Financial expert Ye Tan:
Dink is a very difficult choice to make. It's easy when you're young, I don't want kids this year, I don't want kids next year, so naturally it's a dink.When you are 50 years old, you are old, and there are children below, but you are not young.
The body is not so good, once I have a headache and brain fever, the wind and grass, there is no one to help me. Then my career is not very successful, and I will regret it at such a time.
I knew that I still had one or two children. If you choose Dink, you either have strong psychological support and material ability. Otherwise, you will be overwhelmed by the pressure on all sides.
Ye Tan is a well-known financial commentator, financial writer, founder of Ye Tan Finance, and chief economist of Huaxin Co., Ltd. She used to be infinitely beautiful, active in major ** and TV stations, talking eloquently, talking loudly, and speaking amazingly.
She dares to write and speak, is very assertive, and very sharp. She has a net worth of more than 100 million, and she chose Dink not to have children, and now she is sick and only has a few cats to accompany her.
Born in Hangzhou in 1967, she graduated from Fudan University with a Ph.D. in History. After graduation, he had a stable job, and worked at Fudan University and the Shanghai Academy of Social Sciences. But she resigned in 2004 and became an independent financial commentator at the National Business Daily.
Ye Tan worked very hard, forgot to sleep and eat, did not sleep, did not eat or drink, and fought a piece of heaven in the financial and financial circles. People once questioned her non-professional background as a layman, and once questioned her logical thinking ability and IQ as a woman. Ye Tan didn't respond, and used her actions and abilities to write the answer.
She has a great track record and has won many awards. For example, the 2008 Young Leader of the Year by Southern People Weekly; "Southern People Weekly" 6th 2010 China Annual Charm 50 Media Thorough Charm; "New Weekly" 2016 know the molecule, etc. At the same time, she is the author of "The Big Break" and "China's Economy at a Crossroads? "China's Real Estate War", "What to Save China's Economy" and other financial books.
In 2012, with the rise of new **, she established a financial studio. In 2017, he founded Ye Tan Finance Company.
In 2019, Ye Tan was interviewed by Li Xiaomeng's "Hello Mother" program and talked about marriage. She said that when she was 35 years old, she couldn't stand her mother's urging to get married and got married. Her husband is in the United States, and the two are busy with their own careers, meeting several times a year for a week.
She said that the threshold for marriage dependence is different for everyone, and some people may need to be together for 12 hours a day, while others even need to be together for 24 hours. But she is really a very independent individual, and she finds people of the same frequency.
The couple was busy with work, and the choice of Dink was a joint decision.
She is now working hard to give her mother the best material conditions, and she can go to the best nursing home in the future.
Ye Tan believes that a life with full self-worth is the most important, and life does not necessarily have to have children. Her happiness and presence come from her work. She also told housewives who had children that since they chose to stay at home like hens, they should not envy the chic and beautiful peacock Kaiping.
But Ye Tan, now over 50 years old, is sick before he gets old, his career comes to an abrupt end, and his body is full of devastation.
At the beginning of July 2022, she was diagnosed with advanced lymphatic metastases and bone metastases of breast cancer, which were so severe that the bones were eroded into white flowers, and she was almost paraplegic.
On April 24, 2023, she made her first ** appearance and told everyone that she was sick and in ***. Later, there were treatments, interviews, travels, etc., to tell you some recent situations and some feelings.
After Ye Tan's illness, she reflected on whether she really did something wrong when she was young. She said that if she went back in time, if she was in good health, she might adopt a few children.
Ye Tan said that after her illness, she came into contact with a lot of aunts, including housekeeping aunts and aunts who treated patients together, and they all danced when they talked about their children.
An aunt who went to the doctor with her told her: "My son helped me register today, and my son said that he would help me treat me with all the money." "When they say this, the child becomes their greatest spiritual support.
Teacher Ye Tan said that she needed to seek other support, support in faith, to help her overcome the disaster.
Yes, after her illness, she went to Jiuhua Mountain twice. The money she earned in the first half of her life was not enough to rest, and she set up a charitable trust. In addition to the old mother when she was sick and difficult, only the cat children Blue Fat, Golden Fat, and Guaga accompanied her, infinitely desolate, and happy in suffering.
She now warns young people that not having children is not necessarily a bad thing, but most people find psychological comfort in being children.
So you must have strong enough psychological support and material ability.
Otherwise, you will be overwhelmed by the pressure on all sides.
Not getting married, she said, is not a big deal, but it is better to have children. Once you make the decision not to get married and not to have children. When you are weak, there is no spiritual support without the company of your loved ones.
Giving birth to children is a sacred duty given to women by God, and it is also the choice of each person, and it has nothing to do with right or wrong, and nothing else. However, it is true that as Mr. Ye Tan said, you should think carefully when you are young, and don't regret it when you are old.
Especially women, once they are over 50, it is too late to have children. And you don't want to test human nature, maybe your other half regrets it, and he can quickly withdraw into another marriage and have a child again. Such examples abound.
So, Dink or not ask young women to think twice.
1.To choose Dink, you must have sufficient material support, that is, money.
2.To choose Dink, you must have strong psychological support, and you must be prepared for the worst psychological expectations, such as illness, such as divorce, such as bankruptcy.
3.When choosing Dink, you must understand that there is no going back after the age of 50.
I hope that female friends can balance their careers and families, maintain balance, and stay healthy.