After Jiang Defu retired, An Jie accompanied Jiang Defu back to his hometown once.
When he returned to his hometown this time, An Jie unexpectedly saw the lonely Zhang Guilan with gray hair, ragged clothes and skinny standing in the wind.
It can be seen that Zhang Guilan is living very badly, in front of a pile of dilapidated brick houses, she looks very old at the same age as Jiang Defu, more like An Jie's elders, and her life is bleak in her later years.
It stands to reason that Jiang Changyi has already mixed well in the army, and he should take care of his wife somewhat, she shouldn't live so poorly.
This can only show that Jiang Changyi didn't take much care of Zhang Guilan.
In fact, it can also be seen from what Jiang Changyi did that Jiang Changyi is a particularly selfish and mercenary person, and his disrespect for Zhang Guilan has already been foreshadowed in the previous plot.
Jiang Changyi's ability to go to Songshan Island to recognize his "father" shows that for the sake of his own future, he can ignore the reputation of his mother and family.
After all, a father means Jiang Defu's betrayal of his original partner, the ingratitude of the developed generation, and the spurned Chen Shimei.
Jiang Changyi only has his own future in his heart, and he doesn't care about the impact on Jiang Defu and the harm he brings to his family.
For him, nothing is as important as his own future, he no longer wants to face the loess with his back to the sky, live that kind of life without a future, he wants to get ahead, he wants to change a better way of living.
His selfishness and desperate pursuit of the future made him hate his mother's **, if it wasn't for his mother's cheating, maybe his life would be a different scene.
It should be him who lives in the commander's compound, and he doesn't have to be pointed at, bullied, and abused because of his background, and he can't hold his head up all day long.
It can be said that Jiang Changyi's feelings for his mother are complicated. He didn't think about the loneliness, loneliness and hardship of his mother's life at home alone, and he didn't think about his mother's helplessness of staying alone in the empty room for a long night.
What he thought of was that his mother had buried the happy life and bright future he should have because of a momentary impulse.
This emotion dominated him, and after he climbed the high branches, he did not want to go home to face his mother, because when he saw his mother, it reminded him of his unbearable childhood, the serious consequences of his mother's failure to abide by women's morals, the month of unkindness he received on the island in order to make a good future, and the grievances and injuries he had suffered.
Jiang Changyi knows his life experience.
Later, his mother remarried, and he should have no sense of existence at home.
This is human nature, in the countryside, this kind of stepson has no place in the family, after all, he is not a member of this family.
For Jiang Changyi, that home is just a place for him to live in his childhood, a place where he was sheltered from the wind and rain in his childhood.
In that home, he was always an outsider. In the eyes of others, he is also an outsider.
Mother, stepfather and younger brother are the family.
This notion is deeply ingrained in the minds of the older generation.
That home, for Jiang Changyi, there is no warmth, let alone nostalgia, some are just memories that he doesn't want to remember, and the past that he doesn't want to mention.
A place that had brought him infinite scars, how could he be willing to go back and face it?
What's more, Jiang Changyi later got better and better in his career, and he was even more reluctant to return to the place that made him sad.
After Jiang Changyi and An Ran got together, An Ran's life philosophy and habits were similar to An Jie to a certain extent.
For a new-age woman who has received education and is financially independent, she must have a huge generation gap and estrangement with her mother-in-law who has lived in the countryside all her life.
Think about An Jie and Dehua, the two peers had a good time together at the beginning, which made Jiang Defu caught in a dilemma, it is conceivable that if Zhang Guilan lives between Jiang Changyi and An Ran, I don't know what kind of life will become.
This is not a question of who is right and who is wrong, but a question of the concept of life, many concepts are deep-rooted, no one can change whom, together will only be contradictory, life is a chicken feather.
Obviously, Jiang Changyi hopes that everyone is well.
Moreover, Zhang Guilan still has a husband and son at home, a reunited family, people who love her and people she cares about.
After all, it was also a place where she had lived all her life with feelings.
Let her follow Jiang Changyi, and when she gets older and starts living in a new environment, she will have a lot of discomfort, feel strange, and feel lonely.
Therefore, it is reasonable that Zhang Guilan lives in the countryside and did not follow Jiang Changyi to enjoy happiness.
In fact, many people in life do not want to live with their children.
Because of different living habits and different ways of work and rest, it is inevitable that there will be bumps and bumps together.
Zhang Guilan did not live with Jiang Changyi, but it does not mean that Jiang Changyi does not express filial piety, it may also be that Zhang Guilan is used to being diligent and thrifty, and is reluctant to spend.