One night in late autumn four years ago, I had nothing to do after dinner, and I opened my phone to swipe through the circle of friends. Suddenly, I saw a small ** from my neighbor Wang Peifa, with a sentence: May my dear mother go all the way!
At that time, I was taken aback, clicked on the small **, and saw a small wooden square table burning with white candles, a bowl of small rice with a dog beating stick (after someone passed away in my hometown, an offering placed in front of the offering table, made of flour, about 15 cm long, meaning that the deceased used to beat the dog on the Huangquan Road), an orange coffin, placed behind the offering table.
I was still thinking at the time, how can I post on Moments when my mother died? Isn't this disrespectful to the elderly?
The deceased's name is Zhang Xiangqin, she is my second sister-in-law's best friend, and their maiden family is from a village; It is more than a mile away from the county seat, and it is a village on the edge of the city. Our village is more than 40 kilometers away from the county seat, bordering neighboring counties, and is a mountainous area, and the economic conditions are relatively backward.
After the second sister-in-law married the second brother, she couldn't go to Beijing with the second brother who stayed in the team for a while, so she worked and farmed in the village, and later introduced her best friend Zhang Xiangqin to my neighbor Wang Erxing.
Half a year after Zhang Xiangqin got married, she regretted it, mainly because it was too far away from her mother's home, there was no car at that time, so she could only ride a bicycle to and fro, and there were 20 kilometers of mountain roads, the road was far away, it was inconvenient to come and go, and it was really difficult to go back to her parents' house once. For this reason, she went to her second sister-in-law's house to cry many times.
In the 70s of the last century, there were basically no wealthy families in the mountain villages, except for a few families whose male owners worked outside the home to support their families.
At that time, rural people generally did not pay much attention to hygiene, and farm tools, firewood and grass were placed all over the house and courtyard, and it would be nice to have a table of eight immortals in anyone's house.
Zhang Xiangqin is a person who likes to be clean and cleans up all day long, but her husband Wang Erxing is a particularly lazy person, not only does not help clean up, but also thinks Zhang Xiangqin is poor and exquisite, and the two of them are a lot angry about it.
In the second year after Zhang Xiangqin's marriage, she gave birth to a daughter, Wang Erxing had patriarchal thoughts, and she was often impatient, and when she returned home from work, she didn't help Zhang Xiangqin with any work, just sat on the bench and smoked and drank water.
Sometimes, Zhang Xiangqin is so busy that she can't pull her hand, and when her daughter is crying, Wang never hugs and coaxes her daughter. Once, Zhang Xiangqin saw that the child was crying a lot, so she said, "Didn't you listen to the child crying?" I'm cooking, you go and hug her first, don't let her cry like this, okay? ”
Wang Erxing said: "I know why she is crying? I've been working all day this day, I'm tired, this girl knows how to cry, I'm annoyed! ”
Zhang Xiangqin said angrily: "What's wrong with the girl? The girl is also the flesh and blood of the two of us, you look down on your daughter so much, when you are old in the future, will you have the face to let your daughter honor you? ”
Wang Erxing was angry on the spot, and said angrily to Zhang Xiangqin: "Tell the about it, see if I don't hit you in the mouth." ”
Saying that, he stretched out his hand to hit, and Zhang Xiangqin hugged her daughter and cried.
Once, when Wang Erxing returned home from work, he was hungry and thirsty, and saw Zhang Xiangqin sitting in front of the stove to light the fire, chewing something in his mouth.
Seeing this, Wang Erxing thought that his wife was stealing food, so he picked up the wooden stick in front of the stove and hit Zhang Xiangqin's shoulder without asking, and said while beating: "Lao Tzu is so tired of beating blanks, you haven't cooked well, and you are still stealing to eat, I asked you to eat behind my back." ”
Zhang Xiangqin was startled by this sudden blow, and the bench on which she was sitting fell down, and Zhang Xiangqin sat on the ground in front of the stove and cried, "Why am I stealing to eat?" I gave you a cucumber to mix, and put the rest in your mouth, is this also called stealing? ”
So saying, she sat down in front of the stove and began to cry sadly. Wang Erxing may also be hungry, so he took a small bench next to Zhang Xiangqin and sat next to Zhang Xiangqin to light the fire, and when he saw that Zhang Xiangqin's crying voice was quiet, he beat his wife with a stick on the buttocks, and beat it for a while, and said while beating: "When you stop crying, I won't fight." ”
When the neighbor heard this, he hurried over to persuade him.
Wang Erxing also said: I have been working for half a day, and she can't cook well after home, and she eats secretly while I'm not at home, and doesn't beat her for a long time.
