My mother-in-law is 82 years old, she has three sons, and my husband is the third and is 51 years old this year. The other day, an accident turned our lives upside down. The mother-in-law accidentally slipped in the kitchen and injured the tail vertebrae, and the doctor said that it would take a long time, as little as about half a year. Faced with this sudden situation, the whole family felt extremely anxious.
Several sons and daughters-in-law in the family have their own jobs and are unable to take care of their mother-in-law during the day, which puts us in a difficult situation. My previous job had just ended, and I had yet to find a new job, which was a turning point in my career. While thinking about how to take proper care of my mother-in-law, my husband made a surprising suggestion: let me stay and take care of my mother-in-law during this time.
I didn't resent the proposal, but I felt it was my responsibility. My mother-in-law has always been very nice to me, and now she needs help and I can't stay out of it. However, taking care of my mother-in-law required more than just a sense of responsibility, it also required sacrificing my own professional development. I was conflicted because although I wanted to take care of my mother-in-law, my life could not be stagnant.
At this time, my two sons and daughters-in-law began to take turns to persuade me. They said they had planned to let their three sons each contribute 1,500 yuan to hire a nanny to take care of their mother-in-law.
However, it is better to hire a nanny to take care of you than to do your own family. Since I am idle at home now, this money is earned by others, and it is better to earn it by my own people, so that our family can not only save 1,500 yuan, but also earn 3,000 yuan.
Hearing them say that, I couldn't tell the awkwardness in my heart.
I have my own livelihood to consider, but my mother-in-law needs to be taken care of, and it is also my responsibility and obligation, and the two cannot be confused.
After some consideration, I finally rejected their offer. I know they're there for the sake of comprehensiveness, but I also have my thoughts. It is my responsibility to take care of my mother-in-law, but I can't accept taking money from my family to take care of my mother-in-law.
As a result, my husband and I had a disagreement on this issue. He understands my concerns, but he cares more about my mother-in-law's body and mood. We are caught in a tug-of-war of ideas at home.
In this process, I saw everyone's mood and understood my husband's difficulties. We both think about our families, but our ideas are in conflict with each other.
In this predicament, I decided to put aside my work for a while and focus on taking care of my mother-in-law, and at the same time, I was also looking for a nanny, taking care of my mother-in-law with the nanny, and when I found a job, I would completely leave it to the nanny.
At the same time, I also started to look for more flexible work, so that I could come and take care of my mother-in-law after work, and I could feel more comfortable having my own people come and visit me during the day.
Taking care of my mother-in-law has become a part of my daily life. In the process, I realized the warmth of family and the importance of responsibility.
Although it takes a long time for my mother-in-law's **, with the dedicated care of our sons and daughters-in-law, we will definitely be able to ** as soon as possible**. I think it won't be long before I can find a job that balances family and work.
Life is back on track, and the unity of the family is strengthened by our joint efforts. This experience made me deeply realize that the family is a close-knit whole, and each member's contribution is for the betterment of the whole.