Fangfang left her hometown, neither her mother-in-law's house nor her mother's home. The couple went to another country to earn a living and rented a place in a city that happened to be between their mother's house and her mother-in-law's house. In this way, although the life of the two is peaceful, it is quite inconvenient to travel back and forth to the hometowns of both parties. Fangfang needs to take a three- or four-hour train to return to her parents' home, and it is also inconvenient to go back to her in-laws' house.
Fangfang was even more reluctant to go back to her mother-in-law's house. When she returned to her parents' home, her mother prepared all kinds of food and supplies for her, so that she could enjoy the delicious food as soon as she arrived home and rest peacefully at night. However, going back to your in-laws' house is different. The mother-in-law wouldn't even prepare a glass of boiling water for them, so she had to do it herself when she got home. The in-law's house is located in the humid and rainy south, and the bedding is even more moldy if it is not dried for a long time. Moreover, there was only one train back to my mother-in-law's house, and it only arrived at 9 o'clock in the evening, and I was tired and sleepy when I got home. I had to support my tired body, endure sleepiness and boil water to take a bath, make my bed, and be busy until the early hours of the morning to fall asleep, and the bedding smelled musty. Fangfang felt very aggrieved every time, and her impression of her in-laws became worse and worse. Fortunately, Fangfang doesn't often go back to her mother-in-law's house, she only goes back to her parents' house and her mother-in-law's house once a year, and a few days of patience passes.
When Fangfang gave birth to her first child, given her mother-in-law's limited education level, she couldn't even understand Mandarin, and Fangfang couldn't understand her mother-in-law's dialect. Because he didn't have enough financial strength to hire a confinement wife, he had to ask his mother to serve the confinement lady. Fangfang's mother took care of her daughter and grandson for three months before leaving, and generously gave her grandson 1,000 yuan in parting.
Of course, Fangfang did not forget to let her husband send a red envelope of 2,000 yuan to her mother as a token of gratitude. And the mother-in-law not only did not go, but also did not give a penny for the birth of her grandson, and did not even prepare a diaper. It wasn't until Fangfang's child turned one year old and returned to her mother-in-law's house to celebrate her first birthday that her mother-in-law reluctantly took out 1,000 yuan as a meeting gift and two sets of clothes for the child.
In this experience of returning to her mother-in-law's house, Fangfang was aggrieved. She found that her mother-in-law knew that they would only come home in the evening, but she did not even prepare a glass of water. Moreover, the things that had been in the cupboard when they left were gone, and the utensils in the bathroom were removed. Faced with an empty stomach, Fangfang had to take her children and husband out to buy daily necessities, even if they only stayed at her in-law's house for a short time.
Fangfang's first child was a daughter, and her mother-in-law once said that she could have another one to join in the fun. Considering that her daughter might feel lonely, Fang Fang decided to have another one. She asked her husband to propose to her mother-in-law that if she had another child, her mother-in-law would have to take care of her during the confinement period, and she should not let her mother work alone. The mother-in-law agreed, saying that it was as it should be.
Two years later, Fang Fang became pregnant again. The husband went back to his hometown and asked his mother-in-law to take care of him. Due to the limited space, the mother-in-law can only live in the living room, which is no way to arrange.
However, the long time together provoked contradictions. The mother-in-law does not like to be clean, and spits in the house, although Fangfang asks her husband to remind her to pay attention to hygiene, but she secretly vomits behind the door. Fangfang was so angry that she had to lock the bedroom door, refuse her mother-in-law to enter, and eat in the bedroom with her children. This made her mother-in-law feel dissatisfied and rolled her eyes every day, but Fangfang didn't bother to pay attention to her.
At this time, Fangfang was already pregnant and had a large belly, so it became inconvenient to do laundry. My mother-in-law offered to help with the laundry, but she mixed all the clothes together, and did not separate her underwear and socks. Fangfang couldn't bear it anymore and asked her husband to remind her mother-in-law again, but her mother-in-law didn't help her wash her clothes anymore, so Fangfang could only reluctantly wash it herself, otherwise she would wait for her husband to come back and wash it.
When cooking, Fangfang reminded her mother-in-law not to put MSG and salt, because pregnant women and children should not eat too salty. However, my mother-in-law was used to the taste of seafood, so she still put a lot of MSG and salt. Fangfang asked her husband to say it again, but her mother-in-law didn't change and was unwilling to cook for her alone. Fangfang had to do it herself, otherwise she would only eat rice and no vegetables.
