the other party.
In a love relationship, this way of thinking that subconsciously cares about the external conditions of the other party and will judge the lover with the external conditions is a pragmatic choice in love.
Strickland once lived in a secular love relationship, he had a stable life, a decent job, a beautiful wife, this marital state, is also a realistic choice for Strickland, he has the envy of others, but he has given up his beautiful ideals of painting.
The process of pursuing love is actually a process of choosing the lifestyle you want.
Generally speaking, when looking for a love partner, we usually have requirements, which are not only from the emotional needs of the heart, but also from the consideration of the external conditions of the love partner.
One of the most direct examples is that when going on a blind date, people will use very realistic conditions to judge and find a love partner, and they will list the realistic conditions one by one, without paying attention to their inner feelings.
In married life, Strickland's wife also has requirements for him, and his wife hopes that Strickland can work hard, give up unrealistic artistic dreams, have worldly success, and be the envy of others.
Strickland tried to accept all this, but in the end he could not suppress his pursuit of artistic dreams, and what he longed for was a simple and unrestrained love.
When a person is in the process of pursuing ideals, he is usually positive and happy, even if the process of pursuing ideals will make him depressed, but his heart is happy.
The life of pursuing dreams is a comfortable way of life, when a person is pursuing his dreams, he will have an expectation and expectation, that is, his lover, can understand himself, and accompany him without complaints.
Strickland's wife naturally couldn't understand him, she had a need for Strickland, and at first, Strickland tried to accept his wife's arrangement, but he couldn't adapt and couldn't forget his painting ideals.
In the end, he chose to run away from his family, and finally met his ideal lover on the island of Tahiti, a simple girl who was untouched by the world, and she had no requirements for Strickland, which is exactly the love the painter wanted.
In The Moon and Sixpence, Strickland is an artist who focuses on painting, and he has a different view of love, the love he wants, the kind of love that is innocent and devoid of any demands, and he is not adapted to the love that the world yearns for.
It is precisely because of the painter's idealization of art and love that he finally escaped from the trivial life of his family and pursued the art he longed for and the love he longed for.
Love as pure as moonlight is the companion of the soul, and it is the best that feels that the other party's present is the best, and there is no demand for the other party, and it forms the most beautiful love.
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