I used to think that if I gave in, I would be rewarded, and if I was sincere to my relatives, they would treat me the same. However, reality has dealt me a heavy blow and made me understand that sometimes giving does not necessarily lead to happiness, but rather pain.
My name is Lin Feng, and I was born in a large family with many relatives in the family. Since I was a child, I have been taught to respect the elderly, love the young, and be diligent and helpful. I have always followed this principle and tried my best to take care of every relative in my family. However, as time went on, I gradually realized that instead of earning me gratitude, I made them more greedy and vexatious.
The first type of relative: the insatiable relative.
My great uncle was an insatiable man. He always borrowed money from me for various reasons and never returned it. At first, I thought he was having a hard time, so I didn't hesitate to lend it to him. However, I later found out that he was not really borrowing money at all, but using me as an ATM. Every time he paid off a portion of his debt, he would come back to me to borrow more money. I once rejected him, but he kidnapped me morally on the grounds that I was his nephew. I was in a lot of pain, but I didn't know how to fix it.
The second type of relative: the relative who will take revenge.
My second aunt is a person who will take revenge. She once borrowed a large sum of money from us when my parents were in trouble. At that time, my parents did not hesitate to lend it to her, hoping to help her through the difficult time. However, she later forgot about this debt and even spoke ill of our family behind her back. When I mentioned the debt to her, she accused our family of being stingy and not being interesting enough. I was furious, but I couldn't change her mind.
The third type of relative: the relative who sows discord.
My third uncle is a man who likes to sow discord. He always spreads all kinds of rumors in the family, causing conflicts and misunderstandings between family members. Whenever there is a conflict in the family, he always stands aside to watch the excitement, and even adds fuel to the fire. I tried to persuade him, but he thought he was doing something good and helping people find problems. I felt helpless, but I couldn't get him to change.
The fourth type of relative: vexatious relative.
My little aunt is a vexatious person. She always bothered me with trivial things that bothered me. Whenever I was in trouble, not only did she not help me, but she would fall into the trap. I tried to communicate with her, but she thought I was blaming her. I was in a lot of pain, but I didn't know how to fix it.
After all these things, I finally understood why the more I give, the more painful it becomes. Because I have been providing for these four kinds of relatives, they have not only not appreciated me, but have made me feel more and more miserable. I decided that from now on, I would learn to say no and stop letting them take advantage of me. I will leave my giving to those who deserve it, rather than continue to provide for these enemies.
After this lesson, I also learned that giving is not necessarily rewarding, and sometimes giving will only make yourself more miserable. So, we need to learn to discern who is worth giving and who is just taking advantage of us. Only in this way can we avoid a situation where the more we give, the more painful it becomes. **10,000 Fans Incentive Plan