Many people are reluctant to admit the fact of breaking up after a breakup, and according to my observation, many people are not intellectually unacceptable, but that they have not changed their habits, and that their habits have led to your disapproval of reality and your illusions.
Although I am trying to make excuses for you with these words, I still hope that you will accept the fact of the breakup, otherwise your disapproval will make you fall again and again, and you have to accept it if you don't accept it. So passive acceptance and active acceptance, I still hope that you will take the initiative to accept.
You have to understand a truth, that is, there is no one in this world who is inseparable from the other, this world is like this, many people always slowly forget each other after breaking up, each living their own life, forgetting each other.
I'm not saying that the world is cold, I'm just talking about objective facts, so if you feel that you can't let go of each other at the moment and have to cling to the relationship, then it can only be said that you don't recognize the objective facts.
After a breakup, you are very anxious to prove that the other person still loves you, and then you may keep asking the other person what they mean.
At this time, you reflect on a question, is it important that the other party loves you at this time?
Some people will say, "It's very important, if he still loves me, then I'm determined to get it back; If you don't love me, I don't have to work so hard.
The problem here is this, if he loves you and you have to redeem it, if he doesn't love you and you don't redeem it, then if you think about how you fell in love with the other person in the first place, you must have gone from disliking to liking the process, so do you think this idea is valid?
The other person breaks up with you, at least it means that the love between you is not enough to keep you talking. If the other party tells you that you don't know whether you love you or not, don't you know if you want to redeem it?
Or if the other party tells you that he doesn't love you anymore, can you really let go of it immediately? I don't think you're deceiving yourself, and you can't let it go.
So, what you have to do is to recognize the current situation of the breakup after the breakup, and think about what to do next, which is the right direction. If you don't dwell on relationships, there are actually a lot of benefits.
One of the most obvious benefits is that you can recognize the status quo, you will not be very impatient to redeem it, and you will not do the wrong thing. You don't have to worry about the other person because they seem to have a new love, because you know that after the breakup, the other person is free. You also won't be pestering your ex for answers, because you know that the breakup has already been said on behalf of the other person.
Another advantage is that you can get along as friends, and if you hold on to your relationship, you won't be able to get along with your ex.
But if you recognize the status quo, at least you won't put pressure on your ex, and you can even chat easily and happily with each other, without talking about feelings, without pressure, and the other party will let down their guard against you.
Acknowledging the fact of the breakup, you have a lot of opportunities to communicate with each other, and then you have a lot of time to show yourself in the process of getting along, and you can also guide the other person to invest in you, which can accelerate your reunion to a certain extent.
Finally, to sum up, when the other party proposes to break up, you must recognize the fact of breaking up, and on the basis of this fact, do something that is beneficial to recovery, and your chances of recovery are greater.
In love