The quality of an intimate relationship is directly related to a person's growth and well-being. A good intimate relationship depends on management, but "management" requires methods, and many couples and couples just don't understand the methods, so that sweetness turns into resentment.
This book is aimed at couples and couples in intimate relationships, using positive psychology methods to help them create happy and sweet intimate relationships. The perspective of this book is unique, in order to keep the love account continuously full, the author starts from two major directions: the throttling of love and the open source of love. The throttling of love introduces those minefields and pitfalls in intimate relationships, and ways to avoid them, including nonviolent communication, respect for differences, and the five-step approach to problem solving. The open source of love introduces a variety of positive psychology methods, including developing the habit of praise and appreciation, intimate interaction, strengths exploration, sharing beauty, respecting and supporting each other's goals and dreams, etc.
The author of this book, Wu Jikang, is the former deputy head of the Positive Education Research Center of the School of Social Sciences of Tsinghua University, a certified positive psychology instructor of the School of Social Sciences of Tsinghua University, a national psychological counselor, a marriage and family counselor, and a senior family education instructor. In the 8 years of working in the Positive Psychology Research Center of Tsinghua University of Social Sciences, he has been engaged in the popularization and promotion of positive psychology, the research and development and training of practical application. Now focusing on the field of marriage and family, focusing on the consultation and training of intimate relationship and marriage management, parent-child parenting and family education, self-growth and happiness improvement.
The most tormenting thing in a relationship is not conflict, but boredom: understanding differences and avoiding the "thunder" and "pitfalls" in relationships. Be active in communication, with love and understanding, and solve problems. Don't communicate negatively, talk about things on a case-by-case basis, understand feelings and needs, ask rather than demand, listen actively, and finally learn the magic weapon of win-win communication.
Moving from "me" to "us" is a practice: how to create a happy growth from "me" to "us" as a deep connection. There are four ways to start. 1. Start with interests, goals, and dreams to create a sense of shared meaning; 2. Find out what is suitable for you among the four types of love in the new era; 3. Cultivate common interests, have fun, and talk about it enough; Fourth, like good friends, cultivate common interests and hobbies.
As the times change, so will love and marriage. Love and marriage in the new era present us with new challenges, requiring both parties not to ignore the creation of happiness and the need for growth. Whether it's having fun together, cultivating common interests, or respecting, supporting, and participating in each other's goals and dreams, it will bring two people a stronger and deeper connection, as well as a shared sense of meaning and happiness.
This book is suitable for every couple and couple who are looking for high-quality intimacy, and I hope that everyone can maintain their original intention and even have a deeper understanding of love after reading it.
Finally, I hope everyone can have a happy marriage and a happy family. 2024 Book of Answers