Mrs. Xing and You Shi, although they are both the eldest daughters of Jiafu, their reputations in Jiafu are very different. Although the two have many things in common, such as filling houses and having similar family backgrounds, their situations in the house are very different. Mrs. Xing was careful to please Jia Yu, and she did everything she wanted, turning a blind eye to her husband's indulgence and sexual indulgence, and she had no children.
She is stupid by nature, so she is not ashamed of Rong Mansion, and many activities exclude her. In the matter of begging for mandarin ducks, Jia Yu hid at home and did not dare to see Jia's mother, and Mrs. Xing set the province for the morning and dusk, and the people also stayed away from her. And You Shi is very skilled, and Jia's mother has sent her a few errands and is quite sure of her. Li Kun had a good relationship with her, and when Baochai moved out of the garden, the two looked at each other and smiled.
The main reasons why Mrs. Xing is isolated and You are popular are the following reasons: Mrs. Xing is stupid, and You is sensible; Mrs. Xing responds to Jia Yu's requests, while You Shi turns a blind eye to her husband's indulgence; Mrs. Xing had no children, and You had a good relationship with Li Kun.
After the mandarin duck's refusal to marry, we all knew the result. Jia's mother was so angry that even Jia Yu scolded her, and this couple, who were not welcomed in the first place, were even more disgraced. In the seventieth time, when Jia's mother was eating, Jia Yu sent someone to bring two dishes, but the mandarin duck glanced at it but said that he couldn't see what the dishes were, and he didn't move them to Jia's mother.
Jia's mother didn't even look at it, so she ordered it to be sent back as it was, and told Jia Yu that she didn't have to send it again in the future, and that she would tell him if she wanted to eat. This move undoubtedly made Jia Yu's status in Jia's mother's heart even lower. If they were willing to listen to the advice of others that day, why did they do this? What about Yous? On Sister Feng's birthday, Mother Jia took the lead in paying for Sister Feng's birthday banquet and ordered You to take full charge of it. After receiving the silver, You Shi felt that he didn't need so much, so he returned the money of a few big girls.
Aunt Zhao Zhou's two taels per person were also refunded. There is no need for You Shi to curry favor and buy these two hard-working people, but this shows that You Shi not only understands the world, but also has a kind heart. Mrs. Xing's character is inferior, but You is able to calm things and calm people. On Jia's mother's birthday, You Shi was busy until night before entering the garden, and found that the garden door was wide open, so he went to ask the mother-in-law in charge, but was snubbed by the mother-in-law.
You had no choice but to mention the matter to Zhou Rui's family, but the mother-in-law was so authoritative, she took it upon herself to tie up the two mothers-in-law on duty. These two mothers-in-law have a good relationship with Mrs. Xing's companion Wang Shanbao's family, so this companion came to ask Mrs. Xing for help. In front of everyone, Mrs. Xing smiled and said to Wang Xifeng: "I heard that you were angry last night, and you asked Steward Zhou's nurse to tie up two old women. I shouldn't have come to beg for mercy, but if you think about the old lady's good life, she always gave up money and rice to help others, and our family went to torture others.
For my sake, let's let them go for now. With that, he left in the car. Madame Xing's actions were extremely vicious. She first called Sister Feng "second grandmother" as her mother-in-law, and put Sister Feng in a place of unfilial piety; secondly, he is obviously the master, but he calls the slave "the grandmother of Zhou Rui's family", and his tone is full of mockery; In the end, after blaming Sister Feng, he didn't listen to her explanation and left directly. Madame Xing's behavior was despicable. As a party to this turmoil, Sister Feng just smiled after hearing that the two mothers-in-law were kidnapped, "You have too much to do" to show her attitude towards this matter.
In the incident of the two mothers-in-law, You Shi was not out of selfishness, but wanted to let Zhou Rui's family understand the rules of the housekeeper. The difference between Mrs. Xing and You is not only due to the difference in natural personality, but also due to the difference in the environment in which they live. You Shi's married life seems to be uneventful, but it is the dream of many women. She came from an ordinary family, but she became the eldest daughter-in-law of the Guogong Mansion, without the difficulties of her in-laws and the disputes between concubines.
Although her son is not biological, her daughter-in-law is very filial to her. Despite her husband's prowess**, he never used violence against her. You Shi's light-heartedness and Buddhism are partly due to natural character, but more often than not, they are derived from this harmonious family relationship.
In contrast, Mrs. Xing's life is full of challenges. Her husband Jia Yu is as lustful as Jia Zhen, but he is more violent, and he can beat his son to a bruised nose and swollen face. She was often scolded by her husband, which became commonplace. Mrs. Xing also has to face a shrewd mother-in-law, a concubine with a prominent family, and a powerful daughter-in-law. She is caught in these layers of relationships, and her life is like walking on thin ice. Her emotional intelligence and IQ do not seem to be enough to cope with such a living environment, and living under such pressure for a long time, Mrs. Xing has become more and more pessimistic and resentful.
Mrs. Xing married into the Jia family with a rich dowry, probably out of inferiority and insecurity. If the environment in Rongfu had been simpler, she might not have been so embarrassed. The environment has a profound influence on a woman's character. A harmonious environment will make a woman more gentle, supple, and loving; A bad environment can make them suspicious, wary and extreme.