Hi, I'm Ai Hee.
For down-and-out girls, we will always feel admiration or appreciation for the appropriateness and grace they show.
Indeed, this type of person can always become the most dazzling person in the crowd, and it is easier to be recognized and loved by others.
Their down-and-out generosity is not only reflected in their external demeanor, but also stems from their inner tenacity and self-confidence.
This kind of self-confidence is not aggressive, but a calm and calm attitude, which makes people feel a calm beauty that is indisputable with the world.
Such a girl seems to have an invisible power that can stay calm in difficult situations and calmly face the twists and turns of life.
Next, let's take a look with Ai Hee and turn it into 5 micro-habits that are generous, let's shine together.
01.No inferiority, no arrogance
Everyone has times of low self-esteem and arrogance, but it is not easy to find a balance between these two extremes.
When you feel inferior, you should focus on doing what you do well and encourage yourself a lot.
And when you're too arrogant, try to put yourself in someone else's shoes, or look back at your past setbacks.
In fact, when you really become good, you will find that there are more important things that deserve your attention.
Don't envy anyone, don't look down on anyone, you have what others don't have, others have what you don't have.
Life should be treated calmly, neither humble nor arrogant.
02.Be bold and try
Shakespeare once said that what is otherwise hopeless, bold attempts, often succeed.
If you want to learn to write, don't hesitate; If you want to learn from yourself, you have to start acting immediately; If you want to make money, start now.
It's not that hard to be bold and do what you want to do, don't care what others think, you just need to care about your feelings.
Don't be afraid to lose, because even if you lose it will only be short-lived, but if you don't try, you will lose the endless possibilities that this thing can bring.
03.Be brave enough to say no
There are always some people who go against their true will to do something that they are not willing to do in their hearts.
Whether in the workplace or in interpersonal interactions, it is important to have an independent opinion, not to suffer in silence.
If a person lacks his own position and point of view, then he is like a puppet manipulated by others at work, not only his own work efficiency will be greatly reduced, but he is more likely to fall into an emotional trough.
In a social setting, such a person can also become a pathetic and unassertive wretch.
Haruki Murakami said: "Don't be too well-behaved, you can refuse what you don't want to do, don't force what you can't do, pretend not to hear if you don't like it, your life is not used to please everyone, but to be kind to yourself." ”
04.Learn to pamper yourself
There is a sentence in Jane Eyre that reads:
Be self-loving, and don't give your whole love, soul, and strength as a gift generously and waste it where you don't need it and despise it.
Deep down, many people think that they are not good enough to be loved.
Even when they achieve results and success, they will still attack themselves in their hearts, feeling that they do not deserve these honors and such success.
Please stop attacking ourselves and love ourselves well, this is what we have to do, and it is also our lifelong task.
Only when we love ourselves and value ourselves from the bottom of our hearts will we love others better.
05.Express yourself boldly
People who can express are always fragrant, which makes people listen to the spring breeze and feel happy; And people who can't express it are always dumb and can't say what they are suffering from.
We girls need to learn to express ourselves and not let others guess, because others are not roundworms in your stomach and cannot read our inner thoughts. Only by expressing your thoughts can others know your bottom line.
When the pain is expressed, someone will come to help you; Only when ideas and opinions are expressed can they influence others; Express your heart, and only then will someone like you.
As the saying goes, only crying children have milk, and only if you say it, only if you let everyone see what you want to be seen, can you really let everyone know about you.
Girls have to become down-to-earth and generous, be bold and shine fiercely, and make themselves beautiful and sassy heroines.