Two days ago, a fan asked me for help through a private message, he wanted to ask the leader for help to solve the problem of children's reading, he knew that the leader likes to drink tea, so he wanted to buy two boxes of good tea for the leader.
He asked me if it was appropriate for me to do this, and I answered him directly: not at all!
In daily life and the workplace, many "newcomers to society" and newcomers to the workplace mistakenly think that they can directly buy tea when giving gifts to leaders and customers.
Because tea is easy to buy, easy to carry, and most importantly, it is easy to find a statement when giving gifts to leaders.
But I'm going to tell you a truth:The old fritters all know that tea is a gift that cannot be given at all, and those who like to give tea are young men who have not entered the WTO.
Tea can only be used as a means of daily maintenance of relationships, and must not be used to ask people for errands.
Unless you know a lot about tea, and the other party also knows a lot about tea, don't give it away!
01. Opaque
There are a variety of teas on the market, the quality is difficult to judge, and the value is not clear is not sincere. Even well-known brands of tea may have the problem of **seriously deviating from the actual value and not being able to be realized.
Moreover, some leaders don't actually understand tea, let alone taste tea. No matter how expensive the tea you buy, no matter how good the words are, you will not be able to realize the true value of the tea you buy (who knows how much money the tea merchant hacked you). Even branded teas with a clear price may not live up to their name.
You want to send a box of tens of thousands of yuan of tea to express your sincerity to the leader, but the other party doesn't understand, and you may mistakenly think that you just spent hundreds of thousands of yuan casually.
Why is Moutai as valuable as banknotes? Because the market is transparent and easy to understand. There is no need to guess**, and there is no need to guess your "sincerity".
02. The impact is not good
There are even a small number of friends in the system who say that some leaders are more concerned about the meaning of teaBecause "tea" and "cha" are homophonic.
Now as long as there is a certain amount of power, they are worried about being investigated, so sending tea is regarded as having the meaning of damning the leader to be investigated. We are all taboo about this. If you send tea to the leader to dislike, it may affect the things you need to handle.
Give gifts, try to send cigarettes, alcohol, tobacco and alcohol to the other party happily received, if you consider giving money, be sure to send cash.
Accepting cash is the safest thing for leaders. That's why some old fritters like to carry cash. Because cash doesn't speak, and it doesn't leave a trace. If you transfer money directly through WeChat or Alipay, it won't be much fun.
Of course, if you really want to thank the leader, then it is most appropriate to observe the leader's life carefully and buy what he needs most.
If you're trying to please the mindset of your leader, then you should choose a gift that is easy to measure or easy to monetize.
It's not that tea can't be sent, but it means that try not to send it alone
Tea is just a disguise, a smoke bomb, a green leaf with safflower!
Tea is a great gift for unfamiliar visits. To put it bluntly, it is not polite to visit customers empty-handed, and it is just casual to take something in hand.
Do customers really like your tea? People know that this thing has no fixed value, and it is not easy to change hands**, and the tea you send out may not even be a one-handed gift.
How is the tea delivered?
Tea is given with liquor, cigarettes, or other precious specialties. On the one hand, this can make up enough gifts and appear rich and grand; On the other hand, it can also resolve the embarrassment of receiving gifts for the recipient and play a role in covering up the shame.
In the initial stage, try to downplay the act of giving gifts to dispel the concerns of the leader
When giving gifts to leaders, you should try to dilute the behavior of gift-giving, and it is best to choose some small gifts that are light and affectionate, such as fruits or dried fruits, and attach a thoughtful word. Especially when the relationship with the leader is not familiar, many leaders do not want to owe others favors.
Therefore, at this stage, gift-giving must be diluted in order to dispel many of the leaders' concerns. Let the leader feel that this is just a simple concern of the employee for the leader, so that whether it can be taken care of in the future work will not be a problem.
Be clear about your mindset and ideas, so that the leader can accept your small gift with peace of mind. As long as the leader can happily accept the gift, basically half of your purpose is half the battle.
In the advanced stage, try not to give cash to the leader, but to care
In fact, most people give gifts to their leaders out of affection, not because they have specific needs, they just want to express their feelings for their leaders and let them know that they value him, so that they can remember themselves when there are good things in the future.
Therefore, gift-giving is not about the value of the gift, but about choosing the right timing, practicality, and scarcity.
Remember not to give cash, because in some way it will make the leader feel embarrassed, think that you are giving a bribe, or asking for something, which will not really express your heart, and even make people afraid to accept it.
In the mature stage, when you have to ask for others, trust and sincerity are indispensable
When asking someone to do something and give a gift, you usually need to show your sincerity, such as how much you're willing to pay for a problem. Leaders are often concerned with reciprocal trade-offs, i.e., whether things can get done and how much risk there is.
Therefore, the most important thing in gift-giving in this situation is the relationship of trust between you and the leader. The aforementioned gift-giving methods all revolve around building basic trust.
If you don't even have basic trust in each other, no matter how much money you give, the leader will not dare to accept it. Even if he accepts it, but he can't do it, he is worried that it will affect him;If you give less money, the other party will naturally look down on you.
Therefore, the amount of money you give is also a reflection of your attitude and sincerity from another perspective.
In the workplace, gift-giving is a form of communication where people express their meaning to each other in different ways, such as giving their hearts, cash, or gifts.
Those with high emotional intelligence choose the most appropriate timing and gifts to interact with leaders or clients, both to maintain and enhance the relationship, and to achieve the purpose of cooperation or asking for help.
In simple terms,You give too much of this thing, and the feeling of asking for people's tone and words comes out, and everyone dares to ask for your things. If you send it less often, and you don't find your words and feelings, no one dares to ask for your things, for fear that you will immediately ask for a rate of return, and that it will be very troublesome after receiving it.
If you're a novice with no experience in gift-giving, it's normal that gifting an experienced leader might be rejected. You can choose to start with something simple, such as giving a gift to a security guard or doorman in the community, and the probability of success is more than 95%.
In interpersonal communication, many people lack tactfulness, communication skills or handling skills, and although they do a lot of work, they are never valued by their leaders, nor are they given the opportunity to be promoted, and they are not even helped by others when they ask for help.
This is because they don't understand the world and how to get along with others.
I hope today's article can bring you new insights and experiences, if you find it useful, please share it with your friends and family, and remember not to share it with your leaders