The movie is hot and piping hot
For the role of Le Ying in "Hot and Hot", Jia Ling used the adjective in an interview:
Very kind, very restrained, blindly giving and pleased.
In order to reflect Le Ying's pleasing personality, Jia Ling also spent a lot of thought on the adaptation of the script.
For example, he was disgusted and bullied by his sister for a long time, but he still transferred the house to his sister;
The best friend got together with her boyfriend, and brazenly asked her to be a bridesmaid, and she even agreed;
is not familiar with her distant cousin, but when the other party asks her to help record the show, although she doesn't want to go, she still accepts;
She didn't have any income herself, but when she knew that the fitness trainer wanted her to get a card, she did it anyway.
Under these "ironclad evidence", many people take it for granted that Le Ying is indeed a pleasing personality.
But is that really the case?
If you take a closer look at the life state of this character and the starting point of handling things, you will find how outrageous the behavior of promoting Le Ying is a people-pleasing personality!
The characteristics of the people-pleasing personality are generally as follows:
1. Willing to sacrifice their own interests rather than refuse the requests of others;
2. Treat other people's affairs more than your own, and never trouble others because of your own affairs;
3. Regard rejecting others as a big thing, and feel that you have made a big mistake;
4. When you are with others, you will always take care of each other's emotions, and you will not show it even if you are sad.
Put these characteristics on Le Ying, and everyone will find outShe does have these traits, but there really aren't many
First of all, if she is really a people-pleasing personality, then she will definitely not choose to gnaw at home after encountering setbacks in the workplace, and gnaw on it for 10 years!
People with a people-pleasing personality care a lot about what others think of them and then try to make others like them.
Le Ying gnaws at home, everyone hates her and looks down on her, if she is a people-pleasing personality, how can she accept that she makes others angry and annoying?
Secondly, whether it is choosing to transfer the house to his sister, or going to the wedding of his girlfriend and boyfriend, or promising his distant cousin to record a show.
Her starting point is not to make these people like her, but to think that by doing so, she can avoid some of the conflicts that can be encountered, or she doesn't want the other person to bother her all the time.
She cares more about how to make them not bother her all the time than getting their liking, and she doesn't want to be endlessly entangled with the same thing.
So, it's not so much that she's pleasing others, it's that she's always avoiding conflict with others.
Finally, Le Ying's behavior is actually more in line with the avoidant personality.
Because of the setbacks in the workplace, she didn't know how to deal with them, so she didn't go out to work and kept hiding at home to gnaw at the old;
Because I don't want to face cruel competition, I keep myself in a very sad state.
Her inner logic is:
I'm so sad and so failed, I must not be able to do anything, so I will do it in vain, it is better not to do it at all.
This is also one of the uncomfortable points of this film.
An adult in his 30s, who doesn't do anything every day and gnaws at home with an extremely poor mental outlookSuch a person is very annoying in itself, but the film makes everyone else a bad person, and everyone is full of malice towards the heroine.
But in real life, no matter who faces someone like Le Ying, no one can like and understand it!
Your family doesn't want you to be successful, but if you have hands and feet, you have to be at least self-reliant, right?
An adult who obviously has the ability to be self-reliant, but he chooses to gnaw at the old and raise himself into a 200-pound fat man, living as a walking corpse every day, why should others like it?
Therefore, promoting Le Ying as a people-pleaser personality is really the biggest joke in the film "Hot and Hot", which is simply stigmatizing people with a people-pleasing personality!