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The divorce rate in China is getting higher and higher year by year, and everyone's marital status does not seem to be very good. Several of my friends are also divorced and still very young. Marriage is a major event in life, and divorce is harmful to both families. There are too many cases of divorce among young people now, so let me analyze the reasons.
Many people don't get married because of love. Sometimes, it may be because you want to make do with your life, or the elders in the family urge you to get married, or when you reach the age of marriage, you can find a random person to get married, and some may be because you take a fancy to the other party's material conditions. In these cases, two people do not love each other much, and the two people may not be very suitable, but if they get married in a hurry, the final result is often divorce.
In fact, the probability of the previous generation getting married is greater. Many people get married after being introduced by a matchmaker. But why isn't the divorce rate so high? There are two reasons for this. One is that the personality of the previous generation is generally tolerant, everyone is making do with life, and forbearance is a lifetime. The second reason is that many people can't bear to let their children grow up with regrets for the sake of their children.
Young people have a higher pursuit of self-worth and are unwilling to grieve themselves. In marriages that are not suitable for them, young people often end up choosing divorce. Because life is in the world, if you want to live an unhappy life for a lifetime, it is better to have a short pain. In fact, this is also a manifestation of people's ideological progress.
Many young people, when they talk about friends, feel that the other party is the right person, and they can't wait to marry each other right away. They feel that as long as they love each other, they can be happy for a lifetime. In fact, marriage can be an upgrade of love, but it can't just be an upgrade of love.
Marriage requires both people to work hard and have enough determination to go together for a lifetime. This determination often takes time to prove.
There are a lot of problems that two people face when they get married, and in these problems, the shortcomings of both parties may be exposed. But some shortcomings are unacceptable, or the two people have not run in well. When you are in love, these problems can still be run in and can be solved by each other; After getting married, these problems are magnified and gradually wear out the patience of the two people. In the end, when both parties do not have the energy to solve it, it will lead to divorce.
In fact, people can be selfish, but they can't "have both". Marriage should be mutually beneficial, with two people supporting each other. But many people have this kind of thinking, they want the other party to be able to support themselves financially and comfort them mentally, but they also want to pay nothing. People are mutual, and only by giving to each other can two people go further and further.
In fact, you can do it in some small things, such as: when your other half comes home tired from overtime, rub his (her) shoulders and beat his (her), and share a little of his (her) chores for him (her). Instead, you were resting, you lay at home for a day, and when your other half came home from overtime, you called someone to serve you.
The above is the reason why the divorce rate of young people I analyzed is so high. Actually, I think divorce is a choice, not something unsightly. The two of them can't get by, and they choose to divorce, which is to stop the loss in time. But I think that in marriage, two people still have to fully communicate, face the problems in the marriage together, and actively find ways to solve them.