My poor uncle, who died on December 28, in a nursing home, had his hands tied to the sides of the bed.
Tomorrow is my uncle's death day, and I want to write an article in his memory.
My uncle's life was very hard, my grandmother was blind before she conceived him, and after my mother married my father at the age of eighteen, my uncle became my mother's child, and my mother had to hold him every night.
At that time, it was very poor, my father was married at the age of sixteen, my mother was two years older than him, and when the winter came, there was no one to work in the family, and my grandfather would take the whole family south to beg. They will not return until the following spring, when the brigades are ready to work.
My uncle made a living by begging.
My mother told me that there was a heavy snowfall that year, and my grandfather led the whole family to beg, and in the winter, when he came home barefoot, both legs were frozen, and people did not have any basic knowledge of life at that time, so my mother boiled water for him and let him soak in warm water.
Later, his leg was burned, because there was not enough money to go **, his grandfather died in his forties, he became an orphan without parents, and his uncle was sad, but also lucky, because he had a sister-in-law who treated him as his own daughter.
My uncle grew up with my mother, who had several children, the youngest of whom was me.
His uncle was two years older than the eldest and had several brothers with him since he was a child, and everyone regarded him as a brother. From the time I was sensible, I had already understood that my uncle lived with us, and that he did not have his own place to live.
He was not tall, but he was very good at work, and he was also very kind, and he had a good reputation in the village.
For as long as I can remember, my uncle's stomach was not very good, he couldn't eat, and he couldn't catch a cold, so his body was very weak, and his family was poor, so he never married a wife.
At that time, the family conditions were not good, there was no way to find a daughter-in-law, the five brothers in the family, the eldest one got married, the fifth made a girlfriend, and married out early, after the separation, looking at the uncle alone, a lonely person, the fifth family was arranged together.
Three years passed, due to various factors, my uncle left the family again, and as time went by, our life got better and better, and several of my brothers and I got married, and everyone had their own home, leaving my uncle alone.
After this incident, the mother felt that the uncle was old and the children might not be able to take care of the children, so she planned to adopt a daughter, in the mother's words, "If you have a child, you will use the child." ”
Then, through a friend's introduction, my uncle adopted a daughter, and I worked in Shanghai in 98, when mobile phones were not yet developed, so I didn't go home often.
Once, when I came back to do business, my mother was holding a daughter who was only a few months old in her arms, and I asked her whose it was, and she replied "mine", and I laughed, and then said to her: "If you have another baby, you can go to **TV to watch TV." ”
The one I admire the most in my life is my mother, who can still raise her children in her seventies. It was not easy for my mother to take her younger sister, and the youngest of the seven siblings was already four years old at the time.
Every day, my mother would hide, with milk in one hand, a kettle in the other, and her sister in the other, to an abandoned wooden house by the river, and only to return home in the middle of the night.
The days when they took care of their sister were the happiest for them, the seven of them grew up together, and their father worked day and night to support a family of seven, but he never received his father's love.
Now my parents don't have to worry about their livelihood anymore, my uncle earns milk powder, and my parents have to take care of it.
My sister often naughtily called her father's name, and my father would pull a long tail note and say happily: "Alas! Look at how good our little girl really is. ”
Your father has been an impatient in his life, and if you had called him by his name when we were young, he would have killed you a long time ago.
At that time, my uncle planted seven acres of land alone, and when the farm was slack, he went to the kiln to move bricks.
There are many brick factories near our house, and my uncle rides a dilapidated bicycle, walking around the street, carrying bricks, he is not tall, and the car is also high, he can carry four bricks at a time, and it weighs more than ten kilograms, and it is very difficult to lift it, but my uncle is doing it every day.
My uncle is a miser, he doesn't pull out a dime, he doesn't even give up a dime, and even his own clothes are not wanted by his younger brother.
My uncle was very good to my sister, who had lived well, fed well, and dressed well since she was a child. Her brother and sister adored her.
When she was 12 years old, her sister lived with her uncle, and then her biological mother came to her and asked her to reunite with her biological mother, she was the third sister, she and the second sister were abandoned, and the mother finally had two older brothers.
Her father was a truck driver, her mother made breakfast, and when she was in junior high school, her mother's breakfast shop was next door to her mother, and her mother asked her to come back, but she had ulterior motives to get her sister to work for her.
My sister got up early every day to help me make steamed buns, and my classes were always sleepy-eyed, but I didn't get into my school, so I dropped out.
Her two uncles were farmers, one raised chickens and the other grew watermelons, so her sister worked as a coolie and bought either chicken or chicken for her uncle.
The uncle was old and there was no one to accompany him to lay bricks, so he picked up garbage while farming.
The sister's marriage was arranged by her mother, the son served in the army, the sister was six years old, and the two were distant relatives.
Since my sister got married, she has rarely contacted our family, and has not had any contact with me for several years, and my uncle left a small building of 120 square meters to her in order to take care of my uncle.
Her sister has been healthy since she was a child, but since she married me, she has developed a very serious heart condition that can only be done with a heart transplant.
Since she was pregnant, she has always carried an oxygen tank, and like her mother, she is also a patriarchal person, so she has always tried hard to have a son, but the second child was riddled with death and had to be killed.
In 2022, after the rice harvest was completed and planted in the field, my uncle continued to pick up garbage, he was injured in the process of picking up garbage, and he was unable to move, and his sister was in a bad condition at that time, and he wanted to go back to Beijing for treatment, so he took him to a nursing home.