Fangfang was anxious about letting her mother-in-law take care of the child. One day, the mother-in-law poured five bottles of yogurt for the child and blew an electric fan on the child, causing the child to get sick. Fangfang therefore made up her mind not to let her mother-in-law watch the child anymore.
However, Fangfang began to think about her future troubles during confinement. She worries that her mother-in-law's irresponsibility will put her in trouble when she can't move. After her husband goes to work, she can get very hard. To make matters worse, the mother-in-law is illiterate, and if there is an emergency, she doubts that the mother-in-law will be able to take her and the child to the hospital, but also to take her daughter, which will be tricky if something goes wrong.
After much deliberation, Fang Fang decided that her best option was to ask her mother to come and help. She plans to let her mother take care of her and the children, while her mother-in-law takes care of some of the simple household chores, such as laundry, diaper washing and cleaning. So, she described the situation in detail to her mother, and her mother's worries about her daughter also made her hurry.
However, things get more complicated. When the mother-in-law saw her in-laws coming, she began to go out shopping on her own, not caring about the busyness of her daughter and granddaughter. She simply didn't care about housework, spent time outside all day, and waited for her son to come back after work, Fangfang could barely control it.
And the mother-in-law's eccentric behavior did not end there, she offered to go home, and insisted that her son send her personally. Fangfang's due date is approaching, and she expresses her concern to her husband: "Your mother can't go back now, I will give birth in two days, and then my mother will take me to the hospital, and my daughter will have to stay at home and be watched by your mother." You can't take your daughter to the hospital, can you? There are so many people in that hospital, my mother is already busy enough to take care of me, and she can't bear to take a child to go! ”
Although Fangfang's husband understands her concerns, his mother ignores them and insists on returning home. Fangfang's husband said in embarrassment: "If you insist on going back, I can't help but send you." I want to send you back tomorrow, and the tickets have already been bought. ”
As the conflict deepens, Fangfang finds herself in a difficult situation.
Fangfang vented at home: "Are you afraid that your mother will disappear or are you worried that she will be trafficked?" She's so old, who would kidnap her? Even if you kidnap it, you can't sell it! Who would want an old woman? Let her get out of here! If you dare to send her, don't come back and live with your mother! Fangfang's husband was caught in the middle, torn between a dilemma. He had been anxious all night, unsure of what to do.
Early the next morning, Fangfang decided to go. Her mother hurriedly picked up the luggage that had been prepared and went out with her daughter. When Fangfang's husband saw this scene, he quickly arranged for his mother to take care of his daughter at home so as not to cause any more trouble. Then he quickly caught up. Fangfang's mother saw that her son-in-law was quite considerate, and she didn't send his mother to him, so she didn't say anything, because the most important thing at this time was her daughter.
Fortunately, Fangfang was the second child, and the production process went more smoothly, and it only took half a day to give birth to a boy. Fangfang's husband was very happy, and he took care of him in the hospital for a few days wholeheartedly.
After Fangfang was discharged from the hospital, her husband continued to go to work while his mother was busy taking care of her and the newborn. The daughter didn't want to stay with her grandmother, so she played alone at home. The mother-in-law only changed the diaper of her little grandson, while Fangfang and her daughter's clothes were washed by Fangfang's mother.
A few days later, Fangfang accidentally discovered that her mother-in-law was actually washing the child's diapers with a mop bucket, which made her very angry. She immediately asked her husband to send her mother-in-law away, because her mother-in-law not only did not act properly, but also always made her angry. After the mother-in-law left, life finally returned to tranquility, and Fangfang finally lived a comfortable confinement.
However, since then, Fangfang's relationship with her mother-in-law has become even worse. When I used to go to her mother-in-law's house, my mother-in-law would always smile, and Fangfang would affectionately call her "Mommy". Now, the mother-in-law has a straight face when she sees Fangfang, but Fangfang turns a blind eye, and the relationship between them is like that of strangers. Fangfang's husband was also helpless and couldn't persuade both parties, so he could only watch helplessly.
Conclusion: This Fangfang's mother-in-law is really a troublemaker, she is both unwilling to pay and stubborn to death. And Fangfang's husband didn't do much, he couldn't persuade his mother, he couldn't control his wife, and he didn't even have enough courage to divorce and find a better one. For Fangfang, it is not wise to divorce at the moment, after all, the child has been born. She just wants to live a life without being wronged, and she can just wait for the child to grow up. Although the mother-in-law is not young, it is impossible to go on like this forever, and when the mother-in-law dies, all the unhappiness will disappear. List of high-quality authors