If the two of them have a good time, one of them must be able to bear the bend. In the past, in poor mountain villages, it was common for two families to quarrel and fight. Especially in Layue, the courtyard of the house has to be cleaned in front of the door, and tofu, steamed bean dregs cakes, steamed steamed buns, boiled meat, and croquettes have to be made. Be prepared for more cooked food. These things are easy to eat and hard to dry. The work of the pot and the soil mainly depends on the women. Among them, cooking meat is time-consuming and labor-intensive.
Cooking meat is a tiring job, and you generally have to use three pots, one pot to cook meat, one pot to cook bones, and the other pot to fry the meat and color. In the cold winter, they all have to work in the yard, and they are generally not busy for a day.
That day, Zhang Xiangqin cooked meat for a day, tired back and legs hurt, it was dark, she came to the house to rest for a while, and then clean up the pots and pots in the yard. Wang Erxing hugged a few pieces of his own clothes and asked his wife to hurry up and wash them, there was no washing machine at that time, so he had to rub back and forth by hand, or knock with a mallet, unlike now when you just put clothes in the washing machine.
Zhang Xiangqin said: I'm too tired today, and now it's dark again, I'll wash it tomorrow. ”
Wang Erxing said: "No, you must wash me tonight!" ”
Zhang Xiangqin said: "I'm so tired today, my back hurts so badly, it's hard to stand up, and it's not bad for this night." ”
When it came to this, it was said that Wang Erxing should give in, but he seemed to have taken gunpowder, so he didn't let go, and said: "If you don't wash me tonight, you won't be allowed to sleep." ”
Seeing this, Zhang Xiangqin also got angry and said, "I won't fight with you, I'll go to sleep." ”
When Wang Erxing heard this, he was furious, and slapped Zhang Xiangqin in the face, Zhang Xiangjie was blinded by this sudden slap, and before he could react, he slapped the other side hard.
Seeing this, Zhang Xiangqin quickly covered her face and ran to the courtyard, Wang Erxing chased it out again, Zhang Xiangqin picked up a stick next to her and prepared to fight back, Wang Erxing immediately ran quickly to the root of the south wall, picked up a shovel, the two confronted each other in the courtyard, and the neighbor Aunt Zhang came in time and stood between the two, and the two did not fight together.
I can't talk about things like this, and everyone sees the grievances suffered by Parsley, but after all, it is someone's housework, and if it gets noisy, everyone will go over to persuade it.
A person's life is like walking on a mountain road, there are ups and downs, but Zhang Xiangqin's life path has too many ups and downs. But she still gritted her teeth and persevered, and finally raised a pair of children**.
Later, her daughter married away from home and came back to visit her during the New Year's holidays.
Son Wang Pei is different, he inherited his father's temper, due to poor academic performance, he dropped out of school early, hung himself in society, and did not look for a serious job at the age of ten **, he ate and drank outside all day long, and cheated outside to eat when he had no money.
Before the Spring Festival, it can be said that the account is kicked through the threshold, this family is three hundred or four hundred, and that one is five hundred and six hundred, so worried that Zhang Xiangqin's tea and rice are not fragrant, and there is no way at all. Wang Erxing just nodded to the person who asked for the account and said all the good things.
The poverty of the family, the arrogance of the husband, and the son's lack of business made Zhang Xiangqin decline before she was old. She was only in her fifties, and she had a wrinkled face and gray hair. Once, my wife and I drove an electric tricycle to pick beans in a cornfield, and when we reached the edge of the field, we heard someone crying in front of us.
We stopped the car and looked for it, only to see Zhang Xiangqin sitting on the wet land, crying into a tearful person, his wife stepped forward and persuaded again and again, Zhang Xiangqin stopped crying and said, "Why do you say my life is so bitter?" The husband is a two-pole man, and he either scolds or beats at every turn. I don't go out to earn money, and I don't even have enough normal expenses for a year by planting this little land.
My son is not angry, he doesn't listen to anyone, when do you think I'll be a head! I regret that I shouldn't have listened to your second sister-in-law's words and ran from the county town to this remote and poor ravine to suffer this sin. Look at who in our village looks like my family? Let's get some money together and buy an electric three-wheeler, he just won't let me, or let me push this broken unicycle, my legs have always hurt in the past two years, and I gritted my teeth so hard.
I think she is not only crying for her husband not to buy electricity, but also crying about the hardships of her life, right?
Her death was indeed sudden, it is said that a few days ago she always said that her stomach hurt, and she went to the health center to get some painkillers, and then the pain was so bad that she told her daughter that she said seven, and her daughter took her to the county hospital to check, saying that the area of myocardial infarction was too large, and there was no need for **.
In this life, who is not trying their best to live? However, there is a good saying: the hemp rope is broken in detail. Zhang Xiangqin's life, sad and helpless, sometimes, death is also a relief, the candle in front of her spirit is still swaying in the cold wind, like her lonely and wandering life.
May there be no pain in heaven, and may the departed rest in peace!