Girl, tonight is Chinese New Year's Eve, you and your son-in-law go to the hotel for one night, and come back again on the first day of the new year.
After posting the Spring Festival in the Chinese New Year's Eve, the eldest sister's family was kicked out of the house by her mother-in-law. The mother-in-law believes that the married daughter is already a member of someone else's family, and returning to her parents' house for the New Year may make her mother's family difficult, affect family harmony, and even destroy her family's financial fortune. This concept leads to the fact that every year when the eldest sister comes back, she will be kicked out by her mother-in-law, which makes her feel aggrieved.
The eldest sister has been married to the south for many years and can go home once a year, but every time she encounters unhappiness because of her mother-in-law's concept. Even when I witnessed this scene last year and saw my eldest sister shed tears, I felt very uncomfortable in my heart. She stresses that this is her home, but is always forced to leave during the Chinese New Year.
The eldest sister is a mother of two children, and she has little time to go home except for the New Year. Although she says that she is angry every year, she will overcome difficulties in order to be able to return home. Yesterday, she sent my mother-in-law a specialty from the south and transferred 5,000 yuan to ask me to buy New Year's goods for my in-laws. She told me she wasn't going to come back this year.
I asked, "Sister, don't you have time to come back this year?" She replied: "Brother and sister, it is okay to have you and your eldest nephew accompany his grandparents this year, and my married daughter will not be good for you to go home." Still, the eldest sister will come back every year as long as she can come back. She emphasized her family situation, her children's studies, and the fact that she only has a few days off during the Chinese New Year.
My eldest sister once told me that when she first returned to her mother's house, she was not allowed to eat her mother's Chinese New Year's Eve dinner even after spending the night in the car. The mother-in-law insisted that the married daughter could not eat the Chinese New Year's Eve dinner of the maiden family, which made the eldest sister feel heavy. The mother-in-law even insisted that the eldest sister stay in a hotel on Chinese New Year's Eve and the first day of the new year on the grounds of "poor mother's family". Although the eldest sister said that she did not want to come back, she still went home many times for a few days of reunion.
Yesterday, the eldest sister sent a special product and 5,000 yuan, and she said, "I won't be back this year." I decided to go to my in-laws' house and bring the souvenirs that my eldest sister bought for them and 5,000 yuan. The mother-in-law was not interested in the special products, and said, "But in the future, we don't need these useless things." I insisted, "My sister gave us a copy and left these for you." Subsequently, I stuffed 5,000 yuan to my mother-in-law.
I sat on my mother-in-law's clay kang, eating the melon seeds she served, and suddenly asked about my eldest sister not coming back this year. The mother-in-law ostensibly insisted that her daughter was married and someone else's family and should not come back for the New Year. However, when I mentioned that my eldest sister was willing to spend the New Year at home, a hint of loss flashed across her face.
I asked, "I haven't seen you for a year, don't you want my sister?" The mother-in-law replied: "No, it's convenient now, and you can talk at any time if you want to see each other." I proposed that my eldest sister should spend the New Year at home, and my mother-in-law insisted that this was a rule left by my ancestors. I questioned the truth of this statement, quoting ***: "Speak with facts." ”
I said, "I promised my sister that I would let her spend the New Year at home this year." The mother-in-law asked rhetorically, "You don't care about this?" I responded, "I don't care, I'm happy to come every day." The mother-in-law finally agreed, saying, "You have the final say in this family in the future."
This conversation made me realize that sometimes you need to break the mold and not reject change because of the old ways. I promised that my eldest sister would no longer be kicked out of the house this year, and she could spend the New Year at home. The mother-in-law also said that she would hand over power to us young people, emphasizing that as long as the sisters are harmonious, she will be satisfied.
The times are constantly advancing, and so should the concepts. This year, the eldest sister no longer needs to stay in a hotel when she comes back. What do you think about the married daughter returning to her parents' house for the New Year? Do you believe the idea of a "poor woman" in this concept?
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