She hadn't been in touch with me in years, so I didn't know much about her situation.
The Chinese New Year is coming soon, and my factory is also going to rest, so I called my second brother and asked him to find a time to visit him. The second brother asked him to wait for the New Year, in that case, he would go back together.
I asked him to go again before the Spring Festival, lest he feel that his nephews and nieces did not come, and he would definitely have an opinion on him, so I called the fourth brother, who had just returned home from Shanghai, and he agreed.
So, we agreed to meet the next day, but since my child was going away today, I asked him to give us a ride.
We weren't late at the time, and although the sanatorium was only a dozen kilometers away from our home, it was in a remote area after all, so it took us a long time to explain to the staff, and the staff sent us to his ward.
It was a cold day, but the door of the room was open, and there was a person lying there on a small bed facing the door, and I wondered why my uncle, who had never slept before, hadn't gotten up at ten o'clock.
* shouted, "Hey, someone's coming for you." ”
I walked to the bedside and found that my uncle's eyes were closed, and he couldn't scream no matter how much he screamed.
Brother, come and see, the uncle didn't blink his eyes, it's a little strange. ”
The younger brother approached him and whispered something, but the uncle opened his mouth and said only one word: "thirsty". I saw that my uncle's lips were very dry, so I hurriedly went to fetch water to feed him.
* Seeing someone coming, I hurriedly filled him with a bowl of egg drop soup, and while feeding him, I said how good he was, and I said that he had done something wrong and asked him to go to the hospital.
The nurse comforted: "It's okay, it's just that I recently got pneumonia, and I ate well last night, and I also beat her daughter**, and her daughter said that she will go home today." ”
He's fine, it's okay, he's just angry with you, he's been here for so long, and you don't even come to see him. ”
I started stuffing egg custard into my uncle's mouth, and my uncle didn't drink a sip because his breath was very weak, and I found it very cold in the house, and I looked up and found that the heating was still off, and the coldest month in Anhui was December 28th, but they wouldn't put the heating at home.
The younger brother hurriedly called his sister over, his sister is his guardian in the end, and he can't force anything, his sister took a ** and said that she had gone back, and she would talk about it when she went back.
My sister went to Beijing for treatment, but returned without contact.
* In the phone, he said: "Don't trust them, your dad is very good, he just doesn't talk to them because he is angry." ”
Whether he's crazy or not, it's not for you to decide, we've grown up together, wouldn't he be happy if he was okay and someone came to visit him? Why didn't he talk to us? "* Silenced.
The younger brother said to his sister: "We can't wait for you, my uncle is going to the hospital quickly, and my sister is whimpering over there, it seems that we are torturing her and making her spend more money, she has to wait for her to come home, and then give her the car herself." ”
We couldn't pay attention to her, so we quickly called 120, and after thirty minutes, 120 arrived, and the younger brother put his uncle in the ambulance, and when he opened the sheets, he saw that his uncle's hands were tied on both sides of the bed.
I angrily asked, "Why are you kidnapping my uncle?" The nurse said she was worried that he would run away in the middle of the night, so she just kept him on a leash.
My uncle already has a mild cerebral infarction, can he still run? Besides, he was so tormented by the new crown that he didn't even have the ability to escape. It's a joke.
We didn't care about it, the younger brother carried the uncle upstairs, and the younger brother suddenly howled and cried: "Uncle is almost skinny." ”
On the way to the hospital, the eldest brother called his brother who was far away and told them to hurry home.
After arriving, my uncle was taken directly to the intensive care unit, and my uncle left that night. In fact, we don't blame my sister, because my sister's body is already very poor, and she is only 25 years old this year, which is already very difficult.
My sister said that in order to take care of her uncle, she also secretly ** silver.
Uncle died, it became a pain for our whole life, and my uncle's ** is still preserved, but I can't take it apart, because I know that my sister is also very sad in her heart, and always says that she lost her father, and she is alone. Although she is a righteous daughter, her uncle is doing his best for her.
There is a kind of regret in the world, called "I want to be quiet, but the wind blows, and my son wants to grow up, but he can't wait".
Elderly apartments are a way to provide for the elderly in the future, especially for people in the 70s, who may have to live here for the rest of their lives.
In fact, when we sent them to the nursing home, they had already given up on them, no matter how high their standard of living was, but no one wanted to stay here, they were forced to helpless, even if the environment here was very good, but they still couldn't step through this level in their hearts, the pain of being abandoned by their loved ones, only they could understand.
He dedicates everything he has to this son, when he is old, but no one can be by his side, he will be disappointed, in fact, he lacks nothing, as long as he can see his son every day, he is very happy, I think, every father in this world, will have this feeling.
We have had a hard time since we were children, it was our parents who brought us up, and now we don't have to worry about food and clothing, please be kind to your elders, always have more ways, don't let our parents be homeless!
In fact, the ** and the doctors in the hospital are like this, they have seen too many patients, they have lost interest in the patients, they are just there to treat the patients, not the patients. But family love is different, it is a subtle, long-term, warm, and the only thing that can make the elderly feel a sense of belonging.
No matter how difficult it is, I have to advise you, if you have a full meal, don't let them live in a nursing home.
Here, I wish every parent in the world good health! When you get old, you can live a good life! At the end of the day, everyone will have a happy ending!
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