Statement: Aunt Shen.
I've never served my own mother like this in my life.
The daughter-in-law went out of the house to go to the toilet, and then went back to the house to lie down.
For a hundred days, I had to go to bed all the time, except for going to the toilet, and I had to bring five meals a day to the bed.
But even with such intentions, she still dislikes me for not serving me well.
When my son comes back from work, she quarrels at every turn, and I feel sorry for my son's hard work, and his pressure will only get bigger and bigger.
I'm only 52 years old, and I've only been retired for two years, and I'm already living the hardest days.
My surname is Shen, 52 years old, and I was very envious when I saw my colleagues around me retire a few years ago.
When I was young, I also loved beautiful girls, and I went to the mall with my first salary to buy two new sets of clothes, and at that time I was the most fashionable in the workplace, and everyone was very envious.
I love to dress up, and I naturally have no bad requirements for my other half, but later I fell in love with a colleague in our unit, but my parents opposed it.
My parents disliked him for being born in the countryside and had a heavy burden after getting married, so they didn't agree with us being together, and my dad even prevented me from going to work for this.
This incident probably hurt my boyfriend's dignity, and he later proposed to break up with me, and at the same time resigned and went to the south, which we missed out on for the rest of our lives.
Because of the broken love, I was in pain for a long time, and my mother was so anxious that she felt that I was too old to get married and have children, and the neighbors around me wanted to see the jokes.
Then I was introduced to the people one after another, and I didn't want to talk about them after reading several of them, and then my husband appeared.
My husband's conditions were good at that time, his parents were both retired workers, he had 3 older sisters, he was the fourth, and he was the youngest and only son in the family.
I still remember the first time I went to my future in-laws' house, my mother-in-law burned a large table of dishes to entertain me warmly, and my mother-in-law was very satisfied with me, looking me up and down with a smile, stroking my back and saying:
Xiaoqing, my son is the only boy in the family, if you two become in the future, you have to take good care of him for me!
I talked to my husband for less than a year, and his family was anxious for us to get married, and my mother-in-law said that she was anxious to hold her grandson.
At that time, my mother was faintly worried, and my mother told me:
The son-in-law is the only son in the family, and there are 3 sisters above, you married in the past, and now your in-laws are good to you, if you give birth to a girl in the future, what can you do?
Fortunately, my mother's worries were unnecessary, and I gave birth to a white fat boy in the second year of marriage.
My mother-in-law was so happy that I gave me a big red envelope in the hospital, and gave a big red envelope to my grandson, and my mother-in-law took care of me closely, and I enjoyed the highest treatment in the family.
My son was also raised by his mother-in-law.
She was afraid that I would not be able to take it well, so I even had to sleep with me at night, and I enjoyed this leisure, as long as I went to work every day, I didn't even need to do housework when I came back, and every time I went back to my parents' house, my parents praised me, saying that I was lucky to marry such a good family.
After more than ten years of such a relaxed and comfortable life, my in-laws passed away one after another when my son was in junior high school.
Because I have been taken care of by my in-laws, to be honest, my husband and I are not very good at taking care of housework, especially my husband, who is used to being clothed by my in-laws to reach out for food and open his mouth, and he can't do anything, and he doesn't even help the oil bottle at home.
Since my in-laws left, I have lived a hard life, going to work during the day, going back to buy groceries and cooking at night, washing clothes, and taking care of their father and son.
I have been staying up like this, and then my son went out to college, and my life was a little easier, my husband and I had a simple meal, and after eating, I went to the square to dance.
When it comes to dancing, that's probably my biggest interest.
At that time, I also enrolled myself in a dance class, thinking that I would have the opportunity to perform after studying well, but I was not retired at that time, and I had no time during the day, and I could not participate in many activities organized by the dance class.
I was so envious of my retired friends who could find time to dance and participate in various competitions during the day and night.
I finally survived until retirement, I have already planned my retirement life, I want to travel first, run a few places I want to run, and come back to enjoy the joy of dancing.
But I didn't have a day like this, because as soon as I retired, my son brought back his girlfriend.
My son was in love behind our backs before, without saying a word, and then suddenly brought back his girlfriend and said that he was going to get married, and later I found out that it was because my daughter-in-law was pregnant.
We had no choice but to rush to talk to our in-laws about the marriage of our two children.
The woman's family didn't ask for a bride price, but the daughter-in-law didn't want to live with us, they wanted a separate house, and my husband and I took out all our savings and bought a 100-square-meter house for them with a down payment.
Next is decoration, buying furniture and appliances, holding a wedding, and when our son gets married, our family is almost hollowed out.
Seeing that I couldn't go to travel, I originally wanted to save two months' retirement salary before going, but my son came to me to take care of my daughter-in-law.
Since my daughter-in-law became pregnant, the fetal elephant has not been very stable, and when I was 4 months old, I was found to be twins, and everyone was very happy, but then my pain came.
My daughter-in-law quit her job when she became pregnant, and I took care of her at home all day.
I go to my son's house early in the morning, clean them, wash clothes, and then buy vegetables and cook for my daughter-in-law to eat, and wait until the evening to come home, many times I get home at 8 o'clock, looking at my husband sitting on the sofa watching TV, I can't get angry.
Thinking of me as a retired person, it is much harder than my husband who goes to work.
This is just the beginning, my daughter-in-law later gave birth to twin grandchildren, and my hard days really came.
My daughter-in-law is not a local, and when I gave birth, her mother came to take care of her for 2 days and went back in a hurry.
During my daughter-in-law's confinement, I took care of the child except for feeding the child, I coaxed the child to sleep, washed the child, and even at night the daughter-in-law refused to take the two children to sleep, so that the child slept in a room with me.
At night, the two children would cry and make trouble, and I could hardly sleep all night.
During the confinement, I had to get up every two hours, wash the child, send it to my son's room, let my daughter-in-law breastfeed, and then carry it back to my room one by one.
During the day, my daughter-in-law fell asleep, and I had to take care of the children, and I had to be busy cooking, and I had to wash clothes, and my daughter-in-law asked me to make 5 meals a day for her to eat.
Not only that, because of the problem of taking care of the child, my daughter-in-law had trouble with me several times, she quarreled with me, and my son came home and quarreled with my son, I was really distressed to watch.
Because I have to repay the mortgage, my son is under a lot of pressure, I thought that I would be tired and forget it, and let my daughter-in-law go out to find a job after 4 months, but she said that she would not go, but at home she did not take the children, and she either slept or ate all day long, or just watched TV on her mobile phone.
When my son was busy earning money to pay off the loan and raising two grandchildren, I asked my husband to subsidize him with money, but we had emptied our savings because we bought a house at the beginning, and we didn't have much money in our hands.
Now I am still taking my grandson at my son's house, contributing money and efforts, and I can't see a good face from my daughter-in-law.
She is also reluctant to go out to work, and outsiders understand that it is not easy for her to be a full-time mother with two children, but only I know that my grandmother is responsible for taking care of these two children.
Thinking about the two grandchildren who are not yet a year old, it will be more and more difficult to bring them in the future, and the daughter-in-law has a bad temper, and I am thankless for my efforts, I am really sad in my heart.
When I didn't retire before, I always felt that my life after retirement must be very happy.
Now that I think about it, when my son was not married, I went to work, and those days were the happiest.
Because once you retire, it means that your children are going to get married, we can't do as grandparents, so many dreams when I was young have come to naught, I knew that it was better to go to work every day, and when I got home from work, I would eat and watch TV, and go out for a walk, and that was the most comfortable